sleep, do nothing all day, have no motivation, hate myself, don't like other people, don't eat well, sick of people who thinks someone can just snap out of it or is being lazy, never happy, suicidal thoughts, and losing hope bc i thought things would be different by now, it's better(worse before) but it's not good and i'm isolated and truly dislike people, i've had alot of bad people experiences, and find myself happier without others, happier w/o bf, w/o family, w/o friends, but also need people sometimes. i wonder sometimes if it's better to be dead but i enjoy being peacfully alone/eating/walking. people are so difficult to deal with. i can't get over the abuse, i just can't, it hurts and being alone and resting makes me feel better bc i'm so tired/lack energy. being lazy is the way i survive, i have so much anger, i might hurt someone sometime but i sleep instead then feel better. what to do? what to do?
2007-09-10 14:08:17 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
i do want to change and had a disorder that is already taken care of (gone), but the real world sucks and dreaming is the only time when i'm happy. i struggle to change everyday and have gone to therapist, it just takes so so long, and if i don't change in couple years that sucks.
2007-09-10 14:29:38 · update #1
Unless you have been abused yourself people don't usually understand what it feels like. I have heard this all before and I am still looking for complete understanding. I also think that the ones who have been through it have trouble understanding what to do because abuse changes how you see everything. It affects everything you feel, how you see yourself and your whole out look on life. You should look into passive-aggressive behaviors or just abused peoples behaviors as a lot of how these are described I relate to most and it sounds like you do too.
I don't recommend medication at all while a lot of people think that is the only way to help someone mentally it can not take away the hurt of abuse. I spent 8 years trying almost all medications, been hospitalized several times, outpatient and inpatient treatments and it was a huge waste of time I would even say it made me worse.
Although I don't know how much I can do for helping as I struggle with these same problems too. I only hope that I can tell you something from what I have learned. I have been working on this for a long time now and have learned a lot but not trusting anyone makes it hard to accept what I know is right and I am being taught great advice but it can be very hard to believe or accept.
You have been stuffing down your anger for what has been done to you because at the time you could not handle it, but it has to come out in order to release the pain. Talk to someone you feel will be understanding and non judgmental. Or if you can't write out what was done and say how it made you feel and don't leave out any details. I recommend if you can put it into a letter and give it to the person/people who have hurt you.
Life is not what it has become for you and believing in yourself and believing that you are in control and can change your life to be what you want. You can change and it does take time and a lot of work, trust will come back it has too but I still don't know exactly how, but what I have said has made my life very different and its at least a start. e-mail me if you want to my isolation allows for time on the Internet as well.
2007-09-10 14:53:38 · answer #1 · answered by stacey b 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went through the same thing. Nine months of being depressed. I slept a lot. Didn't want to be around people. Didn't know what I wanted to do with my life. I wished that I had gone to a counselor earlier. I would suggest to you that you could go to a counselor it will help you. It took me a long while to get better but I did. If you have any questions just click on my user id to email me.
2007-09-10 14:26:38 · answer #2 · answered by bookworm 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I used to be exactly like that. It's not an easy fix, and it takes time. It's possible that your depression is caused by a chemical imbalance in your brain, and medication could solve that. I personally believe one can make themselves depressed as well. I'd recommend talking to a therapist about it. I took meds for a month or two, and then I learned to cope with it on my own. But talking about it is really a good start. Best of luck! :D
2007-09-10 14:14:09 · answer #3 · answered by Matthew 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Wake up! Now is the time for you to move on. Have peace in mind, be friendly. Associate with your family, good neighbors and true friends. Don't be lazy, keep yourself busy. Take care of yourself to have a healthy and happy life.
2007-09-10 14:20:05 · answer #4 · answered by Echo 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
wow maybe you should go to the docotrs ur sumthin it is not good for you to be depressed and have no (or not want to see) family and friends or if you are still in school u can see a guidance conselour ur sumthin u could also join some clubs and meet some friends
2007-09-10 14:14:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
you have a major problem, and the worst part is you dont seem to want to change!! so it doesnt really matter what anyone answsers to this b/c you still wont listen!! i went through the same sorta thing when i lost my lil brother but i was drinkin aswell but i hated who i'd become so i took all the help i cud get! i really do hope you get better but talking to someone you trust or counsellor will help
2007-09-10 14:15:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
These are symptoms of clinical depression. You should see a doctor immediately. Please get to a doctor or an emergency room before you harm yourself or others.
2007-09-10 14:12:04 · answer #7 · answered by drshorty 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
suks for you... just kiddin, it might be depression and drugs are usually the answer. talk to a doctor about brain chemical balancing drugs like tricyclics or something like that. (suicide is never a very good solution) oh yea, i'm learning bout this stuff in english, thats why i know wat tricyclics are.
2007-09-10 14:13:10 · answer #8 · answered by esz7@sbcglobal.net 1 · 0⤊ 3⤋
I have a friend that experienced the exact same issues that you are facing. She went to her doctor finally and was diagnosed with something to do with her Thyroid and ofcourse, depression.
She is on a couple of medications (not doped out of her mind) and seems to be doing much better...
Our natural chemicals in our brain can put some bad things in our heads....especially if you have dealt with abuse of some kind.
Laying around just gets you deeper into this slump...you have to get up and TRY to make yourself feel better. You are wasting your life. Go to someone (namely a doctor) and get some help.
My fiance' wasted 7 years of his life laying on a couch after his divorce. He did not realize it then but now he regrets it.
My father was an alcoholic and depressed so he shot & killed himself, leaving behind his parents, his children & family. It was a coward's way out of his hell on earth. Instead of him being responsible & actually doing something to better his situation, he was selfish. It bothered me for years, but to make myself push forward, I had to get passed HIS decision and live my own life. I want to be happy, even when I feel like the world doesnt want me to be.
Good luck to you...I hope you confide in someone soon. it only gets worse....
2007-09-10 14:37:25 · answer #9 · answered by acksherly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen, go get help. There is no shame in it.
2007-09-10 14:12:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋