my husband was a heavy drinker 3years ago when i got with him.but he stopped drinking so much.here it is 3 years later and hes drinking but hes hiding it from me. my son found a bottle under the couch and i just found one empty under the sink
2007-09-10 13:13:19 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Go talk to your local ALANON group. You should be able to find them in the phone book, if not look for a number for AA. If he's hiding his drinking then it is definitely something you need to worry about. Either one of these groups should be able to help you figure out the best way to confront your husband about it without pushing him further away or making him become defencive.
2007-09-10 13:33:15 · answer #1 · answered by C T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kick his drinking *** to the curb. HE has to decide he wants to stop drinking, it has nothing to do with you or your wants. BUT you have a choice - either live with it and enable him, or DON'T. I sure hope you choose not to live with it.
Most of the time it takes an alcoholic having to lose everything in order for them to get the help they need.
I live with one, I should know. He tried hiding and lying, and all the crap you're going through. The only difference is that I didn't allow him to do it. I told him he was free to leave if he didn't like the idea that alcohol would not be a part of my life. You know what? He stopped drinking.
Suggest counseling, it could really help.
I would seriously tell him he needs to get help & stop drinking or move on - then STICK WITH IT. He won't take you seriosuly if he thinks he can walk all over you.
2007-09-10 20:18:47 · answer #2 · answered by Roland'sMommy 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You need to confront him about this and let him know that you don't appreciate him being dishonest with you about something so serious.
It sounds like he needs help in getting over his secret addiction and perhaps you should give him the choice of seeking help to save his marriage/family or continuing to drink and not being with you and your son.
I wish you the best....I know how devestating alcohol can be!
2007-09-10 20:19:48 · answer #3 · answered by endo_chic 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The problem is the hiding is doing something wrong. Is the trust gone? Then if he can not get it back, may be time to move on.
2007-09-10 20:21:35 · answer #4 · answered by ronnny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Confront him and let him know in no uncertain terms you won't tolerate him abusing alcohol again. You know the signs of his drinking. If you see them again send him packing until he sobers up. You have to have "tough love" when it comes to addictions.
2007-09-10 20:20:29 · answer #5 · answered by mafiosu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to talk to him about it, convince him to go to rehab or a doctor so they can help him quit.
Dont yell or give him a terrible time, you have to voice your concern for his well being best you can at this point.
Sounds like he never quit, hes having a very hard time..
2007-09-10 20:19:38 · answer #6 · answered by nelppik 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Confront him & talk with him, tell him how you feel. Suggust he may need to go to counciling. If you find any more bottles empty them out--he'll soon figure it out that someone is finding his bottles
2007-09-10 20:26:12 · answer #7 · answered by J-LO 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you could ask him if he would consider treatment... but then again, he has to be the one willing to commit to it...the question is what do you want to do?
2007-09-10 20:17:24 · answer #8 · answered by cristelle R 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋