ok...I am a college student. I am use to knowing everybody because I came from a very very small high school. And then to go from small high school to big college. I guess I really dont know have to talk to people I dont know. All of my friends are off at different colleges so....I really dont have friends at the college. How can I fix my problems??????
2007-09-10 16:00:00 · 5 answers · asked by Cheyenne S 1 in Education & Reference ➔ Higher Education (University +)
Get out there! Join a club, sign up for a community service project, meet people from your school via Facebook. (Sometimes, if you're shy, it's easier than meeting face to face right away.) I promise, you will find your place if you get out of your room and take advantage of what your school has to offer.
Good luck.
2007-09-10 16:10:13 · answer #1 · answered by kimpenn09 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Cheyenne, I know how you feel. I was homeschooled through high school, so my group of friends consisted of 8 really close friends that we did everything together. My college of 2500 felt HUGE (I'm sure your college is bigger). I suggest that you start with your roommate or someone in the dorm. Even if you start studying together, watching movies together, going on a coffee break together, or a midnight snack-run to Wal-Mart. Or, in your classes, see if you can talk to the person sitting next to you. See what their major is, where they are from, where they live, what do they want to do, why did they choose this college, have they seen a certain movie, can they recommend a restaurant, do they think the caf food sucks, etc. Hopefully, you can find one of those social butterflies who knows everyone (or, it seems like they know everyone), and just stick to them like an annoying shadow. You'll meet a people and can find someone you can click with. Also, try to get involved in a club or on-campus group which does activities together.
2007-09-10 23:09:17 · answer #2 · answered by Aslade Averyn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to find a small community within the larger university. I never understood why people joined fraternities and sororities until I realized that this was exactly what was happening, and while I'm not suggesting you join a Greek organization, I think that they have a real point. If you can find a group - be it social, artistic, political, religious, or athletic - that you can meet with on a regular basis, and with whom you share common interests, you will find that you do know people and that the rest of the people, whom you don't know, are really just context for your own life.
2007-09-10 23:11:57 · answer #3 · answered by neniaf 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay focused on your classes. This can be the lonliest and most frustrating time of your life. Find clubs and classes (that you are required to take anyway) that you have interest in, you may find people with similar interests and become friends. That's usually how it happens. Don't fret too much over it though because your first priority is school. Good luck!
2007-09-11 00:19:10 · answer #4 · answered by June C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay involved in class. Look into being active in your residence hall. Consider joining activities you are interested in. Basically get out and do something!
2007-09-10 23:08:21 · answer #5 · answered by Stranggore 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋