my husband is a police officer and why'll on the job he cheated.what can happen?
2007-09-10 12:05:17 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It depends on you for part of it. Obviously divorce is a option
The other part partially depends on his conquest/victim. He could go to jail for a very long time. To use a position of power such as is given officer status is a crime in all states in the US and can also be a Federal crime.
At the least he should not keep his job. Should it be proven that this person was under his protection or influence because of his badge.
2007-09-10 12:16:04 · answer #1 · answered by noyoungun 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it was with a coworker, or he was caught on work time, it can result in some reprimands at work, or even a charge of sexual harassment if the other woman gets upset and files a complaint.
That can result in losing a job or a legal case.
Now, it's up to you to figure out what will happen at home.
If he is repentant and willing to work on himself, then you may be able to rebuild your marriage. If he will not change and continues to betray your trust and marriage vows, then it's up to you to either decide to stay and tolerate his behavior or for you to get legal advice and have him leave.
Resources
A few good books:
"Not Just Friends" by S. Glass
“Surviving an affair” by Dr. W. Harley
“After the Affair” by Springs
A yahoo group that has many helpful articles and links in FILES. Not a good support board, not very active. But, loads of stuff in files. Simple to join.
http://groups.yahoo.com/group/AffairsTalk/
A few other helpful sites:
http://www.dearpeggy.com/
http://marriagebuilders.com/
http://betrayedspouse101.tripod.com/
http://www.beyondaffairs.com/
http://peterfox.com.au/index.html
A few good support forums for those dealing with infidelity. Lots of helpful people who have been through this trauma.
http://www.lifesaviors.com/SI/
http://survivinginfidelity.com/
An ebook written for the wayward spouse to help them understand what they need to do to rebuild from the damage they created:
http://www.aftertheaffair.net/
2007-09-10 19:47:45 · answer #2 · answered by joyh 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry it happened to you it is a break of trust if you can't get past it you should divorce, But only if you can't forgive him, Temptation is all around him and when you live on the edge like that these things will happen, it goes with the badge.
2007-09-10 19:13:39 · answer #3 · answered by itstlkchlet 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
seek therapy
the biggest help and the only thing that can change anyone is God...pray for assistance and for direction
I use to be a wildchild (dated hubby 10yrs on and off) if my hubby and I didn't become born again Christians prior to our marriage I'm 100% sure we would've walked towards divorce and cheating b/c of me since I never cared about anything and only cared about having fun!
pray...
2007-09-10 19:42:06 · answer #4 · answered by SUNSHINE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't surprise me...At least where I live cops are cheaters. Only you can decide what steps you want to take next. Cheating is not acceptable to me, so I would be getting a divorce asap if I was in your situation.
2007-09-10 19:09:44 · answer #5 · answered by E! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
an officer can get in a lot of trouble for that kind of thing off the clock. it can scare a whole squad and a meida circus for this kind of thing on the clock. nail him to the wall
2007-09-10 19:11:40 · answer #6 · answered by souljourner 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Civil action from the lady involved, loss of rank, loss of job, loss of marriage, public humiliation. How's that for starters?
2007-09-10 19:35:01 · answer #7 · answered by runner45 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a double whammy! Cheating and doing it while working. He could lose his job in addition to losing his marriage.
2007-09-10 19:09:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He can get tossed off the force, unless this is some strange stakeout.
2007-09-10 19:09:21 · answer #9 · answered by ralph 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For one thing he can lose his job.At least that happened to someone I knew that lived in my town.I wouldn't spread the news about it.
2007-09-10 19:09:14 · answer #10 · answered by sharen d 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋