ok so im stuck, theres this girl that i like and weve been talking for a month or 2 now. shes been in sum bad relationships so i try to keep my distance, i dont want her to think im trying to get her back in another relationship. i see her twice a week when we go clubbing and we talk thru out the weekdays. heres the thing i always see myself going to her like approaching her and calling her. she does approach me but not as much as i do, plus i am more of the aggresser. i really want to call her, but then again i dont want to, i dont want it to seem as though im constantly bugging her, shes as kids and all so am i doing to much. i know im still in the friend zone which is fine with me cuz i told her we'd move at her pace. shud i call, wud u?
2007-09-10 16:48:20 · 16 answers · asked by orange_crush_05 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
plus she called me on saturday at 2 47 in the morning i was pissed i didnt hear it ring lol
2007-09-10 16:48:48 · update #1
In your situation, I'd call.
You mentioned that you said you would move at her pace, so I'm assuming she knows you're interested, she's just unsure of herself. You need to reassure her that you're there, anytime. Missing her call is no big, but if it's that late at night, what your friend had to say was definitely important, and you should call right back. Also, if she's a mom, I'd definitely try to reach some kind of equilibrium with the kids, because the keys to every mother are her children.
No mater the gender of the person the single mother is dating, children are naturally going to either feel jealous of the attention their mother gives you or they'll like you straight out. And it's different with every kid; if she's got two roughly the same age, usually they'll have opposite reactions.
So board games, or just toys in general would be a good idea. If you're at all serious about the mom, you really have to pay attention to the kids. And that'll give you more reasons to hang out with her. She can't always go clubbing and just hang out; she's got to be there for her babies, no matter the age. Also, babysitting is expensive, and if a family member is doing it for free, make sure you let that family member know you appreciate her/him looking after your interest's kids. Not only is it polite, but they'll be more willing in the future to help out the mom, and you might even score points with the mom.
Anyways, I would call and try to figure out whether your friend is still interested at the very least.
2007-09-10 17:27:45 · answer #1 · answered by dorkpangs 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should call her. I am in a sort of same situation with my friend that I might have feelings for. I wasn't too sure to txt her some times so we could just talk. Most of the time I would talk my self out of calling her but then she contacted me. I think you should call because if she calls you at 2:30 in the morning I think she is very confortable comunicating with you.
2007-09-10 18:07:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call her, see if you can come over, bring a movie and order out for pizza, for you her and the kids. Break ground in a new territory of friendship. I know being a friend to the kids is a big deal for moms. That will give you more reasons to call in the future, kids soccer games, whatever...
2007-09-10 16:55:51 · answer #3 · answered by crystal89431 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she's not up for a lesbian relationship it will be a bummer for her. Calling you late at night once is hardly a come-on for a sex romp. On the other hand, she might as well know the truth before she trusts you further.
2007-09-10 17:03:12 · answer #4 · answered by richard d 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this happened to me, I still like the girl but I just keep talking to her like if we were best friend. and then she loved me because I was the only one that she can trust and Hold a secret etc. You should call her and tell her how your really feel
2007-09-10 17:15:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call her, there is no need for you to play games with yourself. It is better to know then not to know if you have a chance. You are talking yourself in and out of a lot of things by second guessing yourself.
2007-09-10 16:54:35 · answer #6 · answered by ©Diva© 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
words serve no purpose when you like someone it's all about the body language. It's all about what she is say in her gestures. You can put many meaning on words and come tomany different conclusion. read the signs. GOOD LUCK (^_^)KAY
2007-09-10 18:12:27 · answer #7 · answered by kay b 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Accessories.
2016-05-17 04:12:12 · answer #8 · answered by kaci 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call her than call me so we can throw a big hot, wild party. wink-wink
2007-09-10 19:12:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she rang you that late then I think you're in. Call her.
2007-09-10 16:52:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋