Since my younger cousin got her gcse results and found out she has achieved 2 A*'s 3 A's and the rest B's is it wrong for me to feel envy over her because i got C's and D's basically i more or less failed! Is this evil to feel like jealous of her??
2007-09-10 10:02:20 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
I am 18 and pregnant and blonde but dont hold them against me
2007-09-10 10:09:41 · update #1
18 blonde and pregnant! Love it. You have a sense of humor;) No I always felt some envy towards my brother who graduated validvictorian of his class while I fell somewhere in the middle. But more so because he got to do anything he wanted and I was always being told NO. Its just wasnt fair. Im sorry, but when it comes down to it, you can go to a community college your first few years if you so choose, and not to mention, what job has anyone applied for that required you to give them your GPA? Let alone a copy of your degree??? Unless you plan to be a dr, dont stress, just do the best you can and know you have tried;)
2007-09-10 11:05:09 · answer #1 · answered by Discount K 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is OK to feel like that, as long as you don't say or do anything hurtful about it. Grownups have all the same emotions, we just learn how to react to them properly.
NOW< straighten up your own school habits!
1] pay attention in class
2] write down what is on the board, and what teacher says is important
3] do all homework, the day it is assigned. Start long term projects by making a time line, or schedule, for proposal, research, outline, rough draft, second draft, and final project.
4] review all notes for each class every day, except maybe saturday night [ no quizzes next day ].
5] read ahead ifrequired - then you canask if you don't understand something
6] look up all definitions of new words, and WRITE IT DOWN!
Reading and writing are two different learning styles, reinforcing the memory.
7] if there is a concept you don't understand, outline it, so you will learn in two different styles, etc.
8] eat well, including some breakfast before school.
9] get 8 hours of sleep, at least
10] take a multivitamin
11] do some exercise every day - PE, walk, swim, dance
2007-09-10 17:20:04 · answer #2 · answered by Nurse Susan 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's normal to envy people you perceive as having something you need, or think you need.
Having said that, jealousy is a totally negative emotion that will eat away at you, not her.Maybe it would help you to tell her that you are jealous, but without being nasty.
Just a suggestion.
Congratulations on your baby to be. I have to say after all the things I have read on YA from 11 year olds on up having babies, that waiting until you are 18 to get pregnant seems positively mature!
2007-09-12 00:37:28 · answer #3 · answered by mannon 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really feel you've failed (and I don't think you have) maybe you could start a college course after you've had your baby.
Your envy towards your cousin could be a good thing if it spurs you on to achieve your full potential. Don't let it become a bad thing, think positivly and remember, being a good parent is the best achievment you can possibly ever have, be proud of yourself and do your best. Good luck with your baby and your future.
2007-09-10 17:16:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No it's not wrong. In fact it's human. There are always people who you will be envious of and people who are envious of you. Saying that, you can not let the jealousy eat away at you. Your cousin may have got better results but if you tried your hardest then you shouldn't feel ashamed. There will be many things you can do that she can't. Don't go through your life trying to measure up to other people because all you will do is see your own faults.
So be yourself, do all the things that you can do and enjoy your life.
2007-09-10 17:20:39 · answer #5 · answered by Jinxy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its not wrong to feel jealous but try not to make it a BAD feeling....look at it as something to help push you along...maybe even come up with the courage to ask her for some help. Let it push you even harder. Make a positive out of a negative feeling :)
2007-09-10 17:09:57 · answer #6 · answered by Jess & Baby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not at all, my cousin and i always seemed to be compaired to each other because we was the same age just take into account that you are different and you tried your best (if you did). Nobody is the same.
And congrates on the baby!!xx
2007-09-11 07:39:44 · answer #7 · answered by Hayley S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is a normal reaction it only becomes wrong if you allow it to show and treat her differently. This should spur you on to work really hard if you are doing resits or A levels.
2007-09-10 17:11:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you are not evil, you could be having a hormonal flex if those emotions are not your usual one's. You didn't fail the C's are passing, ask for a re-sit.
2007-09-10 17:18:07 · answer #9 · answered by D G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not wrong to feel that way, but it is wrong to act that way toward her. Maybe ask her what study methods she uses and see if she can help you get your grades up. This would be a constructive way of dealing.
2007-09-10 17:09:16 · answer #10 · answered by gilgamesh 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋