Hi people,pls answer this question !!?

Question

Most men are known to fantasise about,ogle at or flirt with scantily clad,oomph-oozing,sexy women,but when it comes to marriage and choosing a life partner,they often opt for a much more subdued,well-dressed,well mannered and homely girl who is a perfect wife and mother material.Even if they choose the former type of girls,most marriages end up in divorce sooner or later.
What is the reason behind this? Why this bifourgation?
Expecting some interesting and sincere answers.Thnx...

Correction: Bifurcation, not Bifourgation. Thnx...

Answer 1

This is not just a male issue. Same issue goes on with women who won't date the nice guy and would rather date the strong jock who will treat her like crap.

The answer is simple. We all want the best for ourselves in every situation. When we are just dating and having fun we opt. for the characteristics we think we will enjoy. Later, once we wise up, we opt. for the person who will make the best long term partner.

Plus we are hard wired to desire sex and the sexier the better but if we make major life decisions just based on sex and looks, when those fade or become stale there is nothing left to base the relationship on.

Answer 2

Most marriages end in divorce yes. 2/3 of the time it is the women who initiate the divorce. Now, there are no statistics to indicate the prevalence of divorce among the first type of woman or the latter so we can't make any assumptions about which type results in a longer marriage based on them.

However, most people agree that the reason men prefer marriage to the latter rather than the former is because the latter has a lesser risk of infidelity. The leading causes of divorce are just ridiculous, but of the ones that make sense infidelity leads. From this we can say a man is better off marrying the latter type of woman.

Answer 3

Men are more visual, while women are more tactile in their sexual arousal. Pictures or videos of attractive women turn men on, while women - some are more turned on by steamy literature, fantasy, or touch/smell. Or the fact that a guy is attentive.

The attractive and scantily clad women may stimulate men, but when they are looking for a life partner they are looking for much more - as men are intelligent beings just as women are. It is not just women who look at men and say "hot but not marriage material" They most likely choose a woman that they also find intellectually stimulating, trustworthy, etc, too

It is a myth that a man is more likely to get divorced from a very attractive women and many wives can be sexy. Attractive women can have solid values, etc. It is just when you add the fact that the women are scantily clad and flirtatious - if they continue to act that way towards other men while married - yes, there is a high rate of divorce.

But all in all there are no statistics that say attractive woman = divorce. And it is not "one way or the other" - where attractiveness=flirtarious and homely=commitable.

Answer 4

The oomph-oozing women satisfies mans animal instincts whereas other types satisfies his social instincts.This goes for women too,would any women marry a guy who has a well shaped muscular body but does not care for family etc?This conflict is age old since man entered so called civilised phase.It causes two extreme deviations in a person,first, some make use of knife and botox,other,when man don't bother about big paunch or going bald and women stop using push up bras and being bothered about their moustaches :)

Answer 5

Sex was designed as a means by which marital relationships could be strengthened. Apart from marriage I suppose it would feel good, but it wouldn't bring the same joy of intimacy.

Marriage is a bonding between two people who become like one person together. Why would you bond with someone you have very little in common with. You want a friend to grow old with. If he/she's beautiful too, there's nothing wrong with that.

Also, I've noticed that guys would rather have a pretty female assistant than a pretty boss. Maybe it's a threatening thing to them/us. Who knows?

Answer 6

Well, I think both men and women see people they think are attractive, but wouldn't be good life partner material. It seems that most men and women realize that a relationship cannot be built only upon physical attractiveness. I think the divorce rate has to do with alot of other things, and isn't related to that. Personally, I'd want to marry someone I'm compatible with. I could say, for example, that I think Jessica Simpson is attractive, but I also think she's an uninteresting moron, so I doubt that we'd make a good pair.

Answer 7

Wow. Ok, I'll do my best to explain this.

There's a concept called "Demonstration of Higher Social Value," (HSV) which is a combination of how people act around you, the way you carry yourself, attitude, and how you look. It's got many nuances, but those are the basics.

Social value is transitory, but it's what we use to appraise potential partners. Because it's a temporary thing, it's meaningless for anything but meeting people; if I demonstrate low social value when you're around, but high social value when you're not, then you will peg me lower as a potential mate regardless of what you 'know' about me. However, in a long-term relationship, HSV is re-evaluated on a regular basis.

Many of the things that people do to demonstrate higher social value also demonstrate health, wealth, good habits, and many of the other traits that really do make you a good mate. But taken individually, any one particular thing that you see about your prospect may be misleading, and collectively, higher social value can be absolutely no help at all when going for long-term commitment. In those cases, the only type of people that will succeed are those that commit long term to providing value to their partner.

Very often, people with consistently low ability to demonstrate social value will compensate by committing to the first person that is also willing to commit to them. The ability to commit to someone else, and the ability to demonstrate value, are two completely different skills, that often vie for practice time. In other words, without being strictly focused on one or the other, your ability will slip. It's what engineers call, "coupled design."

And make no mistake, being able to manage your emotions--to either present yourself in the best light, or to overcome difficulties in a relationship--is a skill. Furthermore, you are always subconsciously evaluating whether your priority is to keep what you have, or to find something better. Our culture right now is at the point where other factors such as work and entertainment often *detract* from social value, instead of reinforcing it. When that happens, no matter how committed to your relationship you are, you just don't appear valuable to your partner.

It's a tricky subject to explain clearly--most of this is instinctive for me--but I hope I didn't go off on too many tangents for you. Take care!

Answer 8

Wow, what a difference between this and the "American" Answers equivalent. 90% of the people on it (there) seem to be 14 yr. olds. What a relief to find some adults out there.

GREAT answers, all, and not a sarcastic one in the bunch . I think I'm going to have to move to India.

One thing to consider in addition, because there is a layer of "politeness" in your culture that most crude Americans don't bother with, you may not realize that men actually think about sex constantly (whether they want to or not). Because of their visual nature, they are constantly stimulated, once again, whether they want to be or not.

Just be thankful that you are female.

One last point...spelling is bifurcation.

Good luck...and you can't be too careful. Knowing many Indian and American men both, I believe your chances of being happy are much greater there.

Answer 9

Excitement comes from instinct. Anything that surges ur instinct is catching ur attention, be it a sixer by Sachin, out-burst of Advani(which generally means nothing), a shooting star or a sexy woman!
Now, when it comes to marriage, a lot of aspects, other than that instinct comes into foreplay, some of them are definately moe important than that instinct or momentary excitement if u want to call it. So, people do pay respect to them & choose a partner accordingly. See, I have used the word "partner" so it applies equally to the ladies also.

Answer 10

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