I am married, and my wife and I haven't made love in some time because we had a kid together last year and it ruined our sexlife.
We live with my sister-in-law. She is a nice girl who is driving me crazy because I want to have sex with her. (She has a booming bod and always walks around barely clothed, not thinking anything about it.)
I am going to resist my temptations obviously because I love my wife, but I cannot get her out of my mind!
When we hang out innocently, I just want to jug-hump her senseless!
What can I do to stop feeling this way??
It is driving me nuts, help!!
2007-09-10 02:32:36 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I don't think that it is the baby that ruined your sexlife but your sister in law. She needs to find another place to live. You and you wife need to start talking about your sex life, no in a angry way but a caring way. you may be suprised to learn she misses sex as much as you do. I can tell you I wouldn't want have sex with my sister with in earshot.
2007-09-10 02:38:16 · answer #1 · answered by librarylynn77 1 · 7⤊ 1⤋
Banging My Sister In Law
2016-11-09 23:25:59 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have sex w/ your sister-in-law and you'll ruin a couple relationships.
Yours and your wife's and your wife and her sister.
You need to talk with your wife, and make time for each other.
Relationships need to be worked on ever day, some days are just easier then others. Since the baby have you bought her flowers or made her feel special in any way ?? Baby's are full time jobs and any free time are usually taken up with just resting. How about you keep the baby for awhile, clean and cook. She'll appreciate it believe me and maybe your sex will come.
She is probably missing the same things you are.
Be a man and break the ice, talk don't get wound up.
You won't die w/o it !!! But don't give in to temptation.
Also, hopefully her sister will have too much class to let sex happen with her sister's husband !!!
2007-09-10 02:49:29 · answer #3 · answered by jim_17331 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You probably won't be able to stop thinking about her in that way. That is the cruel trick of being a sexual being. It is the "forbidden fruit" all over again. Do your best not to give into this temptation because only trouble will come from it. First off, talk to your wife about your sex life and do whatever you can to get it back. Also, have your wife talk to her sister and ask her not to walk around so scantily clad. It will be a hard sell since you live with her so you may also want to look for another place, but I know the restraints financially after having a child as well. Good luck. By the way...I am going to steal that "jug-hump" line...that was hilarious!!!!
2007-09-10 02:46:08 · answer #4 · answered by No one 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My Goodness you have yourself a SERIOUS problem. You need to be straight up with your wife and tell her she isn't meeting your physical needs and that her sister needs to put more clothes on because it is making you uncomfortable or maybe just tell the sister your uncomfortable when she wears certain things. You could also read the book Every Man's battle it will give you more in depth knowledge of how to deal with such matters. I will put it to you this way good for you that you know it's a problem now you have to make a covenant with your eyes that you will not look upon another woman and lust after her. At all costs don't even look at her sister I'm sorry my heart really does go out to you I do have one last Idea go out of your way to do something really sweet for your wife like a dinner date and the days before the date be extra sweet to your wife don't fuss with her say yes dear so on and so on...rub her back any sweet gesture you can think of so once the night of the date gets here you have buttered her up for a few days and she will be more willing to meet your physical needs once her emotional needs are met. Good Luck
2007-09-10 03:34:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
These things happen and probably since you and your wife have no sex life, it only enhances your desire for the sister in law.
You and your wife need to get together and get some sort of sex counseling or whatever. YES women lose the desire for sex after having a baby many times.. it's actually nature kicking in-- but that's a long story, and i'm not going into it here....
Maybe you and your wife could also consider moving and living on your own. Apparently, you need to make some repairs in your relationship.
take care.
2007-09-10 02:42:31 · answer #6 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either kick her out or get out. Sounds to me like you would end up having that moment of weakness, and at that point is when your wife, whom you love so much, would walk through the door to catch you. Why not ask your sister-in-law to babysit and and take your wife upstairs and "jug-hump her senseless", I'm sure your wife wants you just as bad. That way the 2 of you can get the alone time you both need. Look at it both ways, this is your wife's sister, so there will be more than one relationship ruined if you attempt to act on these feelings. Besides, she may not want you, then how embarrassed would you be that you ruined both relationships and got nada for it?!
2007-09-10 03:03:52 · answer #7 · answered by Beatngu 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm in a similar situation to be honest. As for me I can assure you that it's not infatuation. My sister-in-law is a wonderful soul and so is my fiance. I'm very close to both of them. I didn't know that a person can deeply fall in love with more than one person. As for me I'm not going to pursue my sister-in-law because I love her so much that I wouldn't want to complicate her life even more. From time to time I fight my urges because she's flirtatious with me. The question is how much do you love your wife and your sister-in-law. Do you love them enough to put your personal feeling aside for their well-being? I know it's hard, but think really hard about the consequences that comes along with your actions. Is it worth losing your wife and tearing families apart just to have her. I know you fantasize about your sister-in-law more than you can mention here on yahoo. It must be like torcher for you because it is for me and I don't even live with my sister-in-law. I have my own place. At times I just wanna kick myself in the head. People say that I might be confused about things. How confused am I when I would die for both of them in a heartbeat (which I almost did for my sister-in-law).As for you I'm not sure if it's just sexual attraction or deeper. If you love her there's nothing wrong with that as long as you're constantly thinking about what's best for her and not what's best for your sexual desires. If I were you I'd think about this thoroughly because this is the kind of stuff that leads to families breaking apart and causing massive drama that can scar for a lifetime. It's really hard in my situation because I know for a fact that she fight her urges too. I can't help being nice to a nice person. It's not like I feel this way about every nice woman that I've met. I hope anything that I've share with you can help. My best wishes to you and good luck!!!!
2007-09-12 09:42:01 · answer #8 · answered by similarsituation 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if the sis-in-law doesn't wanna have sex with you, there's nothing to worry about! It takes two to tango, remember.
Hold on, you live with your sis-in-law! I personally thin that's dumb of your wife, because I thought EVERY married woman knows you don't let another woman live in your house!!
But I don't think you should sleep with her. What if she's lousy in the sack? Short-term pleasure for potentially long-term problems. Don't do it. That's why God gave us hands and an imagination. I'll leave it at that.
2007-09-10 03:46:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's natural, but I'm surprised your wife allows her to dress like that around you as most wives are ultra-jealous of other women, especially sisters.
Suggest you ask your wife to have her sister dress more appropriately around the house, but be very careful with the way you put it as it could back-fire big time!
2007-09-10 02:38:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋