That is, some men---why do they feel the need to be abusive?
2007-09-10 12:11:52 · 11 answers · asked by Apryl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Because we let them ! Because they can !
During the marriage we bend over backwards so their kept happy , after the divorce we're so tired we just let them carry it on .
Its a cycle , if you watched your own parents doing it sooner or later you become your mother?
Sorry for the shortness of my reply its just that I have been married twice and my 1st husband was very emotionally abusive and is now 8 years later bossing me around telling me how to raise our daughter , for one instance : he rang me said I needed to riegn her in on her attitude , she was 7 at the time , I said you had no problem controlling her attitude before you moved my ex sister in law in who uses drugs all day maybe you should riegn your g/f's tude in and just love your daughter for having a mind of her own but dont drag me into it i am not becoming the baddy to my child to satsify you!
Dont try to understand men sweetheart seriously it's impossible its like them not understanding us they say we're alians they should take a check on their own tudes.
2007-09-10 14:28:33 · answer #1 · answered by JadeyOz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because 'most' of them are jerks and pigs. Did I ever find that out! I divorced a total pig/jerk and got involved with someone else. This guy decided that after being together for less than 2 years, he would say he didn't love me anymore, break up with me, and kick me out of the home I absolutely loved--and I had to take my cat with me when I had no place for him! Now I find out that he is trying to 'get together' with his ex-wife and she wants nothing to do with him!
When they are abusive, it is because of either how they were raised or they have super low self-esteem and 'feel' they 'have' to abuse others to make themselves 'feel better'. It doesn't work, though, and the less it works, the more they abuse. It is a vicious cycle that can be broken IF they want it broken.
2007-09-10 19:21:19 · answer #2 · answered by honey 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
its a masculinity thing. Imagine cave men boppin women they choose on the head and dragging them by the hair. Now granted that never really happened. but it pretty much sums everything up.
2007-09-10 19:18:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Men usually turn out like their father.
2007-09-10 19:16:43 · answer #4 · answered by E! 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't know, but I find that all men are very controlling once you scratch beneath the surface. I don't know if I would call it abusive, I think they are just insensitive.
2007-09-10 19:24:30 · answer #5 · answered by momfirst101 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
E ! has this right, I was married way to long and put up with this crap, well you have to end it some how, I filed for a divorce because he would not get off his lasy azz and do this.
2007-09-10 19:25:09 · answer #6 · answered by kim t 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are YOU attracted to these kind of men?
2007-09-11 00:06:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because they are with insecure women who "NEED" a man so bad they pick a bad man.
Who did you vote for in 1992? and in 1996? I thought so.
2007-09-10 19:28:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
like all humans us men fear what we don't know , some more agressive men try to control women because they fear what women are doing whenthey are not around basically they don't trust women.
2007-09-10 19:20:03 · answer #9 · answered by lost 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I once asked that question and was told ,It's not just men,and that They learn it.
(In other words they learned it from their care takers they were raised that way.)
2007-09-10 19:40:16 · answer #10 · answered by glenda w 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋