im shy....?

Question

im a shy person.. and i have friends but i need more self- confidence.... im really afraid cause i will start high school soon and i want to make friends... last summer i went to this program in which we took care of kindergarten kids and i was really hoping that it would help me.. but instead i embarrassed myself cause i was the person sitting alone in the corner... usually i wait for people to talk 2 me first which is kind of a problem.. and when i did start to talk to the ppl there the next day i would do the same thing and wait for them to talk to me first... if i were someone else i would think that i was wierd lol... and im always afrad that ppl will play nice in front of me and then talk about me behind my back :(... but the over all thing i want to know is how will i gain some confidence so i can make new friends when i start high school?... plz help... thx.

Answer 1

well when your in school
just talk to the people around you, ask what teachers they have or their schedule
see if you have the same lunch, and ask if they want to 'see if this school lunch is worth it' together
and dont try to impress anyone, on the first day of school dont wear soemthing that you arent realy comfortable with, make sure to wear stuff that makes you feel like you, otherwise you will be to worried about your appearance to talk to people

You will be able to tell who is nice and who is mean, if you see someone else you looks insecure, talk to them., im sure they will be just as gratefull for a friend

Answer 2

well, it sounds like you answered a bit of your own question, dont wait for people to talk to you, especially if youve already had a conversation, the first conversation is always the hardest to start, after that, try to keep the momentum going, remember things you talked about before, think of ways of talking about related things, like if you discover that they saw a certain movie, then the next time, maybe you saw read an article about one of the actors or something, and you can use that to not only start the second coversation, but also, they will feel like you were listening and thinking of them, a sign of respect, and they will like you, and be more likely to enjoy talking to you, even to the point of starting the third converstation themselves (i mean, dont wait on the third just to test them, you know what i mean)

also, high school is great, its a structured routine, forces you to see the same people all the time, so striking up conversations should be easier than out here in adult land, so, count your blessing

also, by the way, its okay to not have lots of friends, quality is better than quantity, dont judge yourself if you have less friends than the next person, not only is appearances some times deceiving on both sides of that fence, but i just think that its okay be a bit of a loner some times, we all need to be happy with ourselves, even when we are alone, no one can fill us up with joy, friends can only do so much to make us feel good

you gotta love yourself before other people can love us back, and you gotta love yourself before you can give love to others

sound good?

Answer 3

When you start high school, I want you to think about what you just wrote. When you walk into a room, look for someone that is sitting by themself(sound familar) go over to them and start talking. You know what that person is going through, and maybe you will have some good friendship start. If you want to change then get in there and change. You can do it, cause this is the start of your high school years and you want to have fond memories of it,

Answer 4

Dont worry because i was the exactly the same way before just tell yourself im not gonna be shy any more so like dont be afriad to talk to them because they probably want to be your friend since they were the one that talked to you first and i bet you when you go home your talk a lot and you tell your self why cant i talk like this at school...well hope this helps L8ter

Answer 5

I used to wait for people to come & ask me to be their friends which always happened so i didnt really start thinking about making friends till HS.

Just put yourself out there, be random, do unexpected things, find your talent.

Say hi @ the hallway to random people in your class. That works for my friend XD

& theres always gonna be someone talking behind your back.

Answer 6

First off, buy something you really really like. Like, buy the type of clothing you like. If you see something on another person you like compliment them. Do something you enjoy and is good at, thats how I got my confidence up.

Answer 7

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