My husband bought me a Nintendo hand held console for my 30TH birthday. I had been hinting for months that i wanted a nice ring i had seen in a jewelers. I smiled and said thank you when he gave me the nintendo but I dont play computer games of any sort and it's not really my thing. So i sold it on ebay. My husband was a bit upset when i told him.
Do you think i was right?
2007-09-11 01:35:07 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You should have sold your husband on e bay.
2007-09-11 01:40:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 10⤊ 3⤋
It sounds like you didn't discuss things with your other half. How long did you have the console before you sold it? Did you consider asking your other half if he would take it back for a refund and that you've seen a beautiful ring that would mean so much more to you than a games console?
Us husbands do NOT work well with hints, we need affermative direction, although, having said that, maybe you'll get the ring for an anniversary or christmas and you've scuppered your Hubbies plans by returning the original 'diversionary' gift? You have to think, why did he buy me something i wouldn't use, it does sound like he was planning a bigger suprise later on, when you weren't expecting it, now you may have spolied what could have been a well laid out plan thus he is upset. I know I would be. Communication, communication, communication.
Hope you get ya ring. :-) x
2007-09-11 01:46:20 · answer #2 · answered by A and L D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, the childishness of the responses here are staggering. He gave you a gift, and you sold it, and every woman responding thinks you're right because the gift wasn't something that you really wanted. Wow. I just have to say. Wow.
Picture this. You go out to buy a gift for your husband. A nice piece of jewelry (let's say a man-style wrist chain). It cost around $300. He really wanted an X-Box (also $300). So, he got the chain, smiled and said thank you. He then sold it on ebay, and bought an X-Box. You were a bit upset when you told him. Do you think he was right?
2007-09-11 01:53:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
why weren't you just honest with him about how you felt about the gift? perhaps tell him that while you appreciate the thoughtfulness in getting you a gift, that you wonder how he came about the decision to purchase you a video game console...since you are not interested in video games. I would also tell him that while you appreciate he may be trying to get you to try new things, you really wish he had consulted with you about whether you were interested in learning anything about video games. I would tell him that rather than spend money on something that he knows may not be your cup of tea, he should either take you along when he purchases something if he isn't sure what you want....or give the money to a charity that you love. Just some thoughts. Some guys just don't get it...but the old saying goes, people usually buy gifts for people that they wish they would receive themself. Good luck...it won't be easy to tell him without offending him or hurting his feelings.
2007-09-11 01:46:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What possesed your husband to buy you a Nintendo if you don't play computer games? Did he get it cheap? Nevertheless, I think he has a right to feel upset that you have sold it, perhaps you should have told him of your intentions first. Next time, as it sounds like he doesn't take hints easily, tell him what you want outright.
2007-09-11 01:42:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
I think your husband was looking forward to having a handheld computer game for himself. For his birthday buy him the ring you want. (smile) I hope he has a sense of humor.
2007-09-11 01:53:31 · answer #6 · answered by mcneiltony 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should'nt sell a gift from some-one on ebay or anywhere else, especially having not told him before hand. As for the ring maybe he just forgot or saving that for valentines or Christmas.
2007-09-11 01:43:56 · answer #7 · answered by LouLou 4 · 4⤊ 1⤋
I can't believe the responses in here! To sell the gift, regardless of what it was, without first telling your husband was extremely selfish & childish.
If you believed that he bought it for his own use then what sort of a relationship do you have that you can't even broach the subject with him.
If you were my wife & you did the same thing to me - I'd be more than a bit upset..........& so would you also end up being a bit upset.
For a different reason though!
2007-09-11 01:46:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 3⤋
Totally! What a git your husband is! Hope you got enough for it to buy yourself a nice ring
2007-09-11 03:28:17 · answer #9 · answered by ChocLover 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have probably discussed it with him and asked it to be returned to the store to swap for something else.
Or maybe for his next birthday you should buy him something he definitely won't want, like a self help book about Wives and Communication and see what action he takes?
Worth a thought!
2007-09-11 01:42:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Completely right. Its YOUR birthday! He was insensitive and thoughtless, so what, now he thinks you're insensetive for selling it.
Buy a gorgeous ring with the money, then tell him its let you get the gift you really wanted and thank him. Maybe you weren't clear enough when dropping hints, but it can be resolved in a nice way.
2007-09-11 01:42:09 · answer #11 · answered by Tartan Duck 5 · 2⤊ 3⤋