I am 22 years old and i have a 6 month old son. When i started secondary school i met my best mate we were inseperable for nearly 11 years I evenm moved in with her and her dad when her mum left them, she was there for me when i was raped and when i was trying to find my birth parents she was so supportive through all the **** i went through and we always promised to be there for each other. when i was 19 i met a lad and started dating him after 3 weeks i couldnt even be in the same room as him he was too controlling. she got together with him and we stayed frinds for a while then she cut me out of her life totally. she saw my mum who told her i had a son and after 3 years she called and came over for 10 mins then left, i miss her but she didnt explain why she cut me out of her life! Why did she turn up for 10 mins after 3 years of not talking to me!?
2007-09-09 23:12:25 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
she is with your ex, if he controlled you then he will control her, sounds like he is trying to separate the two of you and keep you as far away from one another as possible. if she sees sense and finds the courage to leave him then be there for her just like the old times. she will need you more than ever when she leaves.
good luck to you for getting on with your life.
2007-09-10 00:02:37 · answer #1 · answered by sara d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your ex was so controlling that might the reason for her not staying in touch. Those 10mins might be her way of showing she still cares or checking you were ok. If shes still with the same guy 10mins might have been all she could get away with afraid she'll want to see you more and knows she cant, maybe she felt you might have not wanted her there either.
Try getting in touch with her if you can.
2007-09-09 23:24:11 · answer #2 · answered by molly8485 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you ever thought that it was the man in her life that was stopping her from seeing you. so in that respect you should support her no matter what as you know how controlling he can be. perhaps she misses you too but perhaps she is scared of what may happen if she talks to you. she will come round in her own time all you can do is try to be there for her when she does. perhaps her coming round after so long was a cry for help from the one person she has been able to rely on. don't push her away no matter what happens.
2007-09-10 09:03:30 · answer #3 · answered by firecracker 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she might of realised what happened was wrong and wanted to see you and how you was doing. she probably did not stay long because she thought that any longer may have been uncomfortable for the both of you.
just talk to her and give her chance to at least explain once she knows you can talk then she may tell you why things happened in the apst but to be honest don't hold onto what happened back then because it is the past and thats where it should stay
hope it all works out for you and you sort everyhting out
2007-09-10 03:17:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he was controlling, he probably would not let her see you. That may have been her way of apologizing. Some people do not know how to make amends once they have hurt someone. Just accept it for what it was.
2007-09-09 23:23:08 · answer #5 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is it not obvious to you he is also controlling her she wants to see you by the sound of it but can as he probably wont let her, try to put your point across that you wont tell him she has been round if you dont want to, and this is probably the excuse she has been waiting for to get in touch again but been to scared,
2007-09-10 03:21:09 · answer #6 · answered by the little helper 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe she was uncomfortable about the fact that she was dating a man YOU were dating before her?? or maybe that other guy ordered her to... as you say he's controlling..
and when she hears that you have a son, she wants to see if you're alright... or if you're paranoid, maybe she's here to steal your son, which is very unprobable.
2007-09-09 23:31:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's controlling her too. Sounds like she wants to see you, but she's afraid of him.
2007-09-09 23:21:10 · answer #8 · answered by justme 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she wanted to see for herself how you was doing.... the reason why she shut you out was because he was your x and she would have been insecure about her guy whether he would be truly over you..........
2007-09-09 23:20:01 · answer #9 · answered by tinkerbell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋