Do miserable people suck the energy out of you?

Question

I'll tell ya, I work with some people that just complain on a daily basis. It makes me exahusted....no one wants to be there, no one wants to do thier job. They talk about each other...I know this is "normal" but I just don't get it. There are people out there who have no jobs, no money, no homes. Why can't these people just be glad that they have a job, family, home, food? No matter what they just complain.
These people just make me sad inside...maybe because I have 1 foot in my home and another in a shelter...you know. I'm glad for what I do have and don't think about what I don't have.
Anyway, do you think at some point these people can just get over themselves and open their eyes to the world around them. They are living in a personal bubble :)

I wasn't complaining...I was simply painting a picture to ask if these people will eventually "see the light" outside of themselves. It's a shame that some people just don't see beyond their own problems...hey, we all have them it's the attitude towards them that makes the difference.

Answer 1

First of all, yes...misery is contagious when you are around it enough. A manic depressive (or the undiagnosed kind of person who just goes up and down for external reasons) who you are really close with can bring you down so much to where you become numb to them. As for your second question, people can get out of that bubble, but they either have to get the tough truth from someone...how about like you. Say plainly to them that they should be grateful for what they have because so many people in this world don't have that and it's sad. Either that...or if they are thick-headed enough to not understand it from you, karma will still get to them somehow and make them realize what they have. Hope this helps. And really, you will become numb if you pay any attention to them. And that can really destroy someone if they hang around long enough.

Answer 2

Birds of a feather flock together. Your job is to be happy. Once you look after your end, the other will disappear. You get what you focus on.

Answer 3

depends. complainning all the time is bad. but i'm guilty bc i'm depressed and not the funniest person to be around now but i can act pretty upbeat around others. i'am a miserable person but i try not to act it.

no , they complaining is bad. i had a friend like that.

Answer 4

Some people was just born to sing the blues.

Answer 5

Speaking of people who spend a lot of time complaining....

Answer 6

They can but if you do your best to help them then dont feel bad or let their stories get to you

Answer 7

Only those who ask miserable questions on Yahoo!

Answer 8

Life leeches and energy Life Leeches – people who suck…the energy right out of you! There are more than a dozen types of Life Leeches. None of the Life Leech labels are necessarily a life sentence. So you want to keep the door open because the possibility exists in many cases that the Life Leech can change for the better. Remember the human brain has the ability to make new pathways and grow new brain cells throughout our lifespan. This means that every day is a new opportunity to recreate who you are and how you treat other people.
So focus on what you can control – your actions, your feelings, your thoughts. Foster forgiveness and compassion. Take good care of yourself. And treat everyone around you with respect and dignity.
So here are the types of Life Leeches to lookout for…



There is the Whining Leech who always wants to complain but never looks for a solution.

The Judgmental Leech who casts a judgmental finger at everyone but himself.

The Drama Leech who is overwhelmed by life and treats even minor crises as major catastrophes.

The Non-stop Talker who takes 6 hours to tell you that he is short on words.

The Advice Junkie who complains and seeks out advice, yet never implements one potential solution.

The Sprinting Leech who runs from any and all confrontation.

The Oblivious Life Leech who is anyone who sucks energy from you without knowing it. This is an innocent type of Life Leech but one you need to be aware of in terms of your overall energy level. Any of you who have children know what I’m talking about here – kids can suck your energy from you in a matter of minutes with a good tantrum.

The Two Types of Malicious Life Leeches…

Antisocial Life Leech. This type is not antisocial in terms of disliking company. Rather they are antisocial in the sense that he has no regard for society’s rules, personal boundaries, values, or the feelings of others. He is distrustful of others and suspicious of coworkers. He has a pessimistic outlook and frequently takes statements out of context and twists other people’s words until they are unrecognizable. A dangerous leech.

The Empty Shell Life Leech feels things very deeply, lacks a sense of self, and sees people as all good or all bad. They fill themselves up with what you are doing, thinking or feeling. You don’t want to fall into the all bad category or this Life Leech will make your life miserable. A dangerous leech.

The Volcanic Life Leech, one of the scariest Life Leeches due to their angry outbursts, you never know when they will explode and you don’t know exactly where you stand with them. They are expert at hiding their feelings. And when they blow, there is often a fear that they may become physically violent. The volcano is always filled with inner fury. They keep a long list of the injustices done to them. They never forget a slight.

The Emotional Ice Cube, They show no emotion. The ice cube has no emotional awareness. They do not know how they are perceived by other people. They are totally numb. You may get the feeling as if you want to take them by the arms and shake them.

The Self-Loving Life Leech, This Life Leech loves to talk with other people – about themselves. They usually talk a great deal – about themselves. Deep down, in their core, they are fearful, insecure and feel unworthy. Their goal is to impress you with their experience, knowledge, travels, accomplishments or skill.

The Browbeating Bullying Leech.
I think everyone had their own personal bully growing up. Unfortunately, some bullies never grow up. They continue their bullying ways right into adulthood, using intimidation to get what they want.
The browbeating bully tends to use a loud voice and close physical quarters to scare you into giving them whatever it is they want. When you make a mistake, the bully leech will yell at you to correct it. When you call them on their mistake, the bully will yell at you and tell you that you make mistakes also. The bully loves to watch you sweat and fret.
How do you get out of that position?
Don’t buy into their game. You can give them back a taste of their own medicine by standing up to them and refusing to be intimidated. Using your deep breathing, remind yourself that you will not stand for bullying. Put your hands on your hips and in a loud and firm voice, tell them “Stop. You sound as if you are trying to get what you want by yelling at me. That may work with other people, but I don’t appreciate being yelled at as I was your four year old child.” This will typically cause them to respect you and back off the yelling game. Normally, just calling them on their game is enough to snap them out of their little drama.

Answer 9

OH, YES.


i think that if something happens that shakes their world, they can change.