Do you agree with this?... A normal woman no matter how strong craves to be dominated by someone even stronger... A normal man no matter how weak craves to dominate someone even weaker. I find it very true, you?
2007-09-10 13:48:55 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
Hmmm, intellectual domination is a nice concept, maybe that is why I sometimes feel like something is missing even when I have a partner...
2007-09-10 14:05:08 · update #1
I agree with you, partially.
Perhaps in most aspects, many women do prefer it because there is the instinct to feel protected and safe with a man, hence the attraction to confidence and strength.
Many men display the instinct to lead, as historically (in ancient times)...the man hunted to sustain the family and was the pack leader (as Ceasar Milan says), whereas the woman was the nurturer and protector of the cave (or dwelling), as the man went about to provide.
Of course, this has changed throughout time.
Our present society (in U.S. specifically) is quite liberal, allowing women to choose.
So the crave for dominance on behalf of most men is instinctual, and in most women its been acquired.
At least I think so, based on history and science.
I prefer when dominance is treated with balance and not as a competition for control. And find it healthy to be dominated sometimes and to dominate at others, especially during sex.
2007-09-10 20:16:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
I disagree. I don't think it's a good thing to relish anyone else's weakness. Having the dominant role in a relationship carries with it a greater responsibility for the other's well being, and that would include behaving in such a way as to foster her personal growth and personal autonomy.
___Chevalier, above, mentions his observing men taking charge in emergencies, and I'd have to agree that this is often (but not always) the case. Taking charge when it is called for is not the same as taking charge when someone else is perfectly capable of making personal choices.
___Years ago, there was a brief movement in mental health circles that had to do with the dignity of risk. The idea is that people grow better when they have the opportunities to make their own choices, fail sometimes, face the consequences, and learn from them. Raising children requires letting them fail sometimes, and the right "sometimes" are seldom obvious. I just can't see how unambiguous, ongoing domination is a good thing.
___On the other hand, people have different tendencies, and some are more dominant than others. If you find a woman who tends to be submissive in her general behavior, then It seems that at a bare minimum, the two of you should make it explicit to one another that you have complementary psychological abberations, and make an agreement that you'll try to ingulge one another as necessary, but to do so with some circumspection, in the knowledge that both dominating and being dominated can have detrimental effects on people's psychic well-being.
2007-09-11 01:29:34 · answer #2 · answered by G-zilla 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
No. It's not true. Some men like to be dominated. Some women like to dominate. Some men and women are in between. Some choose to be dominating in some aspects of a relationship and not in others.
2007-09-10 22:11:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 1⤋
Untrue.
Personally I like and admire a man who is intellectually my equal.
I never wish to be dominated or to dominate anyone else.
Gosh, how boring am I, but I'll never change- too old!
2007-09-11 09:52:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
In daily life, I prefer to play Spock to Captain Kirks. I prefer supportive roles rather than leadership. I am slower on the uptake than most humans, so, I make a practice of recognizing and submitting to greater wisdom and honor than my own. Although I am an unusually powerful person, I do not dominate others nor like it at all when others presume to dominate me. BUT, in the bedroom, I enjoy D&S as a sub very much. Sexuality, as an artful pleasure, is unique for each individual with few generalities.
2007-09-10 21:43:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 3⤋
I partially agree- total physical submissiveness is absolute bliss only for a short time- but unfortunately for an opiniated woman it has to be to someone who is mentally way out her superior,who she cant conquer intellectually.Its a way of acknowledging that superiority. But i dont agree that women have a craving to be dominated continously- for the moment of the sexual fantasy or physical interaction -yes- but not forever.
2007-09-10 22:35:34 · answer #6 · answered by sassy 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
If you mean purely in sexual situations...I can't say whether or not I fully agree, but I don't fully disagree either. I wouldn't mind being sexually dominated by a man (but I wouldn't mind dominating over him either).
But in other areas of life, you're definitely at least half wrong. Most women don't want someone to make decisions for them...but it's certainly possible that most men might want to have someone who will let them make their decisions for them.
On an interesting side note, I used to be an active member of collarme.com. It was interesting, because there were tons of female dominants, but even more male submissives...so there was always a shortage. Men were always begging women to come dominate them. Oh, and there were still plenty of male dominants and female submissives, and switches of both genders.
2007-09-10 21:54:42 · answer #7 · answered by G 6 · 3⤊ 3⤋
What does domination mean to you? To most normal people ( whatever that means ) it is a dirty word. I personally don't like placing people in little labeled boxes. Humans are different: whatever might be unacceptable to one, will be a pleasure to another. As a woman, I share in giving and receiving pleasure with my lover. Domination is not our thing.
2007-09-10 21:29:54 · answer #8 · answered by ms.sophisticate 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
I think it is true to a degree in emergency's I usually see women defer to men that is not domination but it is where one is in charge. But around the house my wife is is charge because she doesn't like the way I clean things so I tend to do as she asks in the house and in family decisions she defers to me as I am the one who takes responsibility when things go wrong. But it is also fair to say that she will make a decision for herself if it only affects her. And as I repair the house and she defers to me about the house even though it is usually her area. It works for us.
2007-09-11 00:33:25 · answer #9 · answered by Chevalier 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I agree with what you say. Its nice to be challenged physically or intellectually every so often. But you're really delving into Subs and Doms which is a sexual thing.
From the sounds of things, you are a dom.
2007-09-10 22:27:32 · answer #10 · answered by Chloe G 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋