8th Grade Love Problem [Im a boy]?

Question

Okay here it is. Sorry if its confusing ><
In 7th grade i slow-danced with the girl of my dream. I knew her since earlier but really started being her friend in 6th. Okay after the slow-dance she asked my friend if the dance was a bet, he said no, when it really wasn't a bet, but all my friends think so because i slow-danced with her, when before we betted on getting to dance even tho i said no.I didnt realize he told the girl it wasnt a bet until 5 months later, so since i thought she thought it was a bet and since she stopped talking to me i thought she hated me so we kind of stopped talking until. beginning of school year[8th] shes still not even saying hi or replying to my hi's. So what should i do? See now i cant tell if she likes me, is mad at me for the bet cuz she thinks i betted, or shes mad at me for not talking to her? also i found out she wanted to slowdance with me at the end of the school.. but she mightve changed over summer plz help i rly like her ALOT real answers plz

Answer 1

I think you're way too focused on this betting thing. Your question is so full of contradictions I can't tell where you stand but it sounds like she has been refusing to speak to you at least since school started and maybe for several months. If she won't speak to you, that's a bigger problem than whatever happened last year.

If you're right that her suspicion of betting wrecked your relationship, then she's incredibly immature to hold a grudge over this for several months. If she's giving you the cold shoulder because she's just not interested in you (which I think is more likely), then she's incredibly rude. Either way, I think you should rethink why this is the girl of your dreams.

If you can't let her go, then instead of confronting her directly, I think you should enlist a more trustworthy third party to try to broker a peace settlement. I wouldn't get my hopes up, however. Her experimenting with relationships and rude behavior is more about her figuring out who she is than actually forming relationships.

Answer 2

ask him out, be tough and make the 1st move!! When i was in 8th grade i had like the same thing happen and the next year i found out (when i had a boyfriend) that guy had a huge crush on me and wanted to date me. We never ended up dating but we both really wish we would have. Now we have gone are separate ways and i'm happy in my relationship of almost 6 years but i still wish to this day i would have dated him. And when ever i see him i still think he's hot and about all the fun times we shared Oh and for the other guy tell him to grow up and leave you alone!!

Answer 3

I had trouble understanding you question, if it was a question. What is "betted"? But these things remind me what 7th graders do. It still hurts but it is just part of the dance of growing up. Try to not let it get you down. In a few months, or even less, you will be on to someone or something else. Good Luck

Answer 4

the only thing i could tell you is this. Women are cofusing. it has been a long time sense i was that age, but i remember a few things. first off if you are really interested, and want to know whats up with her. Just stop her and talk to her. call her anything. make the first move, if she is interested still she will appriciate the fact that you came after her. The other fact is she is young and they love to play mind games, so good luck with that. I would say talk to her. if the bet thing is a problem. tell her how it really went down that night and explain yourself. good luck

Answer 5

OK, this might not be the best idea. But, one things chicks dig is confidence, trust me it works. (plus you feel better about yourself to!)

What you want to do is either:

1. Just ask her out to a movie! and do not make it an action movie or horror movie unless she suggests it.

2. Send her a note, but hand it directly to her! Third parties can block you from your goals.

3. Ask her out...point blank...Would you like to go out with me... something like that.

The worst thing that can happen...aliens take over the world.lol...but seriously, she could say no. But are you going to stew over "will she say yes" "will she say no". Don't! Action or regret? I chose action. But that's another story.

Answer 6

wait a minute it WASNT a bet right ?
hmmhm.
well i believe that she's acting like that cause shes embarassed that " it was a bet " even though its not. she doesnt know that.
so if you want to talk to her again, you should just talk to her and tell her that it was a misunderstanding and yeaaa.
and i know the feeling, she feels awkward because she thinks all of your guy friends talk crap about her... all girls feel like that .
but yea just talk to her and tell her the truth :]
goooood luck !

Answer 7

honey, u problem is a bit complex. but i think the only way out is talking about it. i know she's not speaking to u. but u cud try n corner her. u cud get one of her friends to arrange a meeting. whatever u do, do it gently and respectfully. n give her the whole truth. tell her all, including ur feelings for her. give her time to absorb it n if she wants, to think about it. if she sees ur being gentle yet truthful, she might forgive u. all the best n may God bless u.

Answer 8

HERE'S A TIP FROM SOMEONE WHO HAS EXPERIENCE; Girls want YOU to make the first move. They want YOU to explain or ask them questions if you need to. Don't be afraid. She was probably so insecure from your male childish bets that it left her head reeling. Quit asking us and talk to HER! Don't be immature.. your bets were.

Answer 9

just speak to her. speculation isnt going to solve anything. She might be waiting for you to make the move to speak to her first, because thats what a lot of girls think the guy should do. i used to think like that. and hey, it shows maturity on your behalf if you're willing to speak to her first to resolve this. obviously you care about this girl, so suck it up and just speak to her.

good luck darl

Answer 10

If you have her email address, ask her in an email so no one else will be around. Explain the situation & ask her how she feels about the situation.