Last year, someone moved next door to me, that's my age and goes to my school. Before he moved next door he wasnt really my friend, but soon as I found out he was moving there we started talking more and more.
For the longest time, we were just steadily good friends. No problems at all. But now it seems like were havin some problems, and I'm not sure how I should act. Last week, he was being a dick to me all week long, so now I just avoid him and ignore him. The thing is, I don't understand what causes him to be pissed off. We'll chill, and be best friends, not one problem, then the next day i'll talk to him and he'll act like hes mad at me in a weird kind of way. Last week though, he was acting like this too much, so now I'm just avoiding him, and I don't know if Im doing the right thing. I just wanna be friends with him, cause were neighbours and probably will be for a long time.
Im 16. What should I do?
2007-09-10 15:54:58 · 10 answers · asked by redstar504 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Just try to talk to him and find out what's going on and if there's anything wrong.......may be there has been a misunderstanding which has caused that behavior
2007-09-10 16:03:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think it's great that you are concerned about what's going on and are trying to take the initiative to figure things out. First of all, I think that perhaps your friend may be going through personal issues that have nothing to do with you. It's probably not personal despite the fact that it might feel that way. In my opinion, your best bet would be to wait for a moment when you notice he is relaxed and then just address your concerns. Sometimes people just need to know that someone is willing to listen to them. Just say, "I've noticed that you've been a bit different towards me lately and I just want you to know that I'm you're friend. If you want to talk I'm there." No need to get to deep. By expressing your concern and willingness to listen, you are communicating your commitment to the friendship. The ball will be in his court. Afterwards, your best bet would be to just give it time. I'm 29 but I remember what it's like to be 16. When we are teenagers, things sometimes seem to be so much bigger than they really are. It all works out though. I promise. In the meantime, continue cultivating new friendships and don't let this get you down. It seems you're a good friend and other people will certainly see that with time. Good luck and I hope things work out! :)
2007-09-10 16:17:46 · answer #2 · answered by Elisse 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Did you ever ask him what's eating him? Chances are, it has nothing at all to do with you. Maybe he's having girl problems or parent or school problems. Some people crawl into a shell when they are troubled, and don't want to talk about it for fear of being ridiculed or laughed at. If he's friendly at other times, I don't think it's anything you've done or said. But you might try to get him to talk about it. If he does, be sympathetic and understanding, but don't give any advice unless he asks for it. Other than that, just wait it out. He'll get over it eventually, and when he does, that's the time to ask him what was bothering him. Chances are, he'll tell you when he's in a better frame of mind. Good luck!
2007-09-10 16:04:45 · answer #3 · answered by gldjns 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You've got 2 choices. Blow him off......or have a talk with him. I advise the latter, even though it's going to be hard for you to do that at your age. What is unacceptable is to continue letting him set the tone of your relationship. If he's going to run you hot/cold, he's no friend, he might be an abusive controller. Start by telling him how you feel; like one day he's friendly and the next he's not. Tell him maybe you both need to understand what you want this relationship to be, and whether it should continue. But if it's going to continue, it needs to continue in an environment where you both respect each other's feelings. A relationship where one person feels they can treat the other person however, according to their mood, is no relationship at all. If that's going to be his game, tell him you both should go your friendly, but separate, ways. GL.
2007-09-10 16:04:01 · answer #4 · answered by Caper 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It has nothing to do with where you are coming from, so don't worry that you are doing anything wrong. Whatever it is, it is something that he is dealing with internally. Perhaps he is going through a hard time, and doesn't know how to deal with changing volatile emotions. He might be experimenting socially, or may even be interested in you and not know what to do about it. Just stay steady and be who you are, and eventually he will come around. Support him if he needs help, but don't get dragged down by his behavior.
2007-09-10 16:31:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You might try asking him about it. His reactions might not have anything to do with you. There could be something else bothering him, but he takes it out when you're around.
Just tell him that he seems angry or annoyed at you sometimes, but you don't know why. If he is upset with you ask him for the reason, so you can deal with it. If he says he's not angry at you, but he doesn't want to talk about it, tell him if he changes his mind you'll be glad to listen. You don't need to fix any problem, just listening is the important part.
2007-09-10 16:10:31 · answer #6 · answered by mindshift 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him. For all you know, he could be going through some personal problems or even be bi-polar.
Catch him when he's in a good mood and just tell him how you feel he's been treating you and ask if there's anything wrong.
The best way to keep a lasting friendship is to communicate.
2007-09-10 15:59:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well, in similar situations I've just said "Yo, what's wrong, man?"
If you get blown off, he's not ready to talk yet.
Hang out and be your usual self until he's ready to talk, or until it blows over.
Avoiding him will just make matters worse, and things even more awkward for the two of you.
2007-09-10 16:00:05 · answer #8 · answered by tepes1994 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-04 08:47:18 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When he's in a good mood, ask him. Maybe he has problems in his life.
2007-09-10 15:58:37 · answer #10 · answered by notyou311 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋