I and my boy frnd have a relation from 1996 Jan. we r not disturbing another families. we meet after 2-3 days and on telephone daily for 2-3 hrs he help me financlly also bcoz he is so rich and i m a working lady middle class but he love me as he says. are we wrong or right i love him very much and cant live without him i love my hubby and children also too much i m now 39 and he is 52 yrs shud we go ahead or not please tell
2007-09-09 22:25:23 · 15 answers · asked by indian 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
As per kamasurtra sex with partner should give them both satisfaction. They have to reach heavenly happiness. If u are enjoying like that it is ok. If u are also enjoying with ur hubby in the same it is ok. The gentleman who help u fiancially at the time need is good. It he loves u it is ok. I think u are not doing any wrong because when u are need no body comes to ur risk, now u care no body. But keep all these in confidential to ur children. If ur hubby is broad minded u can have permission to sleep with ur boy friend. And also see that his family shuld not be disturbed. When problem arise in both family. Please cut ur extra relatinsip. Because family is the main and foundation to ur future life.
2007-09-11 16:49:59 · answer #1 · answered by Meghana 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As i see your age and the years you had relationship, you must stop your illegal relationship dear. Now you have reached at a reasonable age. Now its time to build your family. You are going to gain nothing from having such relationship.
Ya, i accept the fact that he is helping you financially. For that only there is a person called 'husband' installed at your home. He very well knows how to balance family. As days pass by this relationship will creat problem and no lie or sin can hide too long. This can hurt your family sentiments dear. Snap this relationship slowly ya........
2007-09-10 08:15:24 · answer #2 · answered by Shinoj Kumar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion, you should abandon your boy-friend. You cannot simultaneously stand on two boats in a river. Choose either your family or your boy-friend, but not both. Anyway, it is better to go with your family and sever contacts with your boyfriend. If your boyfriend helps you financially, it is from humanitarian point of view. If his motive is to get you itself as a price of his help, it is definitely not love. However, your boyfriend will hardly admit that he has any selfish motive. Do not be naive. Nothing is more sacred than marriage.
The so called friendship of a woman with a man other than her husband takes her and her family members to hell. Also, this extra-marital friendship between opposite sexes is nothing but a mirage. You exist because your family members are there. Minus them, your boyfriend's real character will come to the surface. He will never accept you. Love outside marriage is a mere time-pass. Your boyfriend gives you money because he has enough of it, and he secretly wants something from you in return.
Do not be gullible. Be careful.
Of course, it is you who will take the final decision. Mine is only a suggestion.
2007-09-10 05:54:33 · answer #3 · answered by Devarat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have already decided your future and having a friend who helps you even financially. You talk to him daily for hours together and meet once in a while. You are 39 and he is 52. No one else can guide you now. Its your own decision good or bad. Tell me what do your husband say about it or does he know about it.
2007-09-11 06:18:02 · answer #4 · answered by JP 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please dont forget about others in the relationship. Your husband and your children . would you approve it if your husband did the same. I dont think this is a good option. get over with it dear. First love is very very close to our hearts . yes
But dont forget that if this gets out of hand and if you get caught .
It is finally your choice but do have some consideration for his family and your family also.
In this situation you have to use your head and not your heart.
2007-09-10 08:12:39 · answer #5 · answered by Antony 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you are asking for is permission.
Is it right? NO
You may need to cut back on the Love drugs. You are cheating and your family is hurting because of your behavior.
Even if they don't know it you are spending time and effort on this affair and not on making your family secure. Work harder and give your kids the income they need to avoid this kind of thing in their lives.l
2007-09-10 05:58:01 · answer #6 · answered by noyoungun 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it is your life lady, only u can decide what to do. but i have only one comment. you say u love your friend and your huband both at the same time. does not sound right. any way u have to make up your own mind rather then revealing your life s secret on a public forum
2007-09-10 06:32:03 · answer #7 · answered by delta 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, if being an adulteress makes you happy, then go right ahead, who are we to judge... that's God's job and he will do his job when the time comes. How do you think He would answer this question?
2007-09-10 07:54:10 · answer #8 · answered by Bear~~~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Consider yourself a ***** or prostitute as a second job. You're married he's married and hes paying you to sleep with him. You don't know that it's wrong?
2007-09-10 07:05:11 · answer #9 · answered by rhonda c 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ur in a relation for long time now u ask its late
2007-09-10 05:38:57 · answer #10 · answered by miliy 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋