that too much love can be overwhelming?
That they don't need to call you, or visit, or write so much? :)
Thank you for your answer! :)
Have a wonderful week! :)
2007-09-10 03:36:45 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Don't worry, I don't. :)
2007-09-10 03:50:29 · update #1
I don't mean the love itself, but the expression of it. Too much attention.
2007-09-10 04:07:44 · update #2
I do enjoy love and attention.
I don't enjoy too much attention, never have, and never will.
I love my peace. :)
2007-09-10 04:31:23 · update #3
I too need much down & alone time. I finally realized I do not have to answer the phone every time it rings, or answer the door just because someone rang it. I found I just had to lovingly tell them that I love them, but I needed a lot of quiet time & realized that their reactions were their's, I was not responsible for their reaction. With some I set up a once a week call time & was openly available for them at that time, it did help. Letters are not such a big deal, I can answer at will. Mostly, to my suprise, I found that they just needed a little reassurance.
2007-09-10 04:27:11 · answer #1 · answered by ? 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
You don't tell them that, it will only hurt....best bet is to BE BUSY, be unavailable. If they show up, start packing up the kids and say, "I wish you had called first to see if we were available, because we actually had plans to go to the park, or movie, call me in a few days and we can plan a get together." Then you kind of shuffle everyone OUT....even if you just drive around a couple blocks or get the kids an ice cream and then go home later....you are taking control and TEACHING them that they just can't stop by without a plan.
Another good one, is you see them in the driveway, you run to the bathroom, jump in the shower, and answer the door with a towel draped over you dripping wet....hopefully they will be embarassed enough that next time they think twice or at least call before stopping by! LOL
Also, use your caller ID, don't take all their calls. Don't call back right away....give it a day or two and then return the call. Eventually you will train them....
But by simply telling them they love you too much, call too much, stop by too much, OUCH.....at least you have family that are involved, it's actually a blessing!
2007-09-10 03:46:26 · answer #2 · answered by reddevilbloodymary 6 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Keeping in touch with them is a manifestation of love and care to your family members. It may not have been too much affection or overwhelming, as long as the contacts are there and greeting were made especially during birthdays, anniversaries or any occasion due to the family members. That for me counts alot! Saying hello during these occasions marks the intimacy of love that definitely keeps the love grow. What is important and matter most is to remember those days and events of life of the family members . This for me is good enough that love and care are always there living in memories of each member.
2007-09-10 04:54:35 · answer #3 · answered by Third P 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well the way you may see it is a little bit off the edge because you can never love someone to much. God loved us so much that He became a man to bear man's sins on a cross. To rise in 3 day's and ascend on high. And whoever believes well He is fortunate. But back to love. See love never fails is my point and if you think that you only love once in awhile then your wrong because love can be shared all the time.
2007-09-10 10:26:52 · answer #4 · answered by calltoperservence 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I can understand your point of view Moon but i also agree very much with what Dr Bunny and Ibelfer are saying.
By my own experience i have known people and still today i know people who are , craving for only a smile , fishing for a small compliment , running after some sort of elementary respect from others.
Love is like food , it is the food of the heart , you cannot have too much and if you have too much , share it.
I know that you share it.
2007-09-10 05:15:46 · answer #5 · answered by d260383 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
...when I lived in another state, I had a friend who was just overwhelming in her attention and I worked with her as well...I liked her, but she was "clingy"...I assume that's what you're referring to here...I shut the ringer off on the phone, and if I was at home, I would lock the door and not always answer it if she came over with her kids unexpectedly (who didn't always get along with mine, by the way) ...I couldn't get anything done at home or outside because she was always "there"...even telling her to vanish once in a while didn't help much...
2007-09-10 06:16:39 · answer #6 · answered by EvelynMine 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes, it is too much and you feel like you are going nuts.
You may have to be honest and explain you need a break from it all. Lying and avoiding them will hurt their feelings a lot worse than just being honest. Sometimes, people are a lot more understanding than we give them credit for.
Have a great day, Moon.
2007-09-10 04:30:00 · answer #7 · answered by Breezey is saying HAPPY BIRTHDAY 7 · 4⤊ 1⤋
You know what? I used to think that too much love is overwhelming. But I've learned it's not and to appreciate every little minute of it. Because you may find one day it's gone.
2007-09-10 04:01:07 · answer #8 · answered by Dr. E. Bunny A.K.A. Andy. 7 · 5⤊ 1⤋
In my experience there is no kind way, if they love you they will feel hurt no matter how you tell them but will respect you more for it and will not love you any less. Just talk to them and explain how you are feeling (face to face, not over the phone).
2007-09-10 08:04:02 · answer #9 · answered by ANDY T 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you will be old and sick you not going to have to much attention believe me! So enjoy it now!
2007-09-10 04:16:02 · answer #10 · answered by lbelfer 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋