Could my girlfriend’s mother use a 4 year old “private” video we made to bring charges against me???

Question

Four years ago, I meet the girl who is now my girlfriend, and may soon be my fiancée, under somewhat interesting circumstances which resulted in us making an “adult” video. Since this video ended up becoming the start of our relationship, she has hung on to it.*

Despite the fact that my girlfriend has kept this video in her private collection, it has become something of an open secret in our town and was recently discovered by her mother (who, for some unexplained reason, had used the hide-a-key to enter my girlfriends apartment and was rifling through her things when she found the video), who is now threatening to use it to bring criminal charges against me (and telling anyone who’ll listen that she intends to use this video to bring criminal charges against me).

Since her mom hates me (mostly she believes that I’m “below” her and her daughters “type”), is a well connected sociality, and is friends with many of the police officers and local lawyers, I’m worried that she might actually convince one of these people to bring charges.

While she is not a lawyer, my girlfriends mother considers herself an amateur attorney and has already told her ex-husband and my girlfriend that she intends to have me charged with;

A.) Contributing to the delinquency of a minor (giving alcohol to a minor)-we were both 20 when the video was made and are both drinking

B.) Public indecency-the video was made in a semi-public setting

C.) Any other charges her lawyer (who she’s talking to today) can suggest

While my girlfriend (and the rest of her family) has sided with me in this matter, I’m worried that her mother will use her political connections to get the DA to have me charged with something.

Based on the fact that this video was made four years ago, and the fact that my girlfriend is an adult and it is her mother who is attempting to file the complaint, is there any chance that charges might be brought???

*Four years ago, some of the girls in a local sorority, including my girlfriend, decided to raise money for breast cancer research by holding a bikini pudding wrestling match behind a local bar.

Since I knew the owner of the bar, and owned a pickup, I was asked to help transport the supplies to the bar.

Since I had to work that day, I had to leave after dropping off the supplies, and return after work to help clean up.

When I returned, I found that the wrestling was over and most of the people had gone into the bar.

Someone then told my girlfriend (who wasn’t my girlfriend yet) and her friend that I was outside cleaning up, that I hadn’t gotten to see any wrestling, and suggested that they wrestle a little before I emptied the ring.

While I’m not quite sure how this happened, her friend apparently decided that she didn’t want to wrestle again, so she gave her friend a video camera and proceeded to tackle me from behind and knock both of us into the ring. We then started wrestling, and it soon stopped being “bikini” pudding wrestling.

Afterwards, we actually exchanged phone numbers, I invited her to dinner (mostly to apologize for my somewhat less then gentlemanly behavior) and we learned that we really liked each other and started dating for real. Thus, since this video chronicles our first “date” she has continued to hang onto it as a rather interesting memento.

Answer 1

Unless she wants to have her daughter charged with public indecency and whatever other morals charges there would be, I doubt she'd do it.

As far as giving her alcohol, is there any evidence in the video that you gave her alcohol? Could it be proven, 4 years after the fact, that anything you handed her in the video was actually alcohol? I doubt it.

Tell her she is going to ruin her daughter by going to court. And tell her your girlfriend can have her arrested for stealing her property.

And eat your pudding in private, next time, lol

Answer 2

A) Is there a date on the picture of the tape? How can she prove that you were both only 20? Can she prove that you gave her daughter the alcohol?

Does the video show you drinking alcohol? even if it shows you drinking out of a beer bottle or liquor bottle, there is really no way they can prove without a reasonable doubt that there were liquor in the bottles.

B) I think there is a statute of limitations of a Public indecency charge that you have surpassed. Not to mention usually these types of tickets are usually only given after a complaint is made by someone ( on the date it occurs) and an officer catches them in the act.

C) I can't fathom what else she would try and charge you with but I don't think you have anything to worry about. She may try and charge you but I think the chances are 99% in your favor of you.

Answer 3

Don't see it happening and the mother would be a fool to try because even if she could get the DA to bring charges, it would be against BOTH you and her daughter for underage drinking (if she could indeed someone prove when the tape was made and that you were both underage and that what you were drinking was alcohol) and indecent exposure/lewd conduct in public for having sex in a public place (and be able to prove where it occurred was in public view)

You were both over 18 at the time the incident occured, the incident occurred 4 years ago and the tape was obtained by an illegal search and seizure by her mother.

Answer 4

you were both 20 when the video was made. you were not minors.

if you were both drinking at 20 maybe the real issue for a prosecutor is who provided the alcohol, the secondary issue is who consumed it.

i doubt a DA, even mom's close personal well connected friend who is the prosecutor, would 'stoop' to letting someone basically use their license to prosecute you when, so far in your question, her crime is that she broke into your gf's apartment.

What criminal charge does she have in mind? So far she's all huff and fluff.

You may want to spend a bit of time in the library or picking up a little more information from school civics.

Answer 5

If the video is not date verified in some way, the contributing charge is unlikely to happen.
For public indecency charges to stick somebody would have to see ithe actual act (other than the camera person, who is a participant), or it isn't public. Those charges would also have to be laid against both of you, and the camera person.
Why she would want to charge her daughter is beyond me, she has already lost her relationship and any chance of her trust ever again. I would be pretty ticked if my mother not only interfered with my life in such a manner, but turned out to be a common thief.

Answer 6

Interesting story. Check the statute of limitations to be sure but you are probably safe. If in extreme circumstances charges were pressed they would have to charge your girlfriend as well. I doubt her mother would want that. Also, any decent lawyer would have this thrown out in no time. Law enforcement was never meant to be used at someones whim. You have nothing to worry about.

You could consider filing a harassment lawsuit. Turn-about is fair play.

Answer 7

If there was NO sex between you & your girlfriend and you were both Under 18, There would be not much she can make of the video. They can charge a person who has or had sex with a person younger than 18 (At the time the video was made) as child endangerment. If one of you was 16 and the other 18 (Also Statutory rape.) Yes you could be charged with rape. If both of you were 15 or16 there in not much they can do.
Also laws differ by state, So try checking your state law.

Answer 8

Absolutely.. Most likely you will be charged.. Keep in mind that charges are just accusations with the slightest bit of merit.. It DOESN'T MEAN YOU ARE GUILTY!

Most likely, she is just trying to scare you.. Think of it as an annoyance, but don't take it too seriously.. Also, don't blow it off, I'd consult a lawyer and perhaps ask for a bit of advice and perhaps even consider a restraining order..

You absolutely can fight them in the court of law and in fact can turn the tables around and charge her with a number of things as well such as intruding onto private property, unlawfully obtaining evidence without a search warrant, etc. etc.. In many cases, if evidence (such as a tape or paper) was obtained without a police authorized search warrant, then that evidence can be thrown out in a court of law.. Just something to keep in mind, chances are the reason why she ran in herself and took it was because she wasn't able to get a legal search warrant. . And in most states, intruding on private property is a very heavy punishment, probably much more than whatever she would be able to get you with..

Answer 9

Sounds like a jealous woman to me
I don't think anyone would do anything about it, seeing as though you were both over 18.
You were BOTH over 18 like you said right?
Your girlfriends name and reputation would be subject to public eye, is that what she wants?
I would counter with a breaking and entering charge along with Thieft charges if she persuses this ridiculous attempt at running other peoples lives.

Answer 10

If she doesn't care about embarrassing her daughter, then that's pretty sad. i wouldn't worry, if you GF sides with you, she can just say that she provided the alcohol for herself. Public nudity is a chump charge. Hell, some of my friends relish the claim to fame (getting laid in public). Cherish it.