Someone please teach me how to change my ways...?

Question

Okay... Here it goes..


Negatives:
It is hard for me to forgive & forget.
I get mad easily.
When someone does something "False" I don't just get mad at that person but I get mad at everyone.
I don't like to talk alot.


Postivies:
I want to change my life so I can be a happier person.
I'm young.
I know alot of fun online games to keep me entertained.

Okay.. Type away.

Answer 1

Just knowing you have some problems and puting it out there is a big step in the right direction (few people are strong enough to do even that). And everyone has problems (obviously). I would suggest trying to associate the negatives with being self destructive and pause when you feel one coming on and address it with yourself. Tell yourself "this isn't good for me". And stay optomistic- we are people of habbit so change often comes slowly. Just keep at it untill you can master your emotions.

Answer 2

This is how it works for me.
1. You can forgive but forgetting is hard to do. Never forget. Doing this will allow that same person that did you harm or mistrust to do it again.
2. Anger, hatred, fear, I use to have. Turn it into a positive force by influencing others with your good will. When someone makes you mad, slowly smile and walk off. It makes them wonder what you're thinking.
3. False actions. Regard them as someone who will be found out by others or others already know they are full of crap. You are probably not the only one that know this.
4. I don't like to talk a lot either. Here are two philosophies for you to consider: "He who talks and sees nothing knows nothing. He who remains quiet and observes knows everything." and "There is a saying about strategy. I dare not play the host but play the guest."--Lao Tzu

Answer 3

You are already well on your way! You recognize your weaknesses and strengths, and desire to be even better.

I recommend reading some self-help books on those issues that you have trouble with. Make sure they are by someone who really knows what they are talking about though. I can recommend the Dalai Lama's book on Forgiveness, called the Wisdom of Forgiveness. I also recommend books by Wayne Dyer.

Another thing that can be extremely helpful is to learn to meditate. If you don't know how, a good start would be to just pray the wonderful prayer by St. Francis of Assisi daily, really concentrating on the words. You can repeat them until they are a part of your own psyche.

Here is the prayer:

Lord, make me an instrument of your peace,
Where there is hatred, let me sow love;
where there is injury, pardon;
where there is doubt, faith;
where there is despair, hope;
where there is darkness, light;
where there is sadness, joy;
O Divine Master, grant that I may not so much seek to be consoled as to console;
to be understood as to understand;
to be loved as to love.

For it is in giving that we receive;
it is in pardoning that we are pardoned;
and it is in dying that we are born to eternal life.

If you'd like a beautiful version of this prayer set to music, go to some place like Itunes and type in "St. Louis Jesuits" and choose their song called "Make me a Means of your Peace." It has a very calming sound, which even by itself can calm you and make you more peaceful to other human beings.

All the best to you!

Answer 4

Anger is a sign of a primitive brain at work do to the lack of oxygen. If you smoke try to stop. Take up aerobic exercise. Every morning and every afternoon do some deep breathing exercises take in a breath as deep as you can... hold it.... let it all out. do this 5 times twice a day. Try to breath deeply as much as possible all day. the extra oxygen in your system will relieve the tension of the stress and you can take more stress type punishment

Answer 5

Well, first of all, there is no such thing as 'forgive and forget'. Forgive, yes. Forget, no way. Your not SUPPOSED to forget. Keep it in mind always. That's the only way you'll know - for a fact - not to do it again . . . or allow it to happen to you again. And have you heard the phrase "Don't hate the player; Hate the game?" Well, same thing applies when you become angry with someone.

Answer 6

Hm... OK Most likely something has happened in the past that has made you very bitter.... that can haunt you forever if you let it. You have two choices.
1. Look at tomorrow as a new day.
2. Identify the problem & resolve it.
Lol
On the lighter side
Get a new avatar, one that isn't sour.

Answer 7

Are you depressed? Not being a smart ***, but I have bouts of depression, and you sound like me when I am depressed.

Just relax, man. When I get like that, I work out for a while, then come back and get dressed up and go out for a night on the town. It makes me feel much better.

Answer 8

Look you have taken the first step in eradicating bad behaviors, that is to recognize these bad behaviors.

Second you need to keep the idea that these behaviors are bad in your head, and adjust your attitude when they begin. It is a constant struggle but soon the adjusted behavior becomes the norm and the bad behavior gets suppressed.

Good Luck.

Answer 9

Remember

You don't have to forgive and Forget, Just try an forgive

It's O.K to get mad just try and get happy the same amount

And don't let yourself get worked up by "fakes"

And the goods? FOCUS ON THEM!

Good luck.

Answer 10

well, u need to confide in god, he is the only person that really cares and listens and no matter how u act he still loves u. u might need to deal with what made u this way.... family problems,school problems. something made u feel these way and no u cant get away. if someone pisses u off or does something to u.... WHAT COMES AROUND GOES AROUND..... good luck