I want my husband to stop calling me! I love him but he's annoying me with his paranoia. I'm thinking of turning off my cell phone and all the phones in the house too. WOuld that be too cruel?
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2007-09-10 13:13:08 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think by turning your phone off you will increase your husband insecurities.
2007-09-10 13:17:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well he is driving you crazy because he doesn't trust you and for a good reason. Once someone cheats it is very hard to regain trust. Instead of turning your cell phone off use it to call a marriage counselor. Your husband has been very hurt and betrayed, he is feeling very insecure in your relationship and doesn't trust you one bit. I don't know how long its been since the infidelity but regardless, it can take only a minute to cheat and betray a partners trust but that pain can take years to heal. His insecurity is justified and will not go away on its own or because you tell him he should trust you now. You need to understand why you cheated, he needs to understand the reason why and if he had any part to play in it. If you want any chance of saving your marriage and your husband learning to trust you again, marriage counseling is the only answer.
2007-09-10 20:26:41 · answer #2 · answered by maryv2013 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So, let's get this straight. You have dinner with a guy when hubby's out of town. If he'd had dinner with some chick while you were away, you'd have already cut his balls off. It's only been 24 hours and you don't understand why hubby can't just get over it?
I hate to say it, but you sound incredibly selfish.
Turning off your phones will only make him think you're getting busy with some random dude instead of answering the phone. Wanna earn his trust back? ANSWER THE FREAKING PHONE when he calls - and STOP hanging out with other You were playing with fire and you got burned. Go figure!
Building trust takes time. Since you're the one who screwed up royally, you need to take that time to earn it back.
Just when I thought I'd heard it all....
2007-09-10 20:24:10 · answer #3 · answered by Roland'sMommy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Trust is earned, true enough. But, you initially put yourself in a compromising and untrustworthy position. Is your husband overreacting? Maybe. But, given the circumstances, his concern is understandable.
You could try to sit him down at a calm moment. Remind him that you are sorry for breeching any trust. Tell him that as much as you love him, his phone calls are out of hand. Maybe you could compromise and tell him he can call any time, but once in the day, unless he has a real question. In the meantime, don't go out with any guy without your husband around. It just looks bad and puts you in a bad light.
2007-09-10 20:25:14 · answer #4 · answered by TroothBTold 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Turning the phone off will only drive him more insane. He's liable to catch a flight back home immediately. In my opinion, you married him knowing about his jealousy/trust issues. You need to try to gain his trust back. Stop going out with other "guy friends" when he's out of town. Try to get through to him that he's the only man for you. Don't turn the phone off though. My wife would do that, and I would snap even worse.
2007-09-10 20:19:17 · answer #5 · answered by TXboy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you're married, why did you go to dinner with another man when your husband was out of town? It sounds like you created this mistrust, so until you earn his trust again, you need to endure the telephone calls. If you turn off your phone, then this will escalate the trust issue.
2007-09-10 20:21:18 · answer #6 · answered by LAL 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Did not look at other questions. It is called selective answering. Turn off the phone so you do not go over on the minutes and use in case of an emergency. If he learns to not call so much you can leave it on.
2007-09-10 20:18:40 · answer #7 · answered by ronnny 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I've read both your ? you deserve what your getting. wait before you get pissed, I'm not judging, I've done worse- i cheated and left my wife for the other woman. but think about it- do what your going to do, but don't get mad at him for feeling insecure, he has reason to be. and if you want his trust back it will take a lot on your part- A LOT. put yourself in his shoes?????????????? beware- you may never get his trust back, how important is he? from what you told us you created this problem- though i know that it isn't that simple. what are you willing to do to fix it? I'm not judging you sweetheart, I've done a lot worse, but i don't blame some one else for my actions- notice i didn't say mistakes!
2007-09-10 20:31:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
why did you go to dinner with another guy? dumb! turn off the cell but not the house phone. that will just cause you more problems
2007-09-10 21:09:00 · answer #9 · answered by racer 51 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is bugging the heck out of you for no reason, then turn them off or just don't answer!
2007-09-10 20:16:20 · answer #10 · answered by endo_chic 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋