have you ever felt frustrated because you thought at the age you are you would have don't more by now?

Question

i feel like that a lot. i thought being 19 meant i would just get good grades easy and i would have a job and driving. i also pictured myself looking different at this age.

Answer 1

Oh Cupid believe me when I tell you that I completely understand what you are going through. I'm 29 and I still feel that way sometimes. I often thought that by this age I would have a great career that was fulfilling and paid well. I thought I would have finished my B.A. and perhaps more. I thought a lot of things. I'll also let you know that I didn't drive until I was 20 or so and that made me feel really bad since most of my friends were driving. Nonetheless, I've come to believe that throughout our lives we are often molded by other people and made to believe that we have to be a certain way at a certain age. Life is not written and it does not have a definite itinerary that must be followed. I've discovered that things always fall into place in ways we least expect. You need to believe in yourself, in your goals and not allow anyone to tell you otherwise. People will always offer their thoughts and opinions about what you should be doing and who you are. But you have the choice to take the good advice and get rid of the bad advice. Don't be ashamed for who you are, what you enjoy, and how you choose to get there. Life does not have a deadline and things come when the time is right. Often times rushed decisions lead to failure. Oh and one more thing: Never be afraid to try new things because you fear you will fail. In order to be successful you must not be afraid to fail. We only fail when we choose not to learn from our mistakes. Good luck and be patient. Things will work out. I promise.

Answer 2

You're too young to be worried about that much--if you still had those issues at say 30, then it would be time to worry! Set some realistic goals for yourself but enjoy being young!

Answer 3

You must be referring to not being able to write in English.

Answer 4

WITH TODAY'S sluggish economy, most people who are employed can't help but breathe a little sigh of relief that they have a job--even if they don't really like it. Human nature is to retreat to the trenches in times of uncertainty, and those who would like to make a job change are left wondering whether it is safe to poke their heads out and take a look around.

The good news is that, despite the economic slowdown, it's still an "employees' market" in much of the U.S., with a significant labor shortage in many parts of the country. For example, a survey by the Connecticut Business and Industry Association and Andersen Consulting found that 75% of small and midsize businesses that responded are having trouble filling vacancies because of the shortage of qualified workers.
This should help to quell the fears of unhappy employees who are contemplating a job change, but what about the timing issues of doing so? How do you really know whether you are just going through a rough patch that will improve over time or whether it's time to let go and move on? Most people understand the mechanics of finding a job, from how to write a good resume to how to negotiate salary and compensation, but who has the skills to leave a job at the right time and for the right reasons? Some people find it harder to deal with change than others. For the faint of heart, the prospect of switching jobs creates a sense of unease so overwhelming that they will remain in an unhappy work situation rather than face the unknown. These individuals often need an external force to "convince" them to move on. They can only be nudged out of their chairs by the likes of a layoff, salary freeze, or the prospect of relocation. They tend to be motivated by income necessity and lifestyle convenience issues, rather than by the pursuit of opportunities to advance their careers.

Then there are those adventure-seekers who welcome the opportunity for change and may actively seek out professional growth and movement up the ladder. One of our clients has changed jobs--and scaled that ladder--seven times over her 14-year public relations career. Christina's most recent move, to a position as media relations manager for the investment division of a large financial services company, was the result of a calculated strategy, she says. "I really planned my career to bring me to this point, because I had always been intrigued with the financial services industry." While the economic uncertainty did give her pause, she felt that the risk was at least equal in the small marketing communications firm she was leaving.

Another client also took a new position with a larger company, in his case moving from a direct marketing firm to a bank. Like Christina, Mike sized up the risks of staying put and decided that things looked a little more stable in a bigger company that is well-respected within its industry. His reasons for moving centered around lifestyle issues, too, mainly reducing a two-and-a-half-hour daily train commute and spending more time with his family. The icing on the cake was that his new job is an upward career move as well. "I couldn't have written a better job description than the one I have right now. I'm doing what I loved in my last job, but in an expanded capacity," he indicates.

The desire to make a lifestyle change is one of the most common factors in motivating people to look for new jobs. These include consistent frustration over salary/pay level; ongoing problems with one's boss and/or coworkers; lack of professional development opportunities; lifestyle change requiring job adjustment, such as relocation, arrival of a child, or divorce; concern over the current company's stability; interest in changing careers; and one's job is stale and no longer challenging. Examining these key motivators and applying them to your current employment situation can be a good way to work through the decisionmaking process. You may even have more than one issue that is causing dissatisfaction with your job.

Consistent frustration over salary/pay level. Most people feel an occasional twinge of frustration over their current level of compensation after a stint of extended hours or a major project, for instance, but that alone doesn't indicate a need to change jobs. However, if you have felt a high degree of frustration for an extended period and know that similar positions in different organizations pay more, you may want to take action. You should begin by speaking with your supervisor about the possibility of a salary increase or adjustment. This conversation should not have a "bullying" tone to it, nor should you threaten to leave if your salary isn't increased. Simply state your continued interest in the company, briefly outline your longevity and accomplishments, and ask whether an increase would be possible. Once you have been given a response to your question, regardless of whether it is positive or negative, maintain your professionalism. If the answer is no, it may be time to start the job search.