I feel so ugly, I used to like looking in th mirror but now since I'm pregnant I just hate everything....?

Question

I just think I will never look the same. How can I get my motivation back up. I'v been going thru alot and I feel helpless. Any help woud be appreciated.

Answer 1

OMG, I'm glad I was not the only one who felt this way! I felt so ugly during pregnancy, not at first though. Once I got huge and gained more and more weight I started to freak out. I wondered if my husband was attracted to me anymore and if my body would ever be the same. It got even worse after I had the baby because I just wanted to be back to my pre-pregnancy self again. After having my third baby 7 weeks ago, I learned to kind of get over it. My body will never be the same, I'll never be a size five again and it seems I can hold my kid's on my post pregnancy "mama hips" without using my hands! But, I have three gorgeous kids to show for it and a husband who tells me I am beautiful every day. I suggest you just think to yourself that the image you see of your changing body on the outside doesn't compare to the miraculous things your body is doing on the inside. You are nurturing this life inside of you and all the stretchmarks and weight gain are worth it for this beautiful baby you are "growing". I wish you the best and I hope you feel better. BTW, no matter what you look like your baby will look at you like you are the most beautiful woman in the world and you will forget, even if for just a second, everything bad you think about yourself, I promise!

Answer 2

You know... I think just about everyone I know has felt the SAME exact way... I have 2 kids... both times, I was scared to death that I may never look the same.
Don't worry.. remember, you have a whole another little person inside of you. Most of it is baby weight anyways...
and of course, you'll notice a big difference after delivering the baby... but even after, give it couple weeks, you'll be back to your old self...
Being pregnant is quite a bit to deal with... physically and emotionally... and of course since you can't do everything like you used to be able to, it's natural that you feel helpless... it's all natural... you are not alone in feeling this way...
just remember, it'll be over soon enough...
keep your head up and stay strong...
hope this helps.....

Answer 3

Join the club of feeling out of sorts, and remember your perception of how you look has a lot to do with how you feel. Pregnancy makes us feel bloated, fat, etc...so when you look in the mirror thats what you see. Someone else may see a glorious Mother Earth, carrying a wonderful blessing, or something like that. Right now you don't need to be motivated to look like you did before your were pregnant. After the baby is born is the best time for that. Now you want to be healthy and happy so your baby can be as healthy as possible. Having a healthy baby will motivate you to get back to your gorgeous self, and don't worry you will. When pregnant we are all helpless, including the growing baby, you because your body is no longer your own and the baby because of its needing your body. It is a short time in relationship to your lifetime. Its ok, and remember pregnancy doesn't last forever.

Answer 4

There is no question that pregnancy changes your appearance, for awhile. If you have a picture of yourself when you were a child, take a look at it. Fortunately, your body has changed, and you are a woman now. Women have thousands of ways that they look. Appearances vary not only from woman to woman, but from day to day, for the same woman!

It seems like a long time until you will get your figure back, but it will happen naturally. Do exercise gently. Walk if you have your doctor's approval. You might also ask your doc about doing certain weight training exercises. Nothing that causes you to strain, but perhaps light leg lifts, arm lifts, etc. Stretch. Breathe. Learn something new. Do you meditate? Dance? Learn how.

This is a time to be in touch with things other than your outward appearance. And a time to embrace change, especially in yourself. Look in the mirror. Look until you get past the feeling of "ick" if that is how you feel. Then really really look at how your body is developing, and think about what is happening. What a miracle, and you are part of it!

Answer 5

I think you should see a doctor. It is normal to feel fairly lumpy when you are are pregnant, but when you are helpless, and feeling very overwhelmed, you might need to tell your doctor. I bet she's heard it before.
Another thing, this is a reality check. What you look like is NOT who you are. This is a valuable lesson, best learned before you start having children, so you can tell THEM!
Fat or thin, wrinkled or not, wide or narrow, you are still you, with all your faults and delights.
You (and your baby) are the thing INSIDE your skin, not just the fluffy blonde, leggy, tan outside.
That thing that talks to yourself, and sees you as fat or thin or just fine. That thing that loves you, no matter what.
Please try to concentrate on the wonderful glorious miracle going on inside of you, right now. Talk to your baby. Dream with your baby.
You are not ugly. You are never more beautiful! A pregnant woman is an empowered, ALIVE, walking miracle. You are doing something fine, and unselfish. Enjoy it!
You are more powerful than the most rich, awesome king who ever lived-you are giving LIFE to another human being. This is your chance to be MAGIC-REVEL IN IT.
Take really good care of yourself-and I don't mean, eat every pie you can find-I mean, eat well, so you have lots of energy and beautiful skin. Use vitamin E oil to rub on your belly to help with stretching. Try not to eat like a pig.
Exercise-walk, swim, play tennis, because it helps you to have more energy, to get ready for labor (hard work), and teaches you a good life-long lesson.
Hang out with your friends, and family and RELAX as much as possible. After your baby is born, you will not be able to really relax for about 20 years.
Learn to meditate, and do yoga, since you will need it your whole life. Your baby will love it, too.
Good luck, honey.

Answer 6

Talk to your doctor - you may need an anti depressant - if you have depression while pregnant you are 85% more likely to have post partum depression - both are very serious and need a doctos dianosis and monitoring.

If you are jsut having a batch of the pregnancy blues, make your man take you out for dinner and a movie.

Spend some time with good friends and have a part y of some sort - even jsut a lunch get together will help you need some laughter.


You should alrea remember and renind yoruself often taht everythign you are going through is the rpice to ay to bring a baby into this world and the baby is well worth the prize.


Good luck and hope you find some help - pregnancy is a tiem to enjoy yourself nto to be worrying endlessly.

Answer 7

Aweee...don't feel ugly! I am sure that you are beautiful! Pregnancy is a beautiful thing, although most of us feel bloated, huge, uncomfortable, and simply cannot fit into anything. Just think of it this way, your body is shifting and growing and adjusting for this new life that is growing inside of you. Take the extra time to put on a bit of makeup or go buy a nice dress and treat yourself to dinner. You are not helpless, you have motivation within you, you just have to find it and make sense of it.

Answer 8

Don't worry. I had a baby last week and i was sooooo fat because i was swollen. Now a week after I can almost fit into my old jeans. It goes away pretty fast just take care of yourself. Also, you can go to the salon andfix yourself up! i did while i was pregnant. After you have your baby your body will be slightly different but just think about your cute baby. After he/she is born you will have more motivation! You can also try taking maternity photos. that will give you an excuse to buy a new outfit and get your hair done.

Answer 9

I'm only 19 weeks and I feel the exact same way...it's so hard to get ready for work when none of my clothes fit anymore, my complexion is ugly, my hair isn't anything close to gorgeous like they said it would be...but at the end of the day when you're sitting back on the couch and you feel the little wiggles in your belly and look at the ultrasound pics and realize there's a reason for all the ickiness it tends to make it ok. Hang in there, this is only a speck of time in the great scheme of things =)

Answer 10

I've never gone through this myself but I've definately read that this is a very common feeling. Just remember your hormones are taking over your body right now. You may want to check out some good fitness videos for pregnant women, i.e. Denise Austin made one, I think, Gabriella Reese... it might make you feel better. Try to feel better about yourself, you're going to become a mother! What a wonderful thing!