all of my friends arent virgins anymore and i am, I've been close to loosing my virginity but then i freak out! help!
2007-09-10 05:53:22 · 41 answers · asked by Ms.Carter 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
You should be proud of retaining your virginity. Kids at age 17 shouldn't be having sex to begin with, since it comes with major responsibilities, most of which 17 year olds cannot handle.
Kudos to you. :)
2007-09-10 05:58:05 · answer #1 · answered by AV 6 · 17⤊ 0⤋
Look if you freak out that's a pretty clear sign you're not ready and don't want to. It will be much better if you do it when you absolutely want to, not for some silly reason that other people have done it and you think you're too old (you're really not, by the way). Just when you do it make sure you use protection and all.
I think it's perfectly normal for a 17 year old to be a virgin and I would say almost half are, based on the stats about 16 being the average age. I was at 17 as were all my friends. We're not prudish or strictly religious or anything - it just hadn't happened by then or in some cases the girls didn't want to do it. It'll be better if you wait until you're ready.
A couple of other points - a lot of people who do it early regret it, and a lot of people who say they've done it are lying.
2007-09-14 02:42:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be proud of yourself! There's so many pressures out there nowadays. For a girl to be able to stand up for herself and wait is something to be very proud of. There's no "normal" age for a girl not to be a virgin anymore. It all depends on you. When you find that right someone, then it'll just feel right. You wouldn't have to freak out, because you'll know that he's the one you should be with.
There's no need to rush into losing your virginity. I was almost 20 before I lost mine. I'm glad that I waited and didn't waste it on some loser high school jerk. They'll never respect you anyways. You deserve someone better than that, that will be able to step up to the plate if you become pregnant.
Keep standing your ground! Hold your head up. There's no shame in being on the v-train. ;)
2007-09-10 07:10:16 · answer #3 · answered by Soon2BMrsB 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't know there is any normal when it comes to virginity. My personal opinion is you should wait until you are at least 18. However, it is a personal choice, when the right time comes you will know it. Do what seems right to you, not what other people do. and don't try to figure out what normal is when it comes to personal decisions. This is not like buying new clothes to keep up with your peers, or finding the "in" spot to go to after a date. You will do fine keeping on the path you are on, then one day the time will come along and you will feel good about it because you will not have been forced into something.
2007-09-10 08:45:42 · answer #4 · answered by K K 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is perfectly normal and actually better on so many levels for a 17 year old to be a virgin. First, you can only lose your virginity once in a life time. At 17, it is unlikely the boy you are seeing will eventually be your husband. It is a great and precious gift to save your virginity for your future spouse. Additionally, the risk of teen pregnancy and contracting a sexually transmitted disease are tremendous at this time of your life. Birth control options are generally limited. Condoms, while they do reduce the risk with proper usage, often give young people the false sense of security that they are completely protected when, in truth, they are not. Many sexually transmitted diseases have life-long ramifications and some cause infertility. There is a great deal of pressure to begin having sex early in your life. However, a few minutes of physical pleasure can easily lead to a life-changing event. A baby is a life-long commitment that changes you forever. A sexually transmitted disease can destroy your chances of ever conceiving a baby and can lead to a life-time of physical problems. You, by far, are the strongest person in your group of friends. Listen to yourself - you are freaking out because losing your virginity now is the wrong thing to do. You have your whole life ahead of you. Graduate from high school, go to college (or not), get a job, travel, meet people, follow a dream. The vast majority of people who lost their virginity in high school wish they had waited. Both my husband and I made a choice to not have sex until our wedding night. Our marriage is that much stronger because we share a part of ourselves with each other that no other person has ever been a part of. It is a wonderful feeling. I have never regretted having waited nor do I regret not ever having had sex with anyone other than my husband - I have no desire to.
2007-09-10 06:49:55 · answer #5 · answered by sevenofus 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
being 17 and stillbeing a virgin is nothing to be ashamed off i was still a virgin at 17 and because all my friends had sex i nearly lost my virginity round the back of a super market but freaked out, i stopped listening to everyone else and lost it when i was 18 and in a secure relationship, so just loose it when your ready and be pround not ashamed you'll know when your ready but till then just don't worry enjoy being young
2007-09-13 04:46:10 · answer #6 · answered by destiny 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well of course it is normal infact your probley the only other normal one its not nesscarily todays genration it just means you more decent in this genaration so that is a big bonus plus for you and actually look around u and at all these answers . they more virgins than u think. i think u just have a bad group of friends. but u can make new ones u just dont have any virgin friends dont let them throw u off the scent and let them take u life away dont fall for it. i know all virgins im a virgin im 17 so.... layback you may just be slow at finding the right guy yet or nervous but that dont mean u abnormal . dont better u self cuz u allready better and doing so is a trap and u have actually lowerd u self and actually stooping that low in america is not normal.
2007-09-10 08:48:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wouldn't call it "normal" but there are a lot more girls and guys that are virgins than you think they are. i'm 16 and i am. i also had a friend who went around school and asked every person she ran into if they thought she (my friend) was still a virgin and they all said no. yet she was. so just because you think someone is no longer a virgin doesn't mean they are/ that is, unless they actually tell you that they are not. and don't believe rumors. half of them aren't even true.
2007-09-10 06:07:08 · answer #8 · answered by :) 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong about being a virgin. Honestly, most of your friends maybe regret loosing there virginity. Do not rush this, wait till the time is right. Loose your virginity with someone you really love, that makes you happy, you trust him and you'll know you'll be together with him forever.
2007-09-10 06:00:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 0⤋
17 is totally normal. I'm a senior in college and I've found that a lot of people are between 17 and 20. And why does it matter if your friends are or not? Wait until you find the right person- trust me, it's worth the wait.
2007-09-11 08:19:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
having sex your first time isnt really an age related question. It has to do with many factors. I'm sure you were raised "right" and were told you need to wait until you get married etc-so there is the guilt factor involved.
Dont have sex just to "get if over with" or it will just be a waste of time for something truly wonderful. I was in my 20's for my first time, and I was in love and it just felt right-finally. I got close many times, but something was missing. My first thought was "gosh, what the heck was I waiting for" but then I realized part of the wonderful-ness was the guy I was with.
So dont worry about it-it will come and happen when you are ready and you will do just fine. S
2007-09-10 07:28:48 · answer #11 · answered by ponytails07 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋