Would you agree that being symathytic to each other needs is very important?

Question

I believe that for a marrige to be successful both people need to relize its not just about them selves any more it a union of mind body and soul. Both people come into a marrige expecting certain things the key is to be symathetic to each others needs. One person might need more emotional support and the other might need more phyiscal support. Would you agree that meeting each others needs is very important even if it means going out of your way to make the other person happy?

Answer 1

Yes - but I also think you need to make sure YOU are happy as well. You are still two separate people with different needs.

I've been married for ten years now, and I like to think of our marriage as a match of wits and love, not necessarily body, mind and soul. I'm not married to his mind - and he's not married to mine!

Answer 2

It sounds as though you believe that you are meeting your wife's emotional needs, and that she is not meeting your physical needs. Marriage relationships are tough. People often get married having unrealistic expectations of their partners, and both parties often bring a lot of baggage into the relationship---past relationships, dysfunctional upbringing, etc... In a nutshell, your problem is more complicated than you make it appear. The way you framed your question, who wouldn't agree with you? And it looks like many people have. It would be easy for you at this point to show your wife how everyone agrees with you---so she must be the one with the problem. Don't do that. Find a good marriage counselor, there may be some deep seated reasons for the problems you guys are experiencing. It may take a while to uncover them and to work through them, but it's worth it. Be prepared to invest at least a year in working with a counselor---there are no quick fixes.

Answer 3

Hi...

Happiness comes from within, so we can't "make" another person happy... Of course, we can brighten their day by doing nice things...

Yes i believe that we need to compromise and sometimes sacrifice when we are married.

As far as "going out of your way" to do things for the other person all the time, i have to say NO.... Not all the time...

Each one of us adults need to take care of our own stuff... that is, if you take lunch to work, pack it yourself. If you make a mess, clean it up... If you need an appointment, call the place and arrange it for yourself. Depending on the other person to take care of your every need and whim is not right.

When we are married, yes, we are in a union. This doesn't mean we must lose our sense of self, and stop doing the things we like, give up friends and ect. Because we are still individuals......

If one or the other partner has a need and they can't meet it themselves, yes helping them is very important... Emotional support and physical support is also great.....when the other person cant' do it for themselves.

Making decisions together and communicating is also critical. Accepting each other at face value is something we all need to do as well....everyone has their quirks.

Sometimes my time IS about ME.... i am not going to give up every minute of my life for someone else, NO.. I have interests and hobbies and things i like to do on my own.

We all need time as a couple, and then there is our down time...

take care.

Answer 4

I believe that is very true...but the key is that BOTH are meeting each others needs.
I think all too often one or the other stop giving and the other starts feeling like the marriage is no longer a give and take. One becomes the giver and the other becomes the taker...when this happens, resentment builds and then destroys.

Answer 5

i be live in marriage you become as one and should treat other as you would like to be treated. you should be sympathetic toward each other needs but sometimes people are selfless. some people do need emotional support more than others and you should be there for them. meeting each other needs are important because you are no longer count as individual you become one mind and body and soul.
You should go out your way to make the next person happy because if they are happy everything will be find.

best of luck

Answer 6

I would agree to a point. I would say it is more important to be empathetic to someones needs rather than sympathetic. Sympathy for someones needs, while admirable, will cause a person to step out of his/her own personal comfort level. After time the person starts to feel like they have changed and maybe not in a good way. If you show empathy then you realize their concerns and needs, acknowledge them, and then choose whether or not the meet them or if you are even capable.

Answer 7

It is extremely important to be able to compromise with each other about such things. And it is even more important to communicate those needs in an open and honest manner.

In our relationship we often have to do some compromising, especially since my physical strength often makes it difficult for me to take care of his physical needs as much as I would like to. This too shall pass.

Answer 8

While we cannot depend on other people for our happiness, I do believe that we should be sympathetic to our spouse's needs. A marriage can't be all about one person having their needs met and the other getting no needs met. It's like, loving with nothing in return, eventually your bucket it empty.

Answer 9

I believe a marriage is 50/50 and going out of your way is cool if it is appreciated. Both should need the same need yes one day the other significant other should be there for the other as vs versa a marriage goes both ways without communication and sympathy you have no marriage and it will be doomed.

Answer 10

My belief is that it is your job to try and take care of your spouse. Either emotional or physical, when they are sick, when they need to be cheered up, when they had the rough day or anything. Your "job" as we'll call it is to try and provide support and care. You should compromise when possible. So, YES, I would have to agree.