I have had to put up with a lot of "baggage" since I have been going out with my boyfriend the last 10 months. He used to say things like "if and when I get married it will be forever as I don't believe in divorce because of my parent's" and he really wanted to buy a house and was looking into buying with friends "because he would rather do that than buy with a girl because so many of his relationships haven't worked out." This used to make me feel pretty bad but it was the early stages so I gave him the benefit of the doubt. He also hasn't told me he loves me as again he says he will only say it when "he truly means it" and "it's a big deal" for him. He tells me he is falling in love with me "so much" but never lets me know how he feels about me really. All the above has made me sceptical that it may not work with this guy and he may never fall for me. However recently he has started saying "when we get married" and now wants to buy a house with me? What is going on?
2007-09-10 02:22:11 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Timmy P - how long have you been with your girlfriend?And why are you still with her if you don't love her?
2007-09-10 02:40:59 · update #1
It sounds like he is commiting himself to you. He's fishing. He sounding you out. He wants input from you. Are you ready to make a commitment with him? Are you ready to put everything you have into this relationship and to forsake all others? If you are, tell him. Also, a BIG part of a relationship is, communication. You have to be able to talk with one another. So, sit down with each other. Have a heart to heart talk with each other and find out what he expects out of a relationship and you do the same. Maybe his other relationships didn't work out because of lack of communications. If you truly care about this guy, don't let that happen. Good luck.
2007-09-10 02:40:56 · answer #1 · answered by darlene z 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would back off from this dude, I mean unless its been a while since he's said the old stuff, guys are entiltled to change their mind. My worry for is that he will go back and forth about it, getting your hopes high then dashing them like a bad dream or something. At least thats what happened to me. All men are not the same. At least the dude is open and upfront about what he does say. I wouldn't even talk about marriage or moving in with him. Let him bring it up and share his thoughts on it. If he doesnt, be content with where you are. Sometimes God tells us things in a subtle, when we dont take heed, it comes back to bite us, you dig? Good luck and God Bless. My last tip: never fall in love with a man who doesnt love you
2007-09-10 09:32:14 · answer #2 · answered by teri is ambience 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he is a bit confused as he has had a few bad realationships. If you feel strongly for him you will put up with the confusions. There was alot at the beginging of my realationship I stuck it out and now I have been with him for two years and we are now engaged. x
2007-09-10 09:33:33 · answer #3 · answered by Martina 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may be starting to love you. I won't tell my girlfriend I love her because in actuality, I don't. You should feel lucky, if you feel the same way about him.
2007-09-10 09:31:04 · answer #4 · answered by HERE WE GO BROWNIES, BEAT PIT!! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
communicate this to him!!!!!!!
2007-09-10 09:50:22 · answer #5 · answered by happywjc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋