he wants kids but not now and he says he wants to want kids at the time not have an accident.... I haven't told him yet....
2007-09-10 05:36:49 · 17 answers · asked by lilmana28 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Well find out for sure is you are pregnant before you start stressing out. And if you happen to be pregnant then you must tell and between the two of you you guys decide what you guys want to do.
2007-09-10 05:41:46 · answer #1 · answered by Deana 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well sure, you want everything to be perfect, but life doesn't always work out that way. Most people who have "accidents" turn out to really love the child even though it wasn't planned and they didn't think they wanted a child at the time. Before you get too worked up about it, take a test and make sure you are pregnant. Then just tell him. It doesn't matter what kind of birth control you are using. If you are having sex, then you are taking the risk of an unplanned pregnancy. You and your boyfriend should both have known this when you had sex. If you are pregnant, you will both just have to deal with it. More than likely you will find the baby to be a blessing in disguise.
2007-09-10 05:46:14 · answer #2 · answered by kat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's no reason you should suffer with fear of pregnancy alone. He had sex just like you did and can be valuable as a support person until you find out. Tell him you are afraid you might be pregnant and ask him to go buy a pregnancy test. At the very least, have him be with you while you take the test and hold hands as you wait for the results. It's not right for the woman to go through something like that alone, to spare the man any stress. He knows what happens when you have sex just as well as you do. If you're pregnant, it's easier to have the news come from a test rather than you dropping the bomb (the association will be from the test instead of him feeling like you are responsible). If you're not pregnant, it's a good wake up call to the both of you.
2007-09-10 05:47:03 · answer #3 · answered by colley411 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a test - nothing worse then getting him worked up un necessarily.
Then, if it comes up positive, tell him. This happened to me, I met him on August 28, 2002 - we were engaged September 18, 2002 and married on December 20, 2002, so things happened really fast. I found out I was pregnant on November 11, 2002 - and thought it would put an end to wedding plans and everything else. Scared me to death. Luckily, I have never seen a man beam so brightly as he did when I told him he was going to be a daddy.
Almost 5 years later we are still married, now have a 4 year old and a 2 year old (neither of which were planned, but both are blessings). We are now considering our first planned pregnancy :)
Best wishes!
2007-09-10 05:49:04 · answer #4 · answered by Mrs. Lucky 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have only been with my boyfriend since April, and I am now 7 weeks pregnant with our child...we sorta suspected i was pregnant long before I found out, so telling him was pretty easy...right now he is the excited one, and I am not sure about things...There is no easy way to tell him, but there are plenty of fun ways...in a hand made card through a poem, or bake a cake that says congrads dad! Once you know for sure you will figure it out :) good luck
2007-09-10 05:43:20 · answer #5 · answered by MyDreams2Be 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if he didnt want kid's now he should have been more careful. ya?
you have to tell him. it's going to change your life very much. but the fact that you only been with him for a few month's worry's me.
i'm hoping that you keep the babe. i'm hoping your religious and not do anything drastic if you know what i mean.
if you do keep the baby make sure that you get him to court if he's not being helpful. i mean for child support. he need's to man up as well as you need to women up.
i dont mean to sound uncaring. really i dont. i really hope that thing's will turn out well for you.
it might sound devistating now but really when the baby get's here every thing will come to light as being possible. every thing new is scary but not impossible to carry out. you and your guy will hopefully come together for the sake of this child. even if you two dont end up together. keep thing's tight on the parenting level.
both of you will be fine. you'll just be taking a differnt path to get to the original goal which to be happy.
good luck
2007-09-10 05:50:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you will have to tell him if you are. If he is having sex with you he has no say in when or how it happens. We would all like things to be planned but it doesn't always work out that way. Hopefully since he does want kids he will be happy anyway(assuming you are). I know my dh would have been thrilled no matter when or how it happened although he prefered planned(don't we all). Best of luck and hopefully he will support you either way.
2007-09-10 05:44:44 · answer #7 · answered by Melissa S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thinking you might be and actually being pregnant are 2 totally different things. If I were you I would wait until you know for sure you are pregnant until putting that kinda issue in the air.
2007-09-10 05:44:43 · answer #8 · answered by MYAB 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
find out first then tell him...
my second child was an accident (a very good one) but my ex didnt want kids EVER and he is just in love with this little girl! things will fall into place once things are established. like finding out if you are really pregnant....good luck.
2007-09-10 05:40:17 · answer #9 · answered by puppy love 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i am in your predicument i have only been with my boyfriend for 4 months and i am now 8 weeks pregnant and he left me the min he found out and doesnt want anythign to do with the situation so it really depends onthe guy. good luck i hope your luxk is better then mine.
2007-09-10 05:46:12 · answer #10 · answered by tnl120784 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋