Everything has just been so bland lately. My job is boring, my friends are boring, and where I live is boring (Raleigh, NC). I know I need to do something but I just don't have the energy.
Any ideas on how to get happy again? (Please don't say join a group - I've already done that and it doesn't work.)
2007-09-10 03:50:46 · 13 answers · asked by Sunny 3 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Maybe you just need to start searching for good things in life. If you are focusing on the bad...the boring...the depressing, that is all you will feel.
Try counting your freinds and being grateful for them.
Try finding some part of your job you can feel happy about, even if it is just the fact of a paycheck.
Start smiling at strangers.
Reach out to some one less forutnate than yourself and try to help them out...volunteer a couple of hours at a shelter, or a habitat for humanity home.
Take care of yourself phisically, the lack of energy comes from a lack of activity (HONEST). Take a short walk and be diligent to focus only on the good...the fact that you can breath, the beauty of the sky, the miracle of trees. Look peopel you pass right in the eye and smile, silently wishing them happiness and prosperity. YOu will be amazed at how much you can change in your life just by working to change what you dwell upon.
2007-09-10 04:03:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
First thing, appreciate what you already have. You are alive today, that's a start. Looks like you have a computer, many people do not. You have time on your hands, some people don't. The best thing I find to lift my spirits is to take the time to help a stranger
, expecting nothing in return. It works for me.
I hope you will try it. As you pass through life you will find that each day will not always be fun and exiting but as long as you have more good days than bad you are doing okay.
Get out in the sunshine, run around outside when it's raining, act like a kid sometimes. Remember being a kid without a care in the world other than what you would get for Christmas or your birthday? Do something goofy! Works for me and I'm 44 years old! If you are in a rut change jobs or move to a new town. Good luck to you.
2007-09-10 04:14:14 · answer #2 · answered by randall w 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it took me a long time to realize that even though bad things are happening.. YOU are in control of how you feel. You just cant sweat the small stuff. Tell yourself you are happy- do happy things.. go out and do something that you know is going to make you feel good... just turn your life back around. I had to do it.. after a lot of couseling and unneeded perscriptions.. i finally realized that happiness was all in my head.
It only took me 7 years to figure that out... maybe you could do yourself a favor and start sooner. I know my life would have felt better if i knew this a long time ago. And i hope i dont get any nasty remarks.. b/c what i'm saying is true of PPD, Depression, Anxiety, BPD, and stress.
2007-09-10 04:00:33 · answer #3 · answered by *DiZzLe* 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
ifyou have any special skills or a degree( and i do not know your age) why don't you start searching a different place to live for example if you love the mountains check out colorado or new mexico on craigslist and type in a job search for what you do and send your resume to those places. Youcould also take a non credit college course after work to develop an interest or hobby like painting or cooking... whatever strikes your fancy they should have something like that... put those thoughts into action and you might start finding thatyou are occupying your time with the things you love and the goals you desire to achieve
2007-09-10 04:09:10 · answer #4 · answered by cristelle R 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wonder if it is even possible to feel happy all of the time .
I think that it is natural for us to go through these BLAH periods in life.
Gee our society today -the adds on TV and magazines all try to convince us that life is just one bowl of cherry's after another and that we are supposed to be "UP" and go getter's at all times .
I don't believe it is even humanly possible !
Good luck :O ) !!!
Just keep searching and keep your mind open to something new and or different -nothing in life ever remains the same forever !
2007-09-10 04:15:35 · answer #5 · answered by Bemo 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Every now and then, when I am going through my highs... but the lows come too quickly and usually last longer. Like you, I always hope the good feelings will last 'cause I know that if they did I could do so much... but they don't for me. But hopefully they will for you. So glad you are feeling better.
2016-03-18 03:22:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been doing a lot of studying on the subject of, "what we think about comes about " as in if we always "think" we are unhappy, we will be unhappy. Wev'e all the the saying, "you are what you eat" and we know this to be true, I firmly believe its the same as "you are what you think".... thats the law of attraction.....I am not saying it's easy just to switch around to thinking beeing happy and hey presto!!! but I have come to learn that if you "practice" being happy, your subconscious begins to believe this to be so....and in time you will be. I have got a lot of comfort and insight from web sites such as Abraham Hickes.com and The Secret.com
Hope this helps and you start to feel better soon
2007-09-10 04:22:12 · answer #7 · answered by ♥ HOPE ♥ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Many others are in your same boat. Choice: stay where you are or force yourself to get out of the boat. It is a vicious circle: I am unhappy. I am bored. I hate my life. When this is what you concentrate on, it is also all you see. Substitute positives for negatives whenever you can. Change one thing at a time. The solution to depression is inside and not outside of yourself and doing something is healthier than doing nothing. Old adage: God helps those who help themselves. I am trying to do this as well. May all of us find our way. C. :)!!
2007-09-10 05:35:19 · answer #8 · answered by Charlie Kicksass 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
recently, alarmingly,i have found that a miasma of misery has been following me from situation to situation although I do have an excuse because I have had to junk everything i enjoy because of illness; but your problem is different and is even greater as a problem because it is not suspected to be aproblem and that is the sheer grind of repetitive everyday life; most people just bumble on but the ones who get into trouble are the ones that look up and that's you.
Assuming that you have no onset of anxiety and depression let me detail one particular approach which I have tried and which has not particularly worked for me but it is an interesting idea. It is based on Indian mysticism and the central idea is a very dodgy one which is that mankind is essentially divine and that once barriers and incorrect thinking in the form of intrusive thoughts have been eliminated that what will be left is happiness, attained through meditation.
The ideas are spelled out through 'Deepak Chopra's Seven Laws of Spiritual Success'.
The concept of pure potentiality which is compared with the field of all possibilities theory of the quantum field is just really a metaphor for clearing your mind so that you access happiness.after other ideas are dressed up to represent the fact that it is you yourself who is presenting obstacles to your own happiness by not accepting others as they are and clouding your ability to meditate by exercising judgment towards everybody else.There is a high bull factor here but reading it will help you as I find that situations which used to make me angry now no longer do. Concepts such as thinking of everybody as your teacher who helps you to grow take a lot of swallowing and of course you will have to be ingenious in your application of the laws; ideas such as being angry at your feelings towards the person and not at the person themselves and such as making your best efforts while letting go of attachment to the result of your endeavours are puzzling concepts.But plumb this stuff in and your life will crank up a tiny notch.
As for the word 'bland' this is the real source of your difficulty. When one wants to achieve greatness and everybody else is rooted in the mundane and the crass. In my case finding anyone who has not taken refuge in alcohol and other intoxicants to blot out the pain of existence is difficult; here in London there is always a language probem and friendships across language barriers are always a dead loss and with the decline of religion whatever it's limitations people are openly and brazenly selfish and make it quite clear that you are of interest to them only if you fit in with their plans.
But there are interesting people around; however finding them is equivalent to panning for gold and as painful as standing in a freezing cold mountain stream all day long - notwithstanding your disappointment with the group you have to plough on otherwise you will not be through putting enough people.
see also srikumar rao . 'are you ready to succeed?'.
especially in termsof goal setting.
2007-09-10 04:34:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Once you see the difference between boring and solitude you will find peace and happiness inside yourself. Be careful for what you wish for.
2007-09-10 04:05:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋