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Question

I need to know what you would do if your husband was abusing you and you called your parents for reassurence and they said we dont know we are not there. they also said are you sure you are notoverreacting WHAT how could they say theat to there daughter its unbelievable. and the other thing that happend was i was almost raped because i was at a party and needed a ride home so I asked a friend of my best friends sister i thought you know they are all friends well he almost raped me i told my parents and they said well I shouldent be getting in cars with peoplei dident know. ok maybe but they cant even talk about it with me. you know when someone goes through something like that thats not encouraging what they said. nowits years down the rode and I cant get over what they did they know but they said I need to get over it. IF IT WHERE you would you ever get over it. its not like i asked to be abused and family is supposed to help you through it and its notlike i hithiked it was a friend

Ok so my computor space bar is broken and thats why my writing is messed up. and I am out of the abusive realationship . You people who made negitive comment need to get a life your probably 10 years old go to school and get a educationbefore you write on my page. for everyone else thanks for the advice it helped. and no i dont need attention from anyone i just needed advice so thanks all who helped

Answer 1

You need to get over it... I don't mean it to sound the way it does, you need to get some professional help, someone you can confide in and not be judged. Someone who'll help you deal with all this and put it behind you. I think what your parents are doing (or not doing) is really crappy, and I can understand if you don't want to forgive them, but you really do need to leave it behind and move on, continue with your life. I hope you are out of the abusive relationship, if you aren't, then it's the best moment to start a new life, leaving EVERYTHING behind.

Good luck.

Answer 2

If your writing skills are ANYTHING like your observational and judgmental skills... I can understand why your parents can't take you seriously.

I would think you were an idiot too if you told me you got in a car of your best friends "Friend". You willingly put your self in danger. Party implies possible drinking. Drinking implies a possible impairment in judgment.

All these things you have describe puts into question what "abuse" is. If he's telling you it's stupid to go to a party without him. Or it was stupid to get into a car with a person you did not know, that sounds like a man trying to convey some common sense to a person lacking such. Since you have not provided ANY specific examples of abuse by your husband, it really sounds like you don't know what your talking about (with authority).

Idiot crybaby, Idiot, IDIOT!

Answer 3

I have parents like this also. I was married for 7 years to a man that was very abusive, not physically but mentally. I left him and my father took my step mother, (who hates all of my fathers children and never met the ex husband) over to talk to him. Enough said about that and my situation with it....however the way I manage to deal with it all is that I remember that parents are people also. They are JUST people. We were born to them and they aren't what we would have chosen by a long shot. They are what we have, once I realized this and ACCEPTED that I wasn't going to get the support I longed for from them I was able to live my life with out any expectations from them. Once my expectations were gone and I was able to let go of that, my feelings stopped getting hurt. I have friends, a husband and a higher power who love me. I know who to turn to for each thing that happens to me in life now, I know where to get the support that I need, we all need. In turn, I make certain to always be there for people in my life who need me, a hug, a ride, an ear or what ever they need. This experience in my life has made me a better mother and wife I think. Use it to make yourself a better person, the person that you know that you are, you are worth so much more than that. Remember always, that you are Gods precious baby just like every one else.

Answer 4

No abuse should be tolerated - period. No one deserves this - Ever. Get out! As for your parents and lack of support. I think too often people don't know what to say. Most of us are trained in how to help other cope. Granted they should be there to love you no matter what, but I agree with the comment about some professional help. Yahoo answers is great but they are only opinions and I agree that you need to work through you issues with a trained professional.

Answer 5

First of all if your husband is abusing you, call the police and get out. Call a women's help line or center for abuse. Second, about the almost rape incident. You need counseling. Things like that do not go away, and you do not just "get over them". Third, your parents. They seem reluctant to get involved. I would suggest talking to someone other than them. Please get help asap. I know it is tough when your own parents seem not to to care. You need to talk to someone, anyone! Do what ever it takes to get away from your hubby and into a safer place. Good luck.

Answer 6

It may be that your family does not know how to talk to you and say the things you want to hear. Just be happy you can call and pour your heart out to them even if they dont say anything. Some people do not know how to handle and deal with things like that or even know the words to say. We all have our ow way of dealing with things that happen to us or family members. Death, Illness, abuse, drugs. even rape it is all different. Some people may cry while other get mad. Some may feel like talking while others keep it inside. Seek therapy and learn about your needs and how to cope.

Answer 7

its sad because so many parents done want to *hear* what almost happened to u or what did happen to u they would rather ignore it i know it hurts try contacting a local domestic violence center and let them know whats going on you can remain anonymous and your phone number doesnt show up please get counselling for the almost rape its surely affecting you now it will help u deal with all this good luck

Answer 8

You need to get over what happened, by not getting over it, you are choosing to relive it day in and day out. At least now you know what kind of reaction you're going to get from your family, so you know to go to someone else if you need to talk to someone.

Answer 9

Real answer, You sound like one who thrives on being a victim and craves the sympathy that might accompany it.

When in fact you are probably a drama queen who makes these situations happen because you like all the turmoil that goes with them.

My suggestion is to look at yourself as the source of these problems rather than at outside factors.

Answer 10

Go back to school, your grammar and punctuation are horrible! I couldn't even finish reading the question.