My partner and I had been dating for 6 months when I met Mr. X. Mr. X. was married and I sensed very quickly on that he was not happily married, though he did not come right out and say it. I began to grow increasingly upset with my man over various big and smaller issues. One day it hit me, I was falling for Mr. X. I knew I had to cut off ties with Mr. X and I told him why. Up until this point he had been very nonchalant and I had no idea he felt the same way. We immediately stopped talking out of respect for our partners. We did not see eachother or talk for 6 months. I recently saw him again as I began working with another coach from the same company and realized the feelings have not gone away. Mr. X has seperated with his wife in the meanwhile (while we weren't talking). Now I am confused, torn and unsure of how he is feeling? Do I bring something up? Am I just being silly and should try to fix my relationship? Does he need space? I don't know what to do?!
2007-09-10 02:31:35 · 12 answers · asked by leelee c25 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
A few people have commented on the fact that 6 mos is not long term. It was 6 mos when I met the other guy. I have now been with my partner for 2 1/2 years.
2007-09-10 04:03:10 · update #1
for me, this is a sticky situation... mr. x has just stepped out of a relationship. be careful not to fall into this trap.. you might just become the rebound girl... its not healthy for you and for him... let him cope with his past and develop first a friendship with him... get to know him more... dont just jump into the water before testing it...you might realize its too deep and its too late for you to get out of it... be wise...
2007-09-10 02:37:20 · answer #1 · answered by brazenlove 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi hon
Even if you do not "fix" your own relationship and end your own marriage, Mr. X should not be a part of your new equasion.
Many times people have a serious chemical attraction. I have found this to be true several times during my life. I wasn't always available to go for the person, however.
When we get out of a long-term relationship, the last thing we need is to jump right into a new relationship. That is called REBOUNDING and it's not healthy at all.....
After a marriage ends, a person needs to take the time to grieve and readjust to life outside the marriage... even if the marriage wasn't so great.
Most rebound relationships don't work.. Why? Because those who jump into one, are repeating the same thing expecting different results... one relationship after the next without a "break" in between is a recipe for disaster.
It usually takes a person at LEAST a year to recover from a divorce. Sometimes much longer.
You can do a search on Rebound Relationships to learn more about this type of situation.
Take care of YOU...
2007-09-10 03:02:06 · answer #2 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. Sorry to hear; that really sucks. You should probably start trying to get over her. If you want her back, there's always jealousy. You can make her jealous but it could also backfire and push her farther away or give her the wrong message. Some advice I can give is, get some friends and keep them. Bros over hos .. (and chicks over ***** for you ladies) If those three and a half years felt long, you guys have probably been together for so long. Tell her how you really feel and go from there. Hope everything works out.
2016-04-04 00:12:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to really think for a second you have been with your Guy for a while and you just met this Mr. X as you call him do you really want to risk losing this really good guy that you have been with for a while just to give Mr. X a try and it May not be as wonderful as you think it might. Think about it?
I hope you make the right decision at the end.
2007-09-10 02:46:55 · answer #4 · answered by My life is now complete PWK&RJC! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is separated, then he is pretty much fair game. You should leave your partner before you enter into anything else. Do this and you will send the clear message that you are available. He probably thinks that you are still needing this space because you are still with this other man. Leave him and you will be available for a very rewarding relationship. He probably is still interested, however he doesn't think you are available.
2007-09-10 02:40:03 · answer #5 · answered by Rein 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want Mr. X, perhaps it's time for you to step away from your own relationship so the two of you can be together. It sounds like you both have deep feelings for each other, so why not try it out?
2007-09-10 02:56:25 · answer #6 · answered by chica_liss 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mr. X is still MARRIED. Don't kid yourself. He is not date material.
Second, why the heck are you still dating your partner? Obviously, you've already determined to look elsewhere rather than seeing a better future with him. Get out. That would show respect.
2007-09-10 02:47:03 · answer #7 · answered by Vitiran 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off I wouldn't consider 6 months a long term relationship, second if you don't want to be with your partner the you need to end it regardless of Mr.X . It isn't fair to string him along because you are conflicted and confused. As long as Mr.X is married I wouldn't recommend getting involved.
2007-09-10 02:38:58 · answer #8 · answered by Shavon 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You refer to your current relationship as your "partner". This implys to me that you have an exclusive relationship. It would be unfair of you to begin seeing someone else without informing your current partner.
Talk to your partner and decide - do you want to fix what you've got or move on.
Then you will know what to do about Mr X.
2007-09-10 02:40:52 · answer #9 · answered by Bruce M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
6 months is only considered a long term relationship in seventh grade.
2007-09-10 03:01:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋