did/does anyone else feel like this?

Question

My daughter is nearly 4 months old and i love her to bits. However, sometimes I just want to scream and scream at her, and get so irritated. Im tired all the time and snappy and short tempered. I feel there is nothing I can do to calm her sometimes and that she doesn't particuarly like me. She cries if shes down so I pick her up, and she cries more. Shouldn't a mum be able to comfort her baby when its upset? I feel like Im letting her down somehow and useless at being a mum. I had such high hopes for myself and now feel Im rubbish at it. Has anyone else ever felt like this?

Answer 1

I think you need more support than you are getting. Talk to your hubby/mom/sister/neighbor about how you are feeling and ask for help. You need some time away from your baby if she is very colicky, to rest. Also have a plan, in case you feel like it is sending you over the edge. Like "put baby in crib screaming...count to ten....then call mom."

Answer 2

I hate to admit it but I have felt like screaming at my daughter who is also 4 months but I don't. I just remember that she is the love of my life and if anything were to happen to her I would die and that restores my patience. Just remember that no matter how you think she feels the two of you are a team right now and you are all shes got so embrace this time. And I know she loves you more that anyone in the world even more that daddy.
Don't feel like you are letting her down...I'm sure you are a great mom. You gave me some pretty good advice on a few questions.

Answer 3

It's completely normal. Hang in there - she's probably crying more because she's teething and there's not a whole lot you can do.

Can you get out of the house, maybe to a toddler group, a mother and baby group? It's exhausting distracting a baby all the time, but if there are lots of other children to watch it often just happens, even though she's too young to join in yet. Plus you get to talk to all the other mums and realise that everyone's in the same boat.

I think EVERYONE else has felt like that :)

Answer 4

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Answer 5

I have felt like that quite often and still do and my kids are 2 and 4. I have stayed home with them since they were babies and I didn't have anyone nearby that I could call to help me out when things would get bad and I would want to scream and I would loose my patience. I would cry alot and when my husband got home from work, I would be so irritated and snap at him. I often feel like a failure and wonder if I am doing the best I can or if I am a good mom. I am glad there are other moms out there going through the same emotions.
Thanks for sharing. Hope things get better for you. We can keep in touch if you would like?

Answer 6

Have you ruled out any real causes for her crying? Some babies can be switched from regular formula / breast milk to a soy formula, beucase they're allergic, so they ahve a constant tummy ache. Others might have an ear ache, gas, etc.

It's tough when you cant comfort them.... but if she cries no matter what you do, try searching for a reason that you can alleviate.

And if you feel that you are going to yell at her, set her in her crib where she's safe and step outside for a moment and calm yourself down, and then try again.

Answer 7

today no ..Saturday yes yes yes my hubby was gone all day on his day off and i felt so alone
mine is 4 months old to i have heard they are fussy at this month
p ether somewhere safe and comfy and have a shower . if you can get some help.. is your hubby around or will be later? when he gets home go for a ride or something you are not a bad mom or you wouldnt think to ask if this is how we feel . you are not useless it is just a damned hard job without any credit. give yourself time she will not cry as much. she could be teething or have a tuumy ache . yes all mom ( and dads that help) feel this way hang in girl and god bless

Answer 8

Motherhood is a very challenging and difficult time. You are not alone out there. But if you ever feel like screaming at her, or worse yet, hurting her, please put her in her crib and take 15-20 minutes away from her (crying in her crib won't hurt her). Pick up the phone and call someone to help calm you down or to just talk. If you continue to feel this way please speak to your primary dr. You may have postpartum depression and may need to go on medication for awhile.

Answer 9

if you have done eveyrthing you can to help her and nothing is wrong set her in her crib and go outside for 10 minutes to relax. Then if she is still crying cuddle with her. My baby used to do that all the time...yes i felt bad leaving her in her crib but me tking a break was best for her so i didnt freak out.

Answer 10

Sounds about right. 2 things that helped me were bouncing with mine on a fitness ball, then watching Dr. Phil for people who were far worse off then me.