we think th at we settled for good,but it happens that we who unite together have to separateways
2007-09-10 09:14:37 · 11 answers · asked by germani 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No, though it may feel like it for a little while during the healing process.
2007-09-10 09:18:35 · answer #1 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As one who has a divorce under her belt already, and seemingly was headed that way again a second time around, I pondered this very question. It really bothered me...the idea that I possibly "failed" again. But I know I've done my best. Therefore, I made a conscious decision.
I say that you haven't FAILED until you have FAILED TO TRY!
If you really tried, gave it your all, played the game by the rules and did your best, and it still ended, you did NOT fail.
Failure is when you didn't try your best and screwed up, and then just bail before even trying to work through it.
I think people need to earn their way out of a relationship, but just because a relationship ends, doesn't mean you failed.
2007-09-10 09:29:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
not at all, since we really have little control over things. how can we really know if we are marrying the right person? we can evaluate, second guess, and weigh all the pros's and cons, but we can never comprehend all the factors involved. we live in a world limited to our senses, sometimes through no fault of our own things don't work out, it doesn't mean we did anything wrong. we didn't fail at all we just couldn't be with that person any longer. marriage is suppose to give advantage to not take advantage of and is based on a promise not circumstances. sometimes people do have to go their separate ways to maintain peace of mind, that is no reflection on u or anything u did.
2007-09-10 09:41:07 · answer #3 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seperation is not considered a falure, my husband and I seperated, after months and years of trying to make our marriage work.
When we seperated, we kept talking and keeping in contact with eachother, and that led us to communicate more and more, and pretty soon we were talking and getting along and falling back in love with eachother!!
We reconciled, renewed our vows, now we are fifteen years married, and have a wonderful 10 year old daughter!
2007-09-10 09:21:58 · answer #4 · answered by carriegreen13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its a last effort. if mistakes arent corrected in the next relationships...yes, then its a failure. if the next relationship is better. then it wasnt a failure. someone learned something.
2007-09-10 09:21:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
All we can do is try to get along. Failure is not an option.
2007-09-10 09:25:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Humans make mistakes evey single day. Isn't it unreasonable to think that we should always get marriage right?
2007-09-10 09:18:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes
2007-09-10 09:48:15 · answer #8 · answered by harold 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't quiet get your question. Need to be more complete.
2007-09-10 09:24:26 · answer #9 · answered by military_person 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it doesn't mean you have failed, it just means you tried your best!
2007-09-10 09:19:20 · answer #10 · answered by jpoveda2000 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋