How do I explain to my husband that I don't like to be groped all the time?

Question

Please help, I don't know how to get through to him. Thank you!

Or should I say most women don't like to be groped all the time.

Answer 1

Just because you are married doesn't give your husband the right to 'grope' you. You are not inexperienced teenagers who have no clue what to do in a relationship. Groping isn't fun and it isn't appealing. My husband does this often, and to him, it's just a bit of fun, but it really irks me sometimes, especially when I'm not in a good mood and have no desire to be cheered up. Usually I just get pissy with him, because explaining why just doesn't seem to work somedays.

It's not about intimacy issues, it's about decency and respect. When I'm laying around and relaxing, grope all you want. But when I'm busy with something, leave me be to get it done. There's nothing worse than being bothered when you have other things which must be done.

Answer 2

I guess that depends on how bad the "groping" is. Maybe its his way of touching you because he needs to have physical contact with you. Maybe if you hug him more or kiss him more, the "groping" will be toned down. Or maybe you've communicated this verbally but you are providing other signals that say "I really like it." I just want you to be aware that it might not just be purely sexual mindlessness on his part. Perhaps he is showing you his love in the only way he knows how.
Try some couples therapy. Maybe if you know the reason behind the "groping fixation" you won't mind so much.

Answer 3

WTF dill what is wrong with you? Women are not property... jeez

You have to just tell him, or show him how you want to be touched. See the problem is that most often men carry over to you what they did to other women. If it worked for sue it will work for sally, is the way many think. NOT TRUE. Women are different, if I like to be caressed, and we break up, then she likes to be groped, and he is caressin her, she will not really be into it. Thats like feeding strawberries to someone who likes cherries!

You have to just talk to him and tell him, not during, that what he does isnt workin for you. Tell him how you want him to touch you... My fiance did something that just didnt work for me, and I politely started the conversation asking him if there was anything I did that he didnt like, or anything he wishes I would do more, or differently. After he answered, he asked me, and i told him babe when you do that it feels akward for me, if you did it like this or that maybe it would be a litle better. Well it worked, there were no hard feelings, and there is no more problem.

But at the same time, there are times where I dont want to be groped, and times when I do, and he has to pay attention, just as I do to him, inorder to know that. Intimacy is being connected, its more than just stick and move and many guys just dont get that. I'm ultra lucky! He pays attention to my body, my responses, my voice and knows when its time to play, and time to romance.

So try talkin. Hope this helps.

Answer 4

If you've already told him you don't like to be groped and he's still doing it, you have other serious issues. He obviously doesn't respect you---does he have other abusive behaviors?

You should sit him down and tell him in no uncertain terms that his actions show he doesn't respect/love/cherish you. See what he says. If he continues, you need to get some counselling, with or without him. Good luck.

Answer 5

Tell him what you enjoy and what constitues 'groping'. Clearly, something about the groping makes you feel bad, so tell him that too.

Answer 6

be careful what you wish for...one day he just may stop groping you.
My first husband literally grabbed my boobs when we'd hug. He came at me with both hands in claw pose out front. When I said something to him he laughed because he didn't realized that he did that. But he stopped, that was the beginning of the end because he seemingly became self conscience and didn't know how to hug me anymore.

Answer 7

Here is a little secret for all you man out there we don't like it when we are washing the dishes and you come up from behind and put your hands where ever you want because you know we can't do anything about it with our hands wet. We don't like to be man handled like that. Now If you would come up from behind and kiss us on our neck along with a nice little hug that's what we like. Please not the other way, we might not say anything and laugh it off but I'm telling you men we don't like it.We like a nice soft easy hug,one that lets us know you love us,not the kind of hug that tells us you want sex and you want it now . Women are like delicate flowers you treat us with TLC and we will love you forever.

Answer 8

Sit him down and look him in the eye and tell him you do not appreciate it at all and would like him to stop doing this in public or where ever. You're body is yours even after you are married and he has to respect you if you are in the mood or not. Women are not pieces of meat to be fondled where and when a man wants. Tell him if he doesn't stop then cut him off and see how long before he is going to the store to by a lot of lube.

Answer 9

sit him down and explain to him how you dont like it.....if he continues the start groping him in front of people and embarss him

Answer 10

Oh my goodness....my x husband did that all the time and I hated it !! I told him nicely and I told him not so nice..He would pout for a few days then went right back to doing it..nothing worked for me....Good luck to you..