Back in 2005 i lost twin girls at 5 1/2 months and a baby boy when i was 11 weeks pregnant and i was very depressed ...sometimes i still am..and i call their names out hoping that i hear a "yes mommy" and i dont so i yell at them for not answering me....i was looking forward to my babies and having a good life with them...i still miss them but sometimes i dont think im ok in the head....i have a son now and i love him to death but im still trying to cope with the death of my children...is there anyone with any advice on how i can be happier and not worry my husband so much ?..i tell him so much of how i feel and i worry him but i need to talk about it...any advice?
2007-09-10 21:39:45 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Yes it is normal and my deepest sympathies to you. It must have been really awful for you. One cannot put a date on when grief must end, so don't even try to. Disregard everyone's advice and listen to your heart and your feelings and travel through this, don't fight it. It's good, very good to talk about them. The more you talk about them, the better it is for you in fact. If you can't find a kind ear, then talk to a counsellor. Write about them, pour everything out - you never know if publishing this as a book would help others. There are websites where you can place tributes to your twins and baby boy - light candles, etc. And you can join up with Compassionate Friends an organisation for people who have lost children. Be proactive for your own mental wellbeing. You will do yourself and your family a favour by honouring the short unborn lifeline of your twins and your little unborn son.
2007-09-10 21:53:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey there,
Loss of a child at any stage is a very hard thing to cope with. Counselling helps and I have personal experience with this. As dose mothers group for women that have been through a similar situation.
I am planning a tattoo on my back for all of my children. Those I have with me in the flesh and those who I have only in spirit. I hope that by doing this it will give me a tangible remembrance.
There is nothing anyone here can say that will make you feel better. For that I am sorry. But there is hope in learning to cope. For your new son's sake and your own, please seek help.
I wish I could be of more help or support, but I live in Australia and can only interact via web with the rest of the world.
I wish you all the best with your difficult journey.
2007-09-11 04:58:05 · answer #2 · answered by stootsma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
time,time time,I have lost 3 children and I was crying about them an hour ago,it has been 9 ears 4 1 of them and 5 years for the other 2,some days are better than others,maybe get some grief counseling!! Good Luck
2007-09-11 04:45:15 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Its okay to cry and to talk about it until you are fine, but don't let it get to the little boy you are with now because as he grows he may see that you loved the others more than him and you still cry after such a long time. Just pray and let God answer your problems and until you give his your heart problems he will see you through and i believe that GOD cannot give something and is too hearvy for you to handle he knew that you were going to be a strong woman and much more stronger. i am so sorry about your kids...
2007-09-11 05:02:43 · answer #4 · answered by Thembi N 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't even imagine how you must feel but I would seek professional counseling specific to losing your children. Maybe even a support group. Sometimes men don't get us women. Prayer helps too. I'm sorry for your losses.
2007-09-11 04:44:33 · answer #5 · answered by Precious 7 · 4⤊ 1⤋