I have a son who is 9 months old and i am also expecting my second baby dec 21st. Is it as much hard work as everyone keeps telling me it will be? I enjoy being a mum and love spending time with my son I just hope that the time I have will be enough attention for them both. My son was a brilliant baby and into a routine straight away - still good now although had a few sleepless nights down to teething. Has anyone any advice maybe in the same situation as me?
Ive just got a mortgage with my partner also and plan to work a couple of evenings a week but apart from that I will be raising them. Thanx
2007-09-10 05:44:05 · 21 answers · asked by yummymummy 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
It's hard work, but keep this one thing in mind.
Your babies are babies for such a short time. How soon they grow and don't need you anymore. ENJOY your time with them, make them your priority, childhood is such a fleeting thing.
2007-09-10 05:50:16 · answer #1 · answered by jet-set 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
My son was 3 months old when i found out i was pregnant. He is now 13 months old the first few days were very hard when i brought the new baby home he would chase me around the house screaming my mama he would throw things at his brother and get really jealous now he doesn't have a problem with him. At first it was hard trying to balance the attention out but what i found was easiest is when your partner has the new baby spend as much time with your other son and when your newborn is sleeping do the same thing. Just get a routine down that's what i had to do like i will give Nathan (my newborn) a bath and then i will give my other son Tegan a bath. Once you get a routine down it will be alot easier. The hardest thing is when they are both crying because they are hungry or want attention it's so hard to pay attention to both of them and comfort them both at the same time. Also make sure you get enough time to yourself so that way you dont get overwhelmed or too stressed out because both your kids will sense it and they will get riled up. Good luck and if you need any more advice or someone to talk to that is going through the same thing as you you can email me or talk to me on yahoo messenger my screen name is brittany_jean_berry@yahoo.com hope everything i said helps
2007-09-10 06:39:46 · answer #2 · answered by brittany j berry 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations! So your babies will be 12 months apart, mine are 15 months apart (18 month old daughter and 3 month old baby boy) and yes, it is a LOT of hard work specially the first weeks, but I have to say that after the first month it got better at least for us, hopefully you will get into a nice routine with them ( that is what I did), I am currently not working outside the house and my husband has a flexible schedule so he is with us a lot and that makes a HUGE difference, otherwise I think I would be going a little crazy, so I think that is what you will need the most, a lot of help with stuff in the house (cleaning, cooking...)for you to be able to give them both your full attention and that will make them and you very happy. Good luck
2007-09-10 10:26:47 · answer #3 · answered by Ruth 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I really wish people would stop saying that ur life is gonna be such a drag with 2 kids under 2. I have 2 kids under 2 and at first it's gonna be hard but u will mainly need a routine in your family so that the kids will not get out of hand. My kids go to bed at 8:30pm even if they aren't asleep yet. It gets them in the habit and it gives u time at night to yourself, too. I hate when people say you will not get any sleep whatsoever. The newborn might keep you up for a few months but once he starts sleeping thru the nite you can too. People who say this should have kids cuz they can't even discipline themselves!!
2007-09-10 05:59:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just keep doing what you are doing now. Yes it will be harder because you have 2 kids to look after not being funny but millions of mums are in the same situation, your obviously devoted to your son and you will be just as devoted to your second.
Just think of it this way when you had your first child you had no experience now you do and you will know what to expect.
Congratulations and good luck xXx
2007-09-13 06:47:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am the mother of a three-month-old babygirl and I ask my mom how in the world she loved me and my sister both so much. I look at my daughter and wonder how I can have another child because I love little Natalia so much and I can't imagine feeling this way about anyone else. I also can't fathom how hard it would be ... my mom told me God gives you enough love! Enough love for both kids, enough love to make it easy. Congratulations and good luck. It sounds like you are a wonderful mom and this new baby is going to be lucky to have you! (My sister and I are 14 months apart and my mom always had enough attention for both of us~)
2007-09-10 05:49:12 · answer #6 · answered by MediMommy 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I have 3 boys aged 10,8 and 2 and still find it a struggle to cope even now. Things get a lot easier as you make your own routine. Do not be scared of asking for help from family or friends as thats what they are there for. Mine were a godsend in the early months. It will get easier as you go along. Best of luck!!
2007-09-10 05:52:48 · answer #7 · answered by hyper1504 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It will be harder than it is now, but look at it like this- newborn baby will sleep the majority of the time as this habit dies down they will begin to entertain each other. It is good for your son who will realise that the world does not revolve around him, i'm not saying he thinks that now but he will be given responsibilities and see that sharing is the way of the world! Good luck!x
2007-09-10 05:49:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yeah it's hard - but don't worry, you'll adjust, just as you adjusted to the first.
Your additional role on top of making sure you meet the needs of both kids will be that of referee: trying to keep them from hurting each other and keeping the peace. Fortunately, since babies don't move around much at first, you'll have time to ease into it.
Have faith in yourself that you can handle it. I have no doubts!
2007-09-10 05:49:53 · answer #9 · answered by KC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had my kids really close together, too. I kept them on a strict schedule, not only for their well being, but for my sanity, too. I think that helped more than anything else I could do. They knew from the git go that they had to sit at the table to eat anything at all, had to go to bed at 8 PM, and were taught to clean up after themselves at a very young age. They turned out pretty good.
2007-09-10 05:47:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋