I am married too, but don't love my husband any more. Do you think it's so wrong loving a married man?
2007-09-10 01:57:34 · 27 answers · asked by Erani G 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Whatever your reasons are for not having a divorce from your husband, you can't start an affair with someone else's husband and hope to be happy. Doesn't work that way. What you do to other will come back to you, Just remember this because its very true
2007-09-10 02:04:19 · answer #1 · answered by ina W 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not wrong to love another person, but it is wrong that you are going behind your husband's back and cheating on him.
Why do you no longer love your husband? There are issues or reasons in your marriage that make you want to cheat. Deal with them first and work on your marriage instead of going outside with someone else. If you've both tried everything and the marriage can't be saved, then go for the divorce, but wait until everything is final first.
It's not just about you and this man, it's about both your spouses too (and any children that may be involved). How would your husband feel if he found out about this? How would the man's wife feel?
2007-09-10 09:29:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have a soul searching session before you make that decision. Ask yourself what went wrong with you and your husband? There are a lot of things in between so please talk it out. Frankly I do have that feeling too as my wife is a very career minded woman who travels extensively. We would probably seeing each other for less than 4 months a year and we would only get intimated once in a few blue moons.can you imagine that!!! But after I told her honestly that I am loosing this marriage, she realised that she has been neglecting me all these years. We were married for 18 years and I love her very much. Well if you needed someone to talk to (via phone or email), drop me an email anytime at alf_29m@yahoo.com. Cheers!!!!!!!!
2007-09-10 09:09:12 · answer #3 · answered by Alf 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Loving a married man is one thing. Acting on it is different. Don't do it while either of you are still married. Nothing good will come of it. If you don't love your husband, and you don't have any kids, break it off clean now, and THEN start looking for someone single to date.
Besides, what makes you think this married guy has any feelings for you?
2007-09-10 09:04:49 · answer #4 · answered by Ralfcoder 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on what kind of relationship you want...In the beginning thigs can be exciting but then it will get frustrating. Think about week-ends, Christmas etc...You will be jealous.
Be aware that many people can get hurt if you take such a decision. But most of all YOU.
However, I know that it is difficult to go against your heart.
See the movie "Little children"...It`s about a woman with a similar situation like yours.
Try to balance things well and decide what is better for you. See advantages and disadvantages. Nobody know this better than you.
As for getting involved with married men...the only wrong thing is that you give them a satisfaction that they will never appreciate...
2007-09-10 09:08:02 · answer #5 · answered by xxx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sad situation I must say. You need to work on your marriage not be part of the destruction of another one. I can recommend two books that can greatly improve marriages if the knowledge they give is applied. Love and Respect and Cracking the Communication Code (both by Emmerson Eggrich) you can buy the cd's online at loveandrespect.com. You can fall back in love with your husband if you make effort to meet his needs he will to meet yours try to get him to read or listen to the cd's with you let him know you are unhappy and want to have a better marriage. I know you think "why should I be the one to fix our marriage?" I say why not? One of you has to be the first to take a step in the right direction
2007-09-10 10:54:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
⥠You can't help who you fall in love with, but its wrong to pursue a relationship when both you & he are married. If you dont love your husband anymore then you need to divorce him so that you can find love & happiness elsewhere. As for this other man if he doesnt love his wife then he needs to divorce her as well then maybe ya'll can get together. Otherwise the relationship is off limits. Good Luck!
2007-09-10 09:03:23 · answer #7 · answered by NCIS ♥ Addict 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, very wrong. You need to put yourself in the other wife's shoes -- how would you feel if you still loved your husband and he cheated on you with another woman? It hurts and I know from experience.
Always remember that if a man is willing to cheat on his wife what makes you think he won't cheat again.
You need to talk to your husband and let him know how you feel about him --- then make a decision to stick it out or move on with the rest of your life.
Good luck!
2007-09-10 09:07:11 · answer #8 · answered by luv2bake49 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You both need to get a divorce before having an affair with his man. You don't mention if he's happy or not. He may not be interested in having an affair with you.
2007-09-10 09:45:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is wrong loving a married man. No one should have to tell you this, as I am sure you know it or you wouldn't ask this question.
2007-09-10 09:06:01 · answer #10 · answered by pussycat 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋