Please Sort My Head Out?

Question

Using the pill and i ended up becoming pregnant.This was by a friend of a few years whod become more than a colleague.It only happened once.He then told me he had a gfriend but ill never know.He took me for scans to the hospital and more or less told me that i could go to his house whenever etc Id been battling amphetamine psychosis and had been diagnosed with depression some years previous.I learned I had miscarried.The shiock of first learning i was pregnant, thren tyhe miss , all in a matter of a month/6 weeks, plus the above probs i was fighting,I broke and sent him a few suicidal texts being so low etc He showed a manager at our workplace, apparantly out ofd concern.Though he never wants to speak to me again now and has changed his phone number, Ive been distraught over this for some time, a few months... ive written but he wants nothing to do with me.I just wish that he would speak to me .....................

It is difficult to move on as we work on the same office floor.I love my work ( truthfully) and im not requesting a transfer.It does hurt as althought the suicidal texts made me seem crazy,he knew me fr 3 years before id ever taken drugs.

Answer 1

What ever your problems are, you can be sure that this guy doesn't care for you, doesn't want to be with you, is making it perfectly clear he wants nothing to do with you, and you can not continue to think that he will ever come around, because he will not. Bottom line, he took advantage of an opportunity, you gave him that opportunity, then tragedy struck, and your life seemed to begin to crumble and you feel like you're caught in a whirlwind, and you have one to turn to for help.
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Answer 2

Honey, you have to be totally honest with yourself, or you are heading for another fall.
He clearly has not really concerns for you, and you are wasting your time and emotions on him.

He is history, kick him to the kerb and move on. You KNOW its the only answer, he AIN'T WORTH IT. What ever relationship you did have is dead, you cannot revive it.

Remember DENIAL is not a river in Egypt, but its a place you need to recognise.

Start a new chapter babe, look for another job, go out and meet other people, take up an interest where you cant meet "Like minded" people, and remember there are thousands of strangers out there, waiting to become a friend or more. You are not alone, in being lonely.

Start the new Chapter of your life, you never know, it could be brilliant, and the best thing that has ever happened to you - Give it a whirl - have a happy life - Good luck x.

Answer 3

Well for a start ignore the comment by alan attack because he sounds a lot worse than you.
With the problems you have i dont think this chap was fair as he knew you had problems but did not make the situation any better..I know you have problems and because he acted the way he did i think you are lucky to be rid of him.Sorry about the miscarriage but suicide is so final and achieves nothing in the end..You seem as so you want to carry on as you are asking for help and thats good..Get proffesional help and get back on track with your life and live life for you only..then when things get better you will meet the right person..dont let the past eat you away..hope all turns out well for you

Answer 4

The only advice I can give to you is that you must move on. It sounds like a painfull journey you have been on but it really is time to leave it behind. Quite often what people miss most when a relationship ends is the thought of what may have been. He is gone, but your life continues without him, as it should. Its very easy for someone to say "try to feel less of a victim & manifest a more possitive outlook", but I think firstly that you can do it & secondly that you certainly should. You will be fine.xxx

Answer 5

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Answer 6

You look suffering standard melancholy, the 1st difficulty to do is end annoying approximately it, its ok to experience that way and remember that its a chemical imbalance. you're able to make certain whether you pick for to take drug selection magnificent away as thats what maximum docs propose firsty as none are o.k. geared up to information melancholy victims. You do choose for some pyschological help if achieveable as they are in a position to furnish you some functional kit to handle temper variations while they take place. you will additionally could commence watching the source of the melancholy in some unspecified time interior the destiny in case you pick for to work out this off as quickly as and for all. anybody has lapses, there would not could be a clarification for them so do no longer beat your self up approximately it, attempt to education relaxing while achieveable whether its track, a shower or some thing which you like doing as stress is the gas for temper swings.

Answer 7

You need to ask yourself why it is so important that this man speaks to you and is your friend. He has abused your trust, let you down and hurt you yet you still chase him.
Sit down and take a good long hard look at yourself and your life, work out whats important, set yourself some small goals and work on achieving them. Banish this man from your thoughts and let him go. I know you probably think you cant but YOU CAN. You dont need him. I would think about going along to your doctor and talking through some of your problems, maybe some counselling would benefit you. Good luck to you xxx

Answer 8

He really doesn't sound like much of a friend.
You are still in a bad place but you really, really need to shut that part of your life off. You can go back & deal with it all later - but you HAVE to get yourself well first.
Forget him for the moment. He was probably scared - of you, what was happening, what he did - there's no reason to think HE was/is any more "together" than you seem to be!
Look after yourself for now - sort out the issues with him later.

Answer 9

OK, this guy is thinking that you are just too high maintainance for him. The suicide thing was too much, don't ever do that again. You should prob. get some help from a trained professional. I would have changed my number too, it's just too hard to hook up with someone that high maintanance. Don't expect him to speak to you.

Answer 10

I hope that my answer does not offend you. Sometimes when you pray to the Creator,,,you actually receive what you had asked for. Pray for knowledge,wisdom,and understanding. If you get these things you will be able to deal with or to change all those things that cause your life to be unhappy. If you do not get what you asked for.......it was still free.