ok she wanted opinions and told me to write this. she was arranged to a nice guy and brought him to US. so basically he came to us because of her. he was soo nice sweet with narrow minded brain like clothesand he didn't like her working. she didn't mind. but then he started changing like he had upper hand in the relationship she would cry and ask him what's rong why is be being so distant. she is a real nice girl. she loves him. he treated her like crap in her pregnancy. wouldn't do anything for her. didn't care if she ate or if she is hungary. everyday quarrels made her depressed. she was down all the time. didn't care about pleasing her in bed no more. he would have sex with her and wouldn't even care about her orgasm. or sumtimes she would beg for se'x.and he would say i am tired my back hurts. then she left for three days, comes back and see dirty stuff online.the day she left and she had se'x with him and lateer he went online for dirty pics and movies etc.more details..
2007-09-10 10:04:17 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
he was spending lot of money on beer and alcohol and she told him no drinking while she is away. he promised but he drank and was prolly looking at porn. so to her all these were more important. but she raised hell when she found out. he cried begged for treating her like crap saying he ddidnt know what he had. etc etc. it took her couple of months to forgive him not just because of porn but of his jerky behavior, now he shows her loves kisses her like before and she is trying to forgive. why is he doing that and why did he change after she had proof of sumthing stupid.he calls her from work alot now. buys her stuff. etcdo u think he will go back to his same old ways or no? why or why not? or do u think he was attrACTED to sumone else when he was acting like a jerk to her
2007-09-10 10:08:58 · update #1
lol johntucell. what do u want to know abt me
2007-09-10 10:17:02 · update #2
If he came from a different country that right there had to be a little over bearing to him. A new wife a new country new friends nothing really belonging to him yet. I think that's where the porn came into play and the drinking, it was his and his alone. He needed to go through hard times in order to realize what he had.I think he has learned his lesson and he knows now what he has and he will treat her right and show her the love she needs. If he was nice when he got there then that means he does have it in him to be a nice person.He was a little lost in the beginning but now i think he has found his way only time will tell.
2007-09-10 10:20:39 · answer #1 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm guessing that whoever he was involved with gave him the boot and now he's kissing up to his wife because he found out that the grass isn't greener on the other side. With men once a snake always a snake!!! Guys that have problems with porn have a problem keeping there zipper of their pants up. Sounds like the husband is a very selfish jerk!!!!
2007-09-10 10:15:23 · answer #2 · answered by truckmama_34 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's probably just telling her that to keep her.
I bet he's still doing it behind her back, and has just gotten better at hiding it. (been there, done that)
He's got to make sure she doesn't split on him, because then he won't have anybody...OR she might get him for child support, etc.
The best indicator of future behavior is REPEATED past behavior. If he has a history of lying, hiding, deceiving, etc...why would he suddenly stop?
He's probably a sex addict and alcoholic if he drinks all the time, and she's better off cutting her loses and moving on if he doesn't want to change.
2007-09-10 10:14:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow. My opinion is that he is a jerk and she should not take him back. He never thought she would leave, now she did and now he wants her back. I honestly don't think he will change. She should stay gone while she has the chance. If she goes back to him now, she may never leave again. Look in your local phone book for counseling centers, she needs some professional help to get her through this. Good luck.
2007-09-10 10:13:10 · answer #4 · answered by zonkflower 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think this is more common than you think. They could really use a good counselor if they want to make it work. I think it will take a few months or better to make the changes on both sides to find hapiness.
2007-09-10 10:16:21 · answer #5 · answered by byroneann 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I thing , you are good person. I want to know you. because you are interesting
2007-09-10 10:14:12 · answer #6 · answered by johntumacho g 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say he has learn his lesson. The question is your friend. can she change and except who he is.
2007-09-10 10:11:47 · answer #7 · answered by ken401lam 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
live and learn is all i can say
2007-09-10 10:30:57 · answer #8 · answered by charlesjerrell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋