I(33) married her(21) 1 yr ago against willingness of my family bcz I loved her truely.Everything ws ok b4 she got this job.I helped her a lot many ways in getting the job.After 6 months of training she came back from middleast,went to her parents home without informing me even.Now she is determined to get a divorce bcz-
1.I dnt knw wt life is
2.Why my family refused her b4 marriage
3.I'm short tempered
4.1day I slap her
5.the other day I scold her
6.I dnt hv enough respect to her parents etc etc.
2007-09-10 09:59:49 · 30 answers · asked by betrayed2007 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
you sound like the kind of guy every woman doesn't dream of. maybe you should sort yourself out. idiot.
2007-09-10 10:03:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
You slapped and scolded her? Well, honestly, she should have reported you to the police... you should sit in jail and not in front of your computer.
Who the hell do you think you are? Maybe for you it is acceptable to mistreat a woman, but for normal persons this means a big offence.
Hopefully she gets a good lawyer and get out of this marriage as soon as possible, for her own sake of course.
I do not have any sympathy for you.
You feel like a victim now? Honestly, the only victim is she and I am sure she selected that job to go as far away as possible from you...
What do you expect? If you have problems with your anger and temper, try boxing as a sport, but don’t raise your hand against a woman.
Go home and cry with your mommy.
Really, I hope the very best for your wife, she is young and much better off without such a violent husband like you.
2007-09-13 04:42:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anita P 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She did not "go crazy" because of her job. She probably came to her senses and realized that she made a mistake. Be grateful that you did not waste a lot of time in a relationship with a person this volatile, and give her a divorce. Do not drag this out. Stop trying to understand the whole thing; you never will.
Marry an adult next time, but best wait until you grow up, too.
And consider the fact that if you indeed slapped her, you may have asked for it.
2007-09-10 17:41:19 · answer #3 · answered by countess almasy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Either the both of you learn to live together in harmony or you split. If your wife wants a divorce then give it to her, no use trying to stop someone who has made up their mind. If you think she is wrong and you are right, then you do what you feel is right.
If you dont want to divorce her, then do as she says. Apologize and always put what she wants above what you want. Go to her parents and tell them you dont want a divorce but you want to be forgiven for your past mistakes and given another opportunity to correct your mistakes. Suck up to them big time and they will convince their daughter not to leave you if they believe you have had a genuine change of heart. From now on always be extra polite and courteous to your in laws.
You decide what you want and learn to live with the choice you make.
2007-09-10 19:02:15 · answer #4 · answered by Pramod R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You slapped her!!!????? No other reason needed for her to leave you, what a loser you really must be and she has probably gone out and told others who have made her see sense. Basically you were lucky to have her as long as you did.
Thank God she got away when she did, what would you have done...kicked her if she annoyed you? 'the other day i scold her' shes not a dog or a child, shes your wife, well done to her I say and not a moment too soon. I hope you are ashamed and you've learnt your lesson, grow up!
2007-09-10 17:07:56 · answer #5 · answered by Holly2007 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
From what you are saying, I think your wife has plenty of reasons why she wants to divorce you. I would suggest counselling to find out what the root problem is so you can determine what to do next.
An airline job often requires extensive travel away from home, and she probably likes that freedom and doesn't want to be tied down to a place any more.
2007-09-10 17:04:36 · answer #6 · answered by Blue Jean 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think I need to clarify few things otherwise ppl will misunderstand me:
1) plz dont take all her allegetion to be truth for granted
2)my mom/dad lover her like their own daughter.the 'slap' thing happened 1 year ago when she name called my mother.Later I begged her to forgive me and she did.
3)I gave her the best love & care
4)I do respect my inlaws
5)she is more short tempered than I am.she has a habitual of throwing things down the floor
regards
betrayed2007
2007-09-10 18:25:05 · answer #7 · answered by betrayed_2007 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are going to hit her and disrespect her family, that of course she is goingt to leave, regardless of how much you help her in the past. Look at your parents right now, they care for you ad support you when you are young, you went against their wish. What did you do? Leave. Right. So she is just doing the same.
2007-09-10 17:07:51 · answer #8 · answered by ken401lam 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You slapped her and scolded her? Where do you think you are, Saudi Arabia? We treat women with respect here in America. Maybe you should go back to the middle east where women expect that kind of treatment.
2007-09-10 17:28:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Honest answer?
You sound like a real idiot to me. Hell, you even enter text like a 12 year old gossipy cheerleader. I'm surprised you didn't put OMG!!!111!! before every line.
I'd also like to shake the hand of whomever it was in the MiddleEast that taught your wife about self-respect and dignity.
2007-09-10 17:03:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, you SLAP her... you SCOLD her... of course she wants a divorce!!!
Why would anyone want to be with a man like you? You said it all anyway...you're short-tempered and you don't even respect her parents...who knows what other things your etc means?
2007-09-10 17:11:32 · answer #11 · answered by ♥♥♥MiSSY♥♥♥ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋