It really doesn't bother me, but I know she is going to feel terrible for forgetting. And I have a 7 year old that is going to be upset she didn't get to wish daddy happy birthday and make me a card. What do I do? Do I remind her today or let the day past without saying anything?
2007-09-10 03:38:43 · 22 answers · asked by Camaro G 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
FYI...I'm not trying to get ammo for the future by not telling her.
2007-09-10 03:43:57 · update #1
I'm not mad, hurt, upset, sad, feeling neglected or anything like that. I just know she is going to feel horrible when she realizes.
2007-09-10 03:52:30 · update #2
Wait a day or two. She'll probably realize it soon and profusely apologize. If you say something immediately, it may seem to her like you are irritated. Waiting a few days and laughing when you bring it up to her will show her you're not upset. Just have a birthday celebration. Get some cake and ice cream or whatever your tradition is and don't mention around your daughter that it's the wrong day.
2007-09-10 03:44:07 · answer #1 · answered by Lady in Red 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You should call her and be honest with her. Tell her that it's not that it's so important to you, but that you were hoping she would be encouraging the 7 year old to draw a picture or color a card....kids that age LOVE to do something special for their parents. Let her know that you are specifically calling her now so that she has some time to get with the 7 year old before the day is over. You need to do what is right by your child, and not be so afraid of your wife....she needs to realize what you expect of her as a stepmom, and chances are that if she loves you and your child, she will step up to the plate, and then later when she tells you how sorry she is, you tell her that's why you felt compelled to call her, because you knew how bad she would feel and you didn't want that to happen.
2007-09-10 03:50:47 · answer #2 · answered by reddevilbloodymary 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't think you are making too much of this at all. You are right, she should be making more of an effort since she cheated on you. I don't think that this "proves" that she doesn't care about you but it does show that she has poor character. You should know her better than anybody, has she been different in other ways as well? Do you have sex often and are you the one to initiate it all the time? You should be noticing signs if any that your relationship could be deteriorating. If so, why should you be the sucker? Start noticing the things she does without you, is she going out with "friends" all the time? I know you want to save your marriage but don't be a fool.
2016-05-21 02:26:40 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just forgive her if she did it and then move on. Too much emphasis is placed on birthday's anyway. You are celebrating an event that has happened to all of us and it is almost like saying, "Congratulations...I can't believe you made it another year!" If someone wants to give me a present for my birthday then so be it. I realize the importance of birthdays to others so I make sure and hand out presents as well (especially for children), but it wouldn't bother me one bit if I never got another present or even acknowledgment for any of my future birthdays.
2007-09-10 03:48:59 · answer #4 · answered by No one 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
And she should "feel horrible".
I can't believe she would forget your birthday.
Is it today? If so, the day isn't over yet, maybe there's some kind of surprise coming.
If it isn't today, then I am so sorry for you.
You shouldn't feel bad, that she forgot.
And when she feels bad, that's ok, she "should" feel bad.
Here this is for you:
"Happy Birthday To You,
Happy Birthday To You,
Happy Birthday Dear Camaro G,
Happy Birthday To You....and maaaannnyyy more".
Consider yourself sung to ;)
2007-09-10 03:58:04 · answer #5 · answered by MommaBear 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say the date out loud to your wife and tell your 7 year old "Guess what, today is Daddy's birthday." They might be planning a surprise.
2007-09-10 03:52:34 · answer #6 · answered by YaWhoDee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait, is it today and therefor not over yet? Give her a chance, she may have some big surprise for you tonight. If she did forget, that would be a new one, I don't think I have ever know a woman to forget a husbands birthday.
2007-09-10 03:45:15 · answer #7 · answered by Beatngu 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Birthdays.
It is our one day that WE are celebrated.
So it does hurt to be forgotten.
I have a feeling that you will be celebrated in an even bigger way when she realizes she forgot.
For now, let it lay.
Happy belated b-day!!
2007-09-10 03:55:12 · answer #8 · answered by Rev. Deb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweet Pea it is a honest mistake that happens all the time. I think you should remind her just to see what the response is. Know one thing we are all human and we do forget, please forgive her and talk to her about it. God bless!
2007-09-10 03:44:07 · answer #9 · answered by b n real 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you sure she has forgotten? maybe she is planning something to surprise you...
or...if you are close with any of her friends or family- mention it to them, maybe they can remind her (something like "gee, she's planning on surprising me for my birthday today- can you try to get some info for me??" they will call her and there you go!)
happy birthday!!
2007-09-10 03:44:51 · answer #10 · answered by jmd72inva 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋