What would you do about this?

Question

My daughter is 10 weeks old and goes to daycare while I am at school. Which is from about 7:30 when she is dropped off until 3:30 when I pick her up. EVERYDAY when I pick her up she is always on the other side of the room in a crib by herself and she is awake most of the time kinda fussing. When I ask if they have interacted with her at all today they will usually say we only interacted with her when we fed her and changed her diaper and then when she was screaming. It just makes me mad that I pay 9 dollars an hour for lazy daycare workers. I have tried talking to the head person and she said she would do something about it but she never has. I just dont no what to do about them. Should I talk to them more about it or switch daycares? I am only 14 so its not like they will listen to me or anything.

I do live with my parents but everyone in my family works so noone would be able to watch her.

Emily-I dont think it is any of your business who is paying for it as long as she is getting cared for it shouldnt matter. Mind your own business and leave me alone. Your obviously the immature one if all you can do is criticize me!!!

Answer 1

I would definately switch daycares. If possible, try to get a day pass to see how they interact with your daughter. Even at 10 weeks, she should still be getting attention during her awake times. You may want to look into a local home daycare that watches only a few kids. $9 sounds pretty expensive, I'd shop around and see what else there is.

Kudos to you for wanting the best for your daughter. She'll thank you for the decision later.

Answer 2

Babies need to be held, cuddled, and interacted with all day long, especially this young. What goes on now in her day will affect her for life. Don't let anyone tell you different, like she doesn't know better. That is so not true. I applaud you for having that maternal instincts to know something isn't right even as young as you are. I would take my baby out of there now, today. Just make sure that you give a reason that will get you out of a contract if there is one. If you have any family, a grandma, aunt, sister, mom, or anybody you know well that could watch your baby and love her while you in school, that would be the best thing for her. If you don't have any family that can help, ask around or look in the paper. There are a lot of stay at home moms that would watch your baby for a lot cheaper than 9 dollars an hour. I am one of them. That way your baby is not with someone that could care less about them. Another thing I would suggest, your baby is probably starving for love and attention after being in a situation like that. I would take her into my bed for a couple weeks and snuggle her close all night long. At least then she will have human companionship for the night. Just follow warnings about having a baby in the bed with you. Make sure she can't get caught in pillows or blankets or anything. Imagine your baby has a little love tank. Each day that goes by in that day care her tank gets emptier and emptier. She needs something extra to fill it up again. After you get her back on track you can move her back to her crib. I hope this helps, I admire your love for your daughter.

Answer 3

You are young but no matter how young you are, they should interact with your child. Do the other kids play with her? If not I would switch to avoid a whole bunch of confusion. that is your child that you love. She doesn't have any special needs or anything does she? She is not too young to be going through separation anxiety. Tell the next daycare that she cries and fusses a lot when you are not there, but as daycare workers, they should know that. Just tell them they may have to take out some time with her. If htis is an everyday thing, it may be naptime and she doesn't go to sleep. Ask them that. If they say no, then switch.

Answer 4

I remember when you asked about her head last week... My answer remains the same, you really should look into switching daycares. They obviously do not care to interact with her, especially if nothing has changed after you repeatedly discuss this issue (and others!) with them. I know you're having a difficult time right now, but it is in your child's best interest to find a care center that will actually CARE for your baby and not neglect her. Honestly honey I would've already switched by now...

Look up new centers. You may have to pay more, it may not be as close, but this is your daughter's well-being at stake, and it will definitely be worth the money/distance (if it costs more for a better place, it may not).

Please please look into finding a better place to watch your daughter while you are at school. You're away from her for 8 hours. In that 8 hours, she needs human interaction and stimulation. If she's not getting it, it may cause her developmental delays or even emotional issues... Yes, it can be a problem... Finding a better center should be at the top of your list of things to do! Don't even bother trying to reason with them at this point. No one is listening obviously.

I'm sorry you're having to deal with this, but I'm sure things will work out. Best wishes sweetheart.

Answer 5

Talk to your mother and get her to help you. Your or mother's next step should be to talk to the daycare OWNER and explain that the baby is being neglected and it could jeopardize her license. It sounds to me like the baby is only being fed and changed and after that, tossed aside until the next feeding and diaper.

Daycare workers are required to include all children in socialization activities. If things don't change, your mother should talk to the Licensing Agency and tell them what is going on with your baby.

I don't condemn you for having a baby at 14; you've received enough of that already and you are learning how very hard it is to have a baby and get an education. I would just ask you to get on birth control pills NOW and don't roll over for any bloke just looking for a score.

Answer 6

Switch daycare centres! Before you enrol her anywhere else though, visit the centre and take a look around. If they have nothing to hide they will be happy to let you do this for as long as you like. Watch how the staff interact with the children that are there and find out as much as you can about routines etc, and staff : child ratios. Don't send her anywhere that you dont feel 100% comfortable with.

Answer 7

Have you asked your mother or another adult to speak with the daycare director/owner? If not, have a talk with your guidance counselor so that s/he could tell you how to better express your concern or how to go about changing daycare. Do not forget in to put in writing that you are concern that your daughter is not being properly interacted with and that she is always crying when you come to pick her up. At this age she does NEED to be picked up and held or put in a swing or rocking cradle for periods of time. Put it in writing, in the event that you do have to change daycare. Do not forget to write that dates and the times that this is happening. You will be able to show just cause. I don't want you to sue the daycare, but I don't want them to be able to sue you or your family because you took her out of that daycare center. I do think that the people are not listening to you because of your age. So definitely take an adult or friend with you when you pick your daughter up, to show your concern is justified.

Answer 8

switch.....and may i suggest you might want to check into a home daycare....a smaller number of kids so more one on one time, usually they only have like 2 kids under age 2 at a time. shes too little to worry about this now but when she starts eating regular food she will get better meals. plus most home dc providers are stay at home moms.....so they have "mom sense" not just something they read out of some book. make sure of course if you do this the provider is licensed and is CPR and first aid certified. no matter how old you are, you know your baby and what is best for her....dont let anyone tell you that you dont, if your first instinct is to switch stick with it. hope everything works out.

Answer 9

Are you living with your mother
If so, tell her the problem and ask it she is able to pick your daughter up a few times, and she if she can do anything, or if you can switch daycares. Yes look into switching daycare, but see if you mom can help

Answer 10

Your age has nothing to do with it. U have money and "money talks". The head of the daycare does no want to lose anyone so u need to talk to the person that is the boss of whoever it was that you were talking to because everyone has a boss. Let them kno everyday u are fed up about this problem and threaten to leave if this problem keeps happening. They dont want to see u go so they will fix the problem.