Sometimes, i remember bad times that i been trough, like embarrasment, foolishness, ignorance, etc. which made feel bad at that time, but when i remember them now i still feel bad, and im like "damn what an idiot". Why does this happens and how can i stop it?
2007-09-10 13:32:30 · 7 answers · asked by Mark-0 3 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
i think you a very self conscious person. you always think about what others may think about you. i think thats fine. but the problem here is that you think about the negativity of what others may think or say about you. thats why you always feel bad when you do something that you think is embarrassing. and you always feel bad when you remember it. because of the fact that you still think about the bad responses that people may show you based on what you did in the past.
well, everyone do embarrassing things sometimes. but, that's part of life. there are things that you cant avoid sometimes. the best way to deal with these things is to accept. even celebreties do embarrassing things.
2007-09-10 13:53:56 · answer #1 · answered by Lari 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've decided to stop being embarrassed. I'm saying goodbye to the whole thing: that growing suspicion as the moment approaches, that sense of realization when it comes, that rush of blood reddening your cheeks, that brief but powerful desire to jump out of your own skin, and then finally that attempt big fake smile trying to cover it all. Sure, it was fun for a while, but I think it's outlived its usefulness. It's time for embarrassment to go.
Turning off an emotion is always a tough decision. I remember how a couple years ago I decided to say goodbye to anger. Sure, anger has its bright moments -- you haven't really lived until you've known that special joy of hurling a chair across the room -- but it's also quite time-consuming. Every time someone comes up and hits you, you have to run around chasing after them. And once you start getting angry it's hard to stop -- an angry person doesn't really want to calm down, it sort of enjoys being angry. So I finally decided to get rid of the whole thing. And you know what? I haven't regretted the decision one bit.
Regret -- that's another interesting emotion. I mean, what purpose does it really serve? "There's no use crying over spilled milk," my mom once told me when I started sobbing after I got milk all over the floor while trying to make cereal. "I suppose that's true," I replied between sobs. "Although maybe my tears will dilute the milk and make it stick to the floor less." But I was wrong -- the milk stayed just as sticky. So maybe regret should be the next one to go.
But actually, I think it's going to be frustration. It's not discussed much, but frustration is really quite distracting. You're trying to solve some difficult problem but it's just not working. Instead of taking a moment to try and think of the solution, you just keep getting more and more frustrated until you start jumping up and down and smashing various things. So not only do you waste time jumping, but you also have to pay to replace the stuff you smashed. It's really a net loss.
But that's a decision for another time. Today it's time for embarrassment to join anger in the wastebasket of deactivated emotions. It might take some getting used to at first -- when friends try to tease me about something I'll probably start to react before realizing there's just no need for it anymore -- but before long I'm sure it will seem normal. Even if I'm a less normal person for it.
2007-09-10 21:09:04 · answer #2 · answered by Hot Coco Puff 7 · 7⤊ 0⤋
Happens to me too. Try to think about the good things that make you laugh and don't let that get to you because those same people that did that to you are going about enjoying their lives,so don't let them get in your way of being happy. They will get what they deserve because God doesn't let anyone get away with anything, believe me, even if it doesn't seem like it. Yeah, you might want to pray about that. That stuff can get to you. I'll pray for you. It works.
2007-09-10 20:56:03 · answer #3 · answered by phazemonultimate 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep yourself out of most any situation at all costs that caused those situations to happen in the first place and always try to think positive.
2007-09-10 20:43:52 · answer #4 · answered by stallion 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just try to block theme from your mind i do it all the time cause i been in a real bad car wreck and my uncle fought in a war and he has nightnmares like every night so he just blocks them form his mind
2007-09-10 20:40:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just ignore it
2007-09-10 20:51:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its human nature i guess... well, learn from your mistakes so they dont end up PERMANENTLY in your mind. =P
2007-09-10 20:52:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋