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I had been in an abusive relationship for eight years and finally got out but I am realizing not only did it take a toll on me it took a toll on my daughter. My daughter is six years old and she doesn't act like other children. Right now my ex-husband and I share joint custody. When it's time to go to her dad's house she doesn't want to because she says he always questions her about me and my new life and she says it makes her sick. It's been really hard on the both of us since she was a child all she heard was the arguing the pushing and shoving but now I feel as though it may be too late to reverse the cycle. I want her to be happy but now it's like what can I do. I try to do a lot of activities with her just one on one that we missed out on but its like I'm not reaching her. She just rather be alone, she doesn't like other children but the worst thing is people dont seem to like her and it hurts me. I can't talk to her she has just gotten so mean what should I do?

2007-09-11 02:00:15 · 7 answers · asked by t-t-n1979 1 in Family & Relationships Other - Family & Relationships

7 answers

You should treat him in a better way.

2007-09-11 02:20:33 · answer #1 · answered by Rana 7 · 0 1

Get her into family counseling....

(Not group counseling with her peers, because she can get involved with a lot of other kids who are really messed up...you need to go in with her for family sessions).

This will help them
1. evaluate her state.
2. Help the two of you talk to each other about what happened in the past, and make amends.
3. Show her that things do change for the better.
4. Help her grow up with healthy views of relationships, her father, and men in general.

2007-09-11 09:07:39 · answer #2 · answered by gg 7 · 1 0

Tell her everyday that you love her and when she needs you the most you will always be there.

You and your ex do need to take responsibility for your actions though, she is a desperate little girl screaming on the inside, you will need lots of patience to help her get through this.

2007-09-11 09:06:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

she is sad / she loves dad ,she is confused she loves you dont worry ,she has enough trouble dealing with you and dad she dosnt need the added pressure of the outside world at the moment,time for you and dad to mend the fence for her sake,not get back to gether but show her that both of you can love her and not competing, im sorry i have seen this in my niece she turned out all right

2007-09-11 09:11:02 · answer #4 · answered by matty60 4 · 0 0

She has problems. You can try to keep her from any type violance or arguing. Far as her dad, there is nothing you can do there, he's an idiot. Despline will help when she is mean. The proper kind of despline.

2007-09-11 09:08:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

She needs counselling hon, as you say she's has experienced trauma's in the relationship and it has affected her, so she has become withdrawn. Check in to your local G.P. and he'll recommend a child counsellor, they can be a great help to her. She'll turn around, you'll see. good luck and have a great day.

2007-09-11 09:14:10 · answer #6 · answered by wheeliebin 6 · 0 0

Man... i dunno, but i think i'd talk to her pediatrician and/or get a child psychologist.

2007-09-11 09:05:52 · answer #7 · answered by gigage_unole 1 · 2 0

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