Female Virgo & Male Scorpio?

Question

I'm a female virgo who has been talking to a male scorpio for almost a year now. When we first met, he and his fiance had just broken off their engagement. For the past year he's been coming on and then pulling away. But each time he comes back around (about every 3 weeks), we get just a little closer each time. And a couple of weeks ago when I told him that I did not understand his intentions, his response was "I'm a good guy and I have nothing but good intentions". So I guess my question is: Is this typical behavior for a scorpio? Does the process go this slow with them?

And by the way, we have NOT slept together...

Answer 1

Most scorpio men I know and have dated are straight-up and up front. I have never known a wishy-washy scorpio man. This is not his character!!

Also, one year is not slow for a scorpio. Be careful...he may be ready to sting!!!

Answer 2

Scorpios tend to suspicious of everyone they often cover this up by either withdrawing away or start putting down others rather than dealing with their own situation. Scorpios also hate to give up any of their control over situations so they will pull away from anyone taking away their control. Scorpios many don't care who they hurt if gets them again. Scorpios want to have things their way.. they're attitude is my way or the high way. Virgos have that same attitude of my way or the highway. You both are too much alike to be a happy couple. You both might be happy while putting someone down you both don't like but that's not a good thing to do. You both should find either a Cancer or a Capricorn or Pisces to mate with. Stay clear of Aquarius please leave Aquarius alone.. Aquarius never done you any harm! I know you don't listen to advise you both will do the exact opposite as I advise unless you try to prove this last line wrong! If you two do get married you will likely be faithful to each other but late long way down the road you will both split apart searching for greener pasture in other word more excitement.. when this happens you both are born out of your skull.. cause you both are too much alike! Exception is if you can accent on your few differences then you could have a happy life but that won't be easy!

Answer 3

Virgo and Scorpio

Is it true that we learn the most from those we love? If so, your Scorpio lover has much to teach you. The Virgo/Scorpio combination can be mystical. If you have known and loved different Scorpios, each one will be unique and have a different spiritual gift for you.

Ruled by Pluto, your lover won't allow you to analyze him or her too thoroughly, for as soon as you do, he or she will change and surprise you. You can never really know a Scorpio; their feelings run deep underground to the very roots of their souls, and it would take a lifetime to figure Scorpios out. Do you know what makes them so supremely sexy? Confidence -- Scorpios have it in spades. Not prone to being egotistical, they have a very good grasp on their strengths and limitations, as you do. They work well within parameters, with incredible efficiency, intensity and focus. In other words, they use what they have to the max.

Scorpios show very few of their feelings on the surface. Still waters run so deep (Scorpio is a water sign), you may never know the full extent of your Scorpio's love for you. Scorpios are possessive, which may initially annoy you (Virgos need time to analyze a relationship and don't like to be rushed). But when you finally do commit, you will experience Scorpio's intense compassion, generosity, loyalty and fidelity.

Signs that are two signs away from one another in the zodiac form an opportunity aspect with each other's Sun signs -- indicating just how good a Scorpio can be for you! You are a worrier, but a Scorpio has such strength and power that you will be calmed by your lover's presence. Scorpios aren't reckless; they plan for the future and know where they're going -- very appealing qualities to you. Moreover, Scorpios like to save money, and when they do spend, their purchases are well thought out. You don't have extravagant needs either, and a big nest egg makes you feel secure.

Your Scorpio escapes the world sometimes, and so do you. Nothing helps either one of you feel new again better than a change of environment, so traveling to a place near water or the mountains could be especially good for you two. The old saw, "a change is as good as a rest" must have been said by a Virgo because Virgos feel better after any trip, even business trips. Virgos are nothing if not self-sufficient, and your lover will pay you enormous respect for that quality.

Sex is particularly wonderful with a Scorpio. The 8th house, which rules material gifts, is under the natural rulership of Scorpio. Thus, Scorpios understand the potential for gift-giving's transformation power in a way no other sign can. Scorpios have enormous spiritual depth because they are a sensitive, emotional water sign. As an earth sign, you often hesitate on the emotional shore, afraid to dive into the dark and bottomless sea of passion -- yet this lover should be able to explore the very depths of the ocean of love. Unlike other solely spiritual signs, Scorpios are lusty and erotic, and expect here-and-now physical passion, too. Scorpios understand that great lovemaking is both a ritual of holy purity and wanton abandon in the heat of love. Your Scorpio will raise your expectations of pleasure and bring you to a level of passion you never thought possible. As a water sign, Scorpio will stir your heart and bring out untouched and undiscovered emotions in you.

Don't be too literal, too inquisitive, or too determined to get to the bottom of your lover's psyche. Scorpios need mystery and privacy and, oddly enough, you do too (although you may never have considered it before). Don't misread Scorpio's silences or let them bring you down. Offer your Scorpio your trust, and he or she will give you unimagined delights in return, with all the stability, fidelity, and security you also crave. This lover was meant for you.

Answer 4

As a scorp I have more issues with virgo women pulling back after the advancements of a scorpio than anything (or at least my experience, as we get closer, the virgos in my life pulled back into their cocoon and took some time for them to finally talk again it seems)

I don't know if it's something personally he is detecting from you that is making him pull away or just he was hurt from before and don't want this to happen to you two or what...

Scorpios do need some alone time occasionally... it's not you, we just have to find our cocoon to go to:-).. but understand as the others said, scorps are hard to understand but most of us have good intentions...

Don't know if it would be wise (as some will answer, while others will storm off pi**ed off), but may be time to see what his intentions are by asking him nicely..

But to answer on the time frame, it depends on the scorpio, but most like to speed things usually, but with the ex-fiance, he may want to make sure he is making the right choice. I do know virgos are usually the ones taking the slow process.

Sorry if it sounds like I'm trying to be negative to you, I'm not but I'm a scorpio male who seems to hit that brick wall with virgos and trying to show how we see it from the other side occasionally.

Answer 5

I don't think he is being wishy washy, I think he is being emotional. Scorpio's are very emotional and can hide it well. You need to talk to him and find out what is really going on. You have this down on a time line, every 3 weeks. So I would talk to him and see what's up. Then make your decision based off your conversation.

Answer 6

Yeah well I agree on the fact that scorp men are not wishy washy, but his ex did break off an engagement (ouch how heartbreaking) even if he seems strong about it, he is (he's definitely okay) but he's definitely human and a real man who is sensitive but logical- he takes marriage seriously, so if he was planning on marry that chick (that's a huge decision, esp for a scorp), he needs sometime... I mean whats your rush? Communicate w/ him and be understanding when he answers you, you'll get more out of him that way.

Answer 7

I am a Virgo woman who was married to a Scorpio man. He was faithful to me as far as I know. I do know that he loved me very much and still may love me. We are very good friends and he is always there for me. We have children so that may be one of the reasons. Although we both moved on, he loves his current girlfriend of almost 6 years. As far as I know he's never cheated on her. They also are good together. Scorpio's are not wishy washy at all, but they are very emotional and hard to forgive to those whom hurt them. Once they have been hurt they wear a strong wall and is very cautious. It is unlikely they will put themselves out there again. Once bitter, they stay bitter. They are like a hard rock in a hard place... hard to move and hardly any movement.

Be patient and always let him know he is important to you, that is if you are indeed into this guy. Give him time and you will see he is hard to forgive but he will love you faithfully. Don't push him to pop the question again, it would surprise me if he does again. My ex will never marry again. Our marriage was enough he said.

He was hurt.... because I left him.

Answer 8

Look, when scorpio wants something he has it, so if you want he back and stay, be complicated and not easy, because scorpio likes the difficult things, but don´t lie..........

Answer 9

There are times when Scorpio strides fearlessly into a challenging situation, and Virgo feels much more cautious and careful. Scorpio may consider Virgo to be too timid, and Virgo may feel that Scorpio lacks prudence. There are also many situations where Scorpio is more stubborn and persevering that Virgo. Scorpio may view Virgo's lack of commitment and dedication to a single purpose to be a sign of weakness. There is also the possibility that Virgo will view Scorpio as being a bit crude, too passionate or emotionally attached to certain situations or ideas. Virgo has refined sensitivities and sometimes literally doesn't like to get "dirty hands", while Scorpio is more primitive, raw, and un-squeamish. You both need to strive to harmonise your different natures and not antagonise each other.

Scorpio is quiet, deep, and complex emotionally, and often hides feelings or jealousy, guilt, and other powerful emotions out of fear of being misunderstood. Scorpio needs passion, drama, and intensity in order to feel completely alive, and may intentionally or unintentionally stir up personal crises or emotional storms in order to have those feelings. There is an underlying attraction to anything secret, dark, and mysterious, including the hidden or dark side of people. Negatively, Scorpio can be subtly manipulative and controlling, positively, Scorpio can be immensely loyal, and deep and faithful friend or lover.

Virgo is quite different from Scorpio in that Virgo responds logically and rationally to situations, rather than irrationally and instinctively as Scorpio does. There may be something in Virgo's background or in the way Virgo was raised that makes Virgo careful, shy, or restrained about being too emotional or sexual, and Scorpio's very intense feelings may be difficult for Virgo to understand or enter into.

Also, Virgo is quite self-critical and is therefore very sensitive to criticism from others, so Scorpio should be careful of lashing out or being sarcastic when in a stormy mood, as this hurts Virgo very much.

The two of you do share a tendency to probe and analyse yourselves and others, and a desire to change and improve yourselves as well.

Virgo's emotional responses to Scorpio are very intense. If Scorpio is physically attractive to Virgo, then the attractive power of Scorpio over Virgo is extremely powerful. However, the attraction tends to have a love/hate quality to it, and you feel drawn to each other, but also wary and distrustful of each other. It is likely that you feel both drawn to each other and repulsed by each other at the same time! The emotional response to each other is intense and complex, and the ultimate outcome of this deep, complex emotional tie is difficult to predict, but one thing is certain: this is not a lukewarm relationship and you "get under each other's skin", evoking intense feelings from each other. Virgo can easily become obsessed with Scorpio.

Romantic feelings are strong and you are very compatible sexually. It is unlikely that the feeling of being "in love" will ever fade completely, and it is likely that you will both see each other as someone very special and dear to you throughout your lives. Your relationship is definitely warm and romantic and very fulfilling for both of you.

The sexual attraction goes off with a "bang". You both arouse one another deeply. You are able to express your love with great conviction. You may enjoy many erotic devices and love toys that add extra spice to the relationship. Love talk and verbal affection may be particularly important to you.

The tendency to argumentativeness, verbal abuse, and mutual misunderstanding is very strong. Try to avoid abusive language towards each other, and do not try to coerce the other person to accept your views. You enjoy challenging each other's ideas, showing the weaknesses, inconsistencies, or superficialities in each other's reasoning. While the intention is good, the net result can be hurt feelings and anger. Typically there is some truth to each other's point of view, but a lack of real appreciation and respect for each other's ideas triggers argumentativeness.

Longevity, stability, mutual conscientiousness and dedication are essential aspects of your relationship. The two of you can build something very solid together. A focus on the practical, on financial security, and on taking care of duties, obligations, and responsibilities permeates your bond with one another. You foster the conservative in one another, and develop a togetherness that is peaceful, steady, more inclined to contentment than to flamboyance or fireworks. The only pitfall in all of this is a tendency to fall into established patterns of being with one another which eventually become too predictable and too easy to take for granted. Nevertheless you are destined to have a long-lasting relationship.

The two of you spark each other's sense of humour and good will. You usually put each other into a good mood, and you can count on lots of laughter, fun, and socialising to develop from this relationship. You feel open and uninhibited with each other, and a great appreciation for each other grows out of your happy times together.