They say the proof of the pudding is in the eating?

Question

As I am one of the people who believe innocent until proven guilty, and that I have not seen or heard anything that seems more logical than the McCanns being innocent (please don't bother with the bleat: They left them alone, it's been said 1000's of times), I have been on the receiving end, many times of accusations of supporting/condoning abuse and being a bad parent. My daughters are kind, compassionate, strong, likeable, sucessful and happy, so to the other resonable people here who have been accussed of being bad parents, are you proud of the results of your labour?
Controversialiy I will also say, that, had I not learnt the lesson for which the McCanns are paying the price, I may have left my little ones asleep whilst I dined on holiday, shock, horror.
I spent a lot of time with my girls, who looks after the loved ones of the people who spend all day and night, every day and night on here. Who gives their children the attention they need?

Jose: My mistake I credited the readers of this question with having the intelligence to exclude themselves if they live alone, I thought I would not have to spell it out, oops!. How do I know about the time they spend on here? Because, regardless of when I pop back and check, they are here bleating the same unsubstantiated, non-sensical, illogical theories. Your assumption that my daughters are adults is correct, they are both in their 20's

Wench, thank you for the perfect example of what I mean by nasty, cruel and assumptive, you don't know me, my girls or our circumstances but you feel you have the knowledge and right to tell be that my girls are who they are despite me, tut tut, who's a nasty piece of work then?

Answer 1

Good post. I'm sure your children are a reflection of your own good morals, kindness and straight thinking.

You are very brave, on here, to admit that you would have left your children to sleep while you ate on holiday; I'm sure many of us would have had we not learnt from this terrible tragedy.

Answer 2

I too believe that people are innocent till proven guilty. I have felt ashamed about all the speculation that was going on about this case.
Whenever I have written this in the past, it seems on here you had to be pro or anti McCanns. I am not going to take sides, I am
waiting for the investigation to prove guilty or
innocent.
So far the only fact that I know, is they left the children alone in that apartment while dining with friends. My three are adults with children of their own now.
When their were small, if we stayed in a hotel,
we left them asleep while we went to the hotel
restaurant for dinner,but there was a monitor in their room, and reception would call us if they woke up. If that facility not been there I would not have left them.
But with hindsight, I honestly don't remember
if my husband checked the monitor to see if it was working! All I know is that I didn't!
A huge lapse on my part.
Let justice do it's work.
As for dear little Maddie, she is in my thoughts and prayers every single day.
Thank you for this question, I needed to say
what I have written.

Answer 3

Yes I am proud if my family.
My daughters decided to leave school against my better judgement. However most of them went back to college and or University and gained qualifications, 1 in Accountancy, 1 in Computers and Business Technology and another is a Student Nurse and also doing extremely well. Another is a Teacher, she was the only one who did it the right way round. LOL All of them married with children. The main reason why they went back and did these things. So that they could have a better standard of living. They all own their own homes.
This was all done off their own bat, once they realised that the only way in life was to make what you can of it. It was a hard lesson for them to learn, but they did.
So yes. I am extremely proud of what they have achieved. When they are stuck for childcare, my husband or I step in to help out, sometimes the both of us, depending what needs doing. We adore our Grandchildren each and every one of the them. I work full time so does my husband.
The computer is not only my means of employment but also some relaxing time. I like to keep up with things on line but don't have an awful lot of time on my hands. as you can imagine. LOL It all depends on whatever else is takes priority.
On top of all that I am also studying to further my own education. I believe that is my duty to myself because the world is changing all the time. That means so do I.

We all make mistakes along the way. No-one is perfect. It is what makes us who we are. You can only learn that through experience, it is not an inborn thing to be a perfect mother. We have to learn right from the first stages of pregnancy to their teen tantrums to adulthood. When I had my first child I didn't have a clue but only through my experience can I pass on this knowledge on to my children if they wish to listen. That is of course the key factor. Sometimes they do not. I think anyone who says they are perfect, is not of this earth. Sure we all want to be, but we are not. What a sad world we live in if we cannot learn these three key factors, tolerance, respect and humility.

Answer 4

Well said..Lets be honest..we should all put our hands up and admit we in one way or another may have neglected our kids for a moment..Perfect parents?what are perfect parents anyway?..The McCanns are not gulty of murder or neglect and lets face it those that hit out at the McCanns i think are trying to hide their own gult of being a bad parent.I love my kids and do all i can protect them but there are times when my eyes are not on them,,People are spouting off to much and putting the McCanns down that i never here anything from these people offering any support to help find Maddie..To many armchair critics are making the whole thing bad..Guilty means just that and that is something that has to be proven and not guessed at..I guess these critics should try and find something to stimulate their brains and stop talking sh*t..I am all for The McCanns and the search for maddie

Answer 5

I'm with you! Innocent until proven guilty is supposedly one of the corner stones of our so called free society!!

Unfortunately being a parent is left in the hands of humans and humans make mistakes - I'm incredibly grateful that my mistakes have led to grazed knees and an angry child rather than broken bones or, god forbid, an abducted daughter. Where is the compassion, if the McCanns had been sitting around a pool with their children when Maddie disappeared everyone would be on their side.

A little girl is missing - when will this fact become more important than what her parents were doing while she was abducted??

Answer 6

Of course you are right and the Internet haters are a disgrace to our belief in justice and fair play.

The police have no evidence against the MCCanns otherwise the McCanns would already be arrested.

By the way I saw the map showing how far away the McCanns left their children , I was surprised how close they were. They were only about twice as far away from the children as the length of my previous house's GARDEN.
They admitted the mistake and it will stay with them for life.

Answer 7

Yes there are a lot of "Hollier than thou" posters on YA

Many of them guilty of the same Neglect crime as the McCanns.

Theywont admit it but almost everyone has done it in one form or another.

If the McCanns had left the kids in the car whilst they paid for petrol and Maddeline had been kidnapped.
Then they would all be on here saying "That's terrible how could they do that"

Yet we have all done something the same or similar.

Let he without sin

Answer 8

Freethinker (?) you are GENERALISING again! There are lots of people who come on these boards who have NOBODY to answer to/look after! You are asking "who looks after the loved ones of the people who spend all day and all night on here"? I'M asking how do YOU know who spends all day and all night on here? If you are SO familiar with the people who post on YA, YOU must spend an extraordinary amount of time on here also! What ages are your children? Your description - kind, compassionate, strong, likeable, successful and happy - are all qualities I'd associate with
teen to adult. So why the reference to the McCann's?

SATURNFIVE/SAM J: You're doing it again! And I'm going to SAY it again - you can't HATE people you have never met. DISLIKE is the word you are looking for. People HATE the fact that these two neglected their children, which resulted in Madeleine's disappearance. SAM J: Just been listening to the Child Protection Expert being interviewed on This Morning. He's just stated that a wall blocks the "line of sight" from the Tapas bar to the apartments. Have a look at another map - there are plenty on-line.

FREETHINKER: Just read your edit. The clue was in the word GENERALISING, petal - and I wasn't referring to myself either, since I really don't care what people think - and I don't spend much time on here anyway!

EDIT: CHIMP - I'm all for MADELEINE and the SEARCH for her too - when's it starting? WHEN are they going to start using the fund money for that PURPOSE? A million quid lying in a bank account hasn't done Maddy any good, has it? What happened to "leave no stone unturned"?

Answer 9

My eldest daughter who is 28 this year i only met when she was 19 and the reason is i found out her mother was pregnant with her when i joined the army. I phoned to speak to her mother when she was in hospital having just given birth to her, but she didnt want me around nor even to make contact with her..........years later we met and now my eldest and my youngest daughters are fantastic i am so lucky. Innocent until proven guilty is what our great soldiers of both great wars fought for.

Answer 10

You are so so right. I think your daughters are so lucky to have such a well balanced and compassionate Mum.
And despite the spitefull comment made I think your Girls are the way they are very much Because of you.
Be proud.
What a great comment by ROY T, he is spot on when he says we have fought numerous Wars to defend great principals such as Innocent until proved guilty.
I wonder what side of those wars the Hate Campaign members would have been on.
Makes you think.