I have recently suffered the loss of a loved-one; two of my (grown) children just smashed up ones car, and are suffering with injuries; my friends and other relatives all live thousands of miles away, and I'm having such a rough time dealing with all of it, I think that I may be imposing upon acquaintances whom I hardly know...just to try to cheer myself up.
BTW, I did speak to a doctor and a therapist, and am taking medication for severe, cronic anxiety. Any help appreciated....
2007-09-10 20:35:09 · 16 answers · asked by Holiday Magic 7 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
D: I'm not going into all of the details with anyone (I've even left a lot out here), but I feel myself practically begging people to spend time with me--neighbors, etc.--even a couple of people from here--who I don't know at all. The doctor said it will pass...but it seems to be going on for too long.- - - - -
Crypt: Thanks for your kind words, and I think you may be right about me needing to get away with a good friend...
2007-09-10 21:08:50 · update #1
Also, though I have always had anxiety problems--what's going on right now with me is totally out-of-character. It's like I'm watching and listening to someone else...
2007-09-10 21:23:58 · update #2
I would have liked to give
Thank you for all of your kind answers, suggestions, and for being so understanding.
2007-09-11 15:05:10 · update #3
Wow! thats a tuffy! I'm sorry to hear that, I know how you feel though, my brother was diagnosed with liver cancer and I couldnt get the balls to call him for months, and when I did I explained how I felt, that i was impossing on him and his life. so please excuse me for not APPEARING caring, I just tryed to put myself in his place and didnt think he would want bombardment of "poor him" he set me straight and we talked and talked and still talk.
i guess im going off the wrong end here, but what im trying to say is SPEAK UP and you will see or find those that REALLY TRULY want to help you, we are all human, and have the same fears, loves, and probelms, just state your feelings to all that are there and see what happens.
good luck!
words dont really hurt, its holding back that hurts the most.
kind of stupid thing to say but, verbalization is what makes things work.
sorry if this comes out wrong.
and I still want to go to ALASKA, with my sister in law and your welcome to come along for the trip! smile! (no husbands, please, heehee)
and bring another girlfriend, we will have a girls fun trip out on the ocean!
take care! and I mean it!
i thinkyou would be a cool person to really know.
there i said my peace and hope you do well.
2007-09-11 10:05:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have read the answers and am struck by one thing. Apart from the first 2 answers you have received nothing but encouragement, 14 out of 16.
I know if I had such problems I would take a great deal of encouragement from the replies, so I think you are on the way there.
Sure we all may be strangers to one another, but we all have one thing in common, compassion.
Good Luck and have a Happy Days.
2007-09-11 09:44:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i understand that one of your problem's is loneliness but friendship's are something that have to be built over time. so though you are wishing thing's will speed up it's better to take it slow with other ensuring a more likely hood of keeping those aquantances then to lose all the possible people you could have had.
though you might be going through something's new freind's people in geral like to be around positive people. your down i get it but you can be a positive friend by just hanging out and having fun instead of bringing baggage on the trip to the movies or out to the coffee shop.
it will take some training. but keep the negative to your counsolor and bring the positive to your friend's.
if you have a really old friend back at home it would be appropriate to lay it out on them. cus they know you for who you are. they already know that your sweet kind and all the good stuff so are not going to shy away from a friend in need.
or talk to your family. go up there for a visit seriously
good luck
2007-09-10 21:26:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you are imposing.
I actually think you are doing yourself some good by being with people, instead of just lying in bed feeling depressed.
You also don't want to bring others down.
If they are not really close to you, they might not be able to give you what you need to feel better.
I think that having a good conversation on the phone with your real family, and friends would be better. They TRULY love you!
I wish you lived next door to me.
I'm one neighbor that would let you hang out as long as you want. Being with the life force is really a great way to overcome sadness.
Lots of love to you, and keep your head up!â¥â¥
2007-09-10 21:22:06 · answer #4 · answered by ♥♥Peas♥♥ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i don't think so.. I guess it is your way of coping to the loss of a loved one and also the stresses that you are having at the moment. plus the fact that your relatives (that could be a source of psychological support) are living miles away.
your medication may be having its effect on your system that you feel light hearted despite your problems. i suggest you consult a psychiatrist or a doctor so that they can diagnose you and prescribe a better medication. you may be taking a wrong pill so professional help is still the best way.
you can also joing cell groups that offers programs for people with severe anxiety disorder..
2007-09-10 20:59:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You will be surprised at how much love and respect there is out here for others in pain.
I lost a contact through her death and passed the news onto others in the form of a question and was surprised at the number of answers I received and email.
There are some of us who are only an email away.
2007-09-11 07:38:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You've got enough stuff going on right now, and you're worried about being insensitive to people you hardly know? Wow... You need a vacation. And a friend. How about going on a vacation with a friend?
2007-09-10 20:42:16 · answer #7 · answered by Crypt 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
as with all things traumatic it is difficult to sway away your troubles over loved ones. Fretting and fidgiting seems to be a response where You may be unable to actually do anything physical to alleviate suffering.
Staying in contact with all concerned is just about the only thing I can think of for support for you and to stay updated just to stay in the loop and monitor progress
2007-09-10 20:45:14 · answer #8 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
as long as your friends are not getting annoyed I'd say no your not imposing, they know its a hard time for you and that you need people around you, if they start saying for you to back off then they are the insensitive ones not you.
2007-09-10 20:43:33 · answer #9 · answered by Lolli R 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go and volunteer at a hospital to share your story with others in your situation. Or you could volunteer at a women's shelter, or other non-profit organization that helps others. This helps you and will help others. There are also groups you can join with people who have similar situations.
2007-09-10 20:43:22 · answer #10 · answered by AveGirl 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋