that Im bi?
Its the hardest thing ever....i have been trying to tell them forever and i keep chickening out....
my parents dont really like people like me....it makes me mad.....cause I wanna tell them I just think im gonna do it wrong and there gonna be mad=[
how should I tell them?
2007-09-10 16:13:44 · 18 answers · asked by brianna<3 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Start slow by standing up to them when they make comments about gay people or bisexual people, Do not be rude, stay calm and say stuff like that is not funny to jokes and that kinda mean when they make comments until they get used to your point of view this may take a while. Parents are not stupid they know you and love you and will love you but you must also realize they are human before you tell them prepare for the worst case scenario but hope for the best. Which ever parent you feel more comfortable is the parent to sit down with first and I would not use the term by try saying i am attracted to both men and women and I have been afraid to open up to you
Your parents want you to not ever be afraid to tell them anything although being human they do not make it easy
Divide and conquer telling them together will allow the one that is more accepting no chance to think it through for them-self they will jump line with the less accepting parent to form a united front
STAY CALM NO MATTER WHAT IS SAID that is going to be most important
2007-09-10 18:45:25 · answer #1 · answered by A D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 56 have a 28 and 30 year old and often wondered how I would react if they told me this. I love them so so much I would still love them. No matter what. Often things hard to say are best said in writing because you can think it over mull it over and get it right before you say it and you don't have to be there for their emotional reaction which at first might not be a pleasant one.
2007-09-10 23:17:38 · answer #2 · answered by I Love Jesus 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not gay, but I used to be in group therapy with someone who was gay and he had what I thought was a good idea. This guy brought his mom and dad to a therapist and told them in front of the therapist and had the therapist act as a moderator. Therapists are trained to deal with a large array of human emotions, including all the negative ones, and if your parents act irrationally and get upset with you, a therapist will stop them from crossing any lines they'll regret later.
I wish you the best in telling them. I hope they keep in mind how much they love you and accept your life.
2007-09-10 23:30:06 · answer #3 · answered by Kenny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd write them a note tell them how you feel, your worries and how difficult this is for you. You can leave it for them before you leave for some place so by the time you get back they'll have time to process it. I suggest you go see a movie so you won't be thinking about their reaction the whole time. Then hopefully you can enjoy yourself. My friend who was bi did this and it worked for her. Her parents weren't thrilled but they finally accepted it.
2007-09-10 23:23:58 · answer #4 · answered by Robyn H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All I'm going to say here is this: Your parents love you more than you will ever know. You will find the right time and way to tell them, and after it's done, you will realize that parents will always love their children, even if they don't agree with their lifestyl
2007-09-10 23:18:38 · answer #5 · answered by E to the Jay 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well I think you should tell them, but thats all on you if you ready, i think its best that you tell before they walk in on you doing something.. and if something bad happens if you do just know I'm a supporter as long as your a happy, I have a daughter and if she comes to me to tell me that I can see how much she trust me and confines in me, but thats just me though... we all find love some where and if God says gays are wrong I wonder why he even allowed it to happen? some things in the bible are so corrupt you cant tell if its the truth anymore but if you have God in your heart and this is what makes you happy... be happy!!! as far as how.. theres never a good way to tell something to a relative that they see "unfit" just say what you have to say and live your life, they can't live it for you and know no matter what there blood runs in you they will love you, they might be mad and judgmental but they love you
2007-09-11 00:45:01 · answer #6 · answered by needstoknow 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what makes me mad? Nothing.
Anyways if you want to tell them maybe try starting with some sort of passive approach like, "I feel like I'm bisexual." Play around with their minds, ease them into it, and if you need to explain to them the biological basis (whether it applies or not to your case). Maybe tell them that you don't want to be and then just say you can't change ect, I'm not sure but that is the way I would go. Good luck.
2007-09-10 23:20:41 · answer #7 · answered by Someone 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
How about engage in a discussion about people being bi. Then just tell them. Stop tormenting yourself. If they are as anti as you suggest, be prepared your home comfort zone may be shakey.
Good luck.
2007-09-10 23:29:33 · answer #8 · answered by enigma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the question is this, how old r u? if u r under 18 dont, they will kick u out, they may stop paying ur tuition.they may not help u anymore if they r sooo old school and close minded, if they really love you, even though they will get upset nd scream and all bs, they will accept you, u r their blood, u know them more than anybody, how u think they will reatc? if that answer is awful dont
2007-09-10 23:23:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm straight and it's hard for me to say.
I would guess if you are asking us than you are probably not ready. I'd say just don't tell them yet and just wait til you feel the time is right.
2007-09-10 23:21:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋