2007-09-10 08:46:17 · 57 answers · asked by Anonymous in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
I would tell her.
2007-09-10 08:48:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'd say she is fat, if she is indeed fat. So many of the girls I know are really not fat, but rather have a few extra pounds and if they ask me, I tell them there they are gorgeous! I don't like skinny, rail thin girls. If you can't wrestle around and have some fun without getting hurt, go back to the shopping mall!
Just remember this, it is easier to be honest in how you feel now, than to have to explain yourself later. An honest person never has to remember what they said...
2007-09-10 09:08:45 · answer #2 · answered by Just Life, Trying To Live It. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Truthfully it would depend on the friend and how long I've known her. If she asked and I thought she gained a few pounds I'd probably tell her, "yea, but you finally look like an adult female and not a 12 year old boy! You got hips now! " If she was getting a little heavy and looked uncomfortable *AND* she asked me that, I'd tell her, "you look uncomfortable and I'm not skinny any more either, lets get our fat butts on a diet!"
For the record, I've actually HAD both of these conversations. lol
2007-09-10 08:56:39 · answer #3 · answered by honeys9702 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dont tell her she is fat, but maybe suggest working out a bit more so if she feels fat then maybe she will start feeling better about herself. Offer to work out with her or possibly go on some fun diet together. Help her out and make her feel good about herself because even if someone is overweight there outlook on life and how they feel always means more then a number on a scale. Good luck!
2007-09-10 08:58:27 · answer #4 · answered by SEA GAL 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she honestly can't tell by looking in the mirror or weighing herself - then she is probably in the realm of normal weight. So in that case she is asking you because she feels "fat" or she feels she needs someone to tell her she's not. Both are signs of insecurity. Either way, there is no need to push your negative opinion on her as she doesn't really need you to tell her if she's fat or not. Just respond with something like.. Why, do you think you are overweight or something? and see what she says. She just may be having a bad day and wants someone to make her feel better. Avoid the loaded question...
2007-09-10 08:50:28 · answer #5 · answered by I, Sapient 7 · 9⤊ 0⤋
I would ask her to describe fat, and then I would ask her does she fit that description. Because if I am her friend I wouldn't want to lie to her. That way I won't feel bad if I had to tell her she is, and she has a guide line to go by now that she has describe fat, and compared the description to herself. now she know without me telling her anything.
2007-09-10 08:56:43 · answer #6 · answered by swishersweets97 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would persuade her to come to the reality of the situation by asking...
Well let's look at this height and weight chart on the internet. You are "whatever" height and "whatever" weight. What does it say? And she will read the chart and say, oh, it says I'm about 20 lbs over for my age and height and weight or whatever. Then offer some suggestions about how she can handle this. Maybe you guys can go for a daily walk together.
2007-09-10 08:52:49 · answer #7 · answered by kathy s 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It would depend on my friend and how over weight they are. If it is medically necerssary for them to lose weight I wouldn't hesitate but would find a way to do it without hurting their feelings. If slightly over weight I would tell them only if I thought they already knew and just wanted someone to confirm it. But in all cases I would try and help them lose like joining a Gym with them or go walking with them and so on
2007-09-10 09:07:11 · answer #8 · answered by HHHarry 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if this person is truly a friend YES I would be truthful. BUT I would also NOT use the word FAT. I would say like well you are stocky, or overweight. Something like this.
2007-09-10 09:21:04 · answer #9 · answered by GRUMPY 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u r really her fried,u need to hell the truth....the truth from a real friend helps the person to change, and u owe her that
truth can be shaped in so many ways....so if u told her that she's overwieght and need to go through changing that(word of FAT hurts sometimes)... and u have tell her how wonderfull person even she's fat, by that way yr truth will be not crul to here when she hears it
2007-09-10 09:11:11 · answer #10 · answered by nano_angels 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I probably wouldn't come right out and say it.... I might say something like, No, but if you think you are then maybe you should try to lose some weight. Your friend shouldn't have put you on the spot like that to begin with, but just tell her in a not so obvious way.
2007-09-10 08:51:09 · answer #11 · answered by Floridagirl 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋