the test is usually a tested of something that is your weakest point. Like your need to give up a dream just to be with the person you love. Is that love? Love is the most amazing thing in the world, but why is it that you need to make so many sacrifices, and when you do, you sometimes wonder, if you should have.... Is that love?
So what is love?
2007-09-10 04:36:38 · 13 answers · asked by Rajiv T 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
message to jigg:
You mentioned that "Giving up life's biggest dream just to be with someone does not define love. Love is way more than that. "
But what if the only way to prove your love or for that matter to prevent your love from breaking up with you is to give up your biggest dream, as proof or as a lot of women have told me, to be seen to take action for action speak louder than words. What then?
Sorry, I know I am going on here.... its just when you really want someone, and you face loosing them, you kinda go a bit crazy you know....
2007-09-10 04:50:16 · update #1
Love is something everyone will experience and need to survive. You have dreams of being with someone you ususally can't be with so eventually you have to give up and move on. Sometimes it may not be meant to be so you just move on and find love elsewhere since it is lost by alot of people and usually it turns up where you least expect it for you to find.
2007-09-10 04:46:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It requires sacrifice because it is more than just you in the relationship, there is someone else. People need to meet somewhere in the middle when they are in relationships, otherwise resentment will be built. Both people have to be sure that they are making the right move, and a compromise will have been met as far as how much of your dreams you have to give up. By the way, you shouldn't have to give up all your dreams just for one person!
Love is a wonderful thing, but you need to make sure that both people are committed to what's best, otherwise it can be disastrous.
2007-09-10 04:42:49 · answer #2 · answered by katysru19 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love involves our emotions more than any other..hate is a strong emotion, but don't you agree that love is more emotional than hate? That is true love. It involves two people, sometimes more when family and friends try to get involved. When we become emotional we don't always think as thouroughly as we normally would because we are so into
this one thing that matters most. If we truely love we are happy to make sacrifices. Sometimes people use others for
gain when someone loves them. That is not love and we need to walk away from that person. Love is true when both parties does the best things for the other. Happy in Love!
2007-09-10 04:54:17 · answer #3 · answered by Bethany 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For me, that is love... Many of us do this, and have been through this. Some will disagree, but we all have definitions of love. It's a case to case basis. It depends on our experiences. But I have come across people who would do anyhting and give up everything just to be happy...just to be with the one they love, and most of all, make that special someone happy. Sometimes, we don't even think of the consequences, but that is life. Nothing is perfect in this world. In some cases, where they regret giving up something for someone, i think that's because they realize in the end that they don't realy love that person. But if the love is true, there'll be no regret, whatever happens in the end...it will help you grow, it will make you smile when you think back and say "oh, maybe we're not meant for each other. Atleast for once in my life, I've done something that made me happy, even if in the end it made me cry..." that's what life and love is all about! And we shouldn't regret the things that had made us smile...
2007-09-10 04:58:31 · answer #4 · answered by -j4n3- 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is sacrifice. Love is compromise. Love is patience. You give of yourself for the happiness of the other person. However, if you're the only one doing so, then it's not a relationship worth pursuing.
Giving up your dreams is never something you do for love. True love only alters the route you take to that dream, but never takes the dream away from you.
2007-09-10 04:46:22 · answer #5 · answered by Dodge 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Love" isn't a single emotion, it's a meshing of two or more emotions of varying degrees, put together in different combinations by each individual, which change from moment to moment throughout their lifetimes. This definition covers all types of love, not just "perfect" or "true" love.
Each person decides throughout their lifetime at any moment what love is to them whether it is on a conscious level or not; what combination of emotions they should be feeling, how strongly they need to be feeling each of them and how important each of them is. This is why people fall in love with strangers or those they barely know, because those types of people are basically blank slates whom we can convince ourselves meet our criteria. It's also why we become brokenhearted later (which is almost inevitable) when we get to know them through a closer relationship and discover that they didn't meet our criteria after all, if that ends up being the case.
As a person ages and experiences different things, then their views also change, sometimes slightly and sometimes drastically. So what they attribute as love changes, too. This is why people fall out of love with others, or why their love will develop or grow stronger.
Since we each decide which combination of emotions at any time come together to be love, then it is us that chooses love and not the other way around. You aren't made to fall in love with a certain person, you've chosen to, whether it's a conscious choice or not. We are also each responsible for any "destructive" love we may feel if we include emotions such as jealousy and anger into the combination.
There are all kinds of love and infatuation is one of them. It's more commonly known as "puppy love". People tend to discriminate against it and belittle it because it doesn't fall into the category of what they consider to be "true love" or "perfect love", but it is love nonetheless. The thing about the love known as infatuation is that it tends to be an obsessive and very passionate kind of love, so the one possessing it views the person they are infatuated with through very narrow blinders and the fire of the love burns bright and fast, and in turn dies just as quickly and thoroughly.
2007-09-10 04:39:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Love is a very difficult thing to explain. There are so many kinds of love.
At different times in our lives, our love is tested. When we are called to donate to charity, our altruistic love is tested etc...
True love is completely self-giving. It is not meant to be selfish. For example if you love a girl that doesn't mean she has to have sex with you.
Different people see love differently. For some, love is always romantic or sexual. For others, there are different types of love.
It is up to you to decide whether it is love or not. Giving up life's biggest dream just to be with someone does not define love. Love is way more than that.
2007-09-10 04:43:01 · answer #7 · answered by jig 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In any relationship there are always factors that will test and at times strain the relationship. Not just romantic relationships, but in all relationships: friends, parent-child, relatives...etc. When you are romantically involved with another person your lifes are more intertwined and therefore there are often sacrifices that each of you will need to make for the other. It is just a fact of life.
2007-09-10 04:48:04 · answer #8 · answered by ceegt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you look at giving something up as a sacrifice then you are not in love. I feel when you are in love it will be something you want to do and in no way a sacrifice.
2007-09-10 04:39:43 · answer #9 · answered by Princess J 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think that love is the most complacated emothin that we have its hard to say what loe is from one person to the next but if ur giving up dreams then something is wrong cuz i know that if i was tuly in love i would push that person to follow there dreams
2007-09-10 04:43:51 · answer #10 · answered by butterflycutie777 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋