My bf of 3 months & his ex called it off over a yr ago & are still friends. She calls him weekly & they were still spending time together but unattached. Also he claims she is the only person he has loved. All of this made me uneasy, but then he went out of his way to introduce us to one another & told her all about us.
I guess I thought her knowing about us would mean she'd recognise us as a couple. Maybe she'd lay off some. But she continually calls him all hours, asks to dance with him when their at the same club & recently she sent him a msg saying she'd dreamt about the two of them being intimate (WTF!).
Can someone please clarify if this is going beyond the boundaries of friendship? Clearly she holds a torch for him, but I cant help that feel what she is doing is disrespectful to myself. She & I attend the same college, so I am constantly seeing her about & it grates coz I know I wouldn't do this to my ex-bf.
Should I do anything? or see if it passes? All thoughts appreciated.
2007-09-09 21:10:36 · 8 answers · asked by muylindas 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
normally if your bf says there's nothing between them, there really is nothing between them. men are dumb, they don't really pick up the signs, as obvious as they may seem to us. the girlfriend gets very sensitive to the signs because well, the boyfriend means a lot to them.
i've been in a similar situation as yours, and all i can say is don't let your suspicions or actions get in the way of your relationship. if you think your guy is worth your time, then talk to him about how you feel. there's nothing you can do about the girl, trust me. it's a major test to your relationship.
good luck!!
2007-09-09 21:17:35 · answer #1 · answered by dinOgaL(: 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
As a woman on her side of the fence.... I have three ex's that act that way toward me.... you need to really talk with your BF about his relationship with her. Tell him how you feel and decide together how this will be handled differently going forward. If he's fine with the way it is, then you might want to consider moving on. Their actions have gone beyond friendship, but please don't confront her. Your BF has the responsibility to you... not her.
Two of my ex's that still have feelings for me (after 17 and 10 years respectively) have had other relationships since we broke up and have always placed that other person second behind me. Not because I encourage it or spend time with them, but because they state that they will always love me no matter where life takes us and that they would be back in a relationship with me in a heartbeat if I ever indicated that is what I wanted. One of my ex's even told his wife that (tacky move).
2007-09-09 21:20:52 · answer #2 · answered by QueenBeeFee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not invest too much into this relationship. Sounds like you are in a rebound relationship. The coals are still simmering in the fire those two had. I would tell him that if he is not ready to move on, then go back. I would not stand for being disrespected like that. The telephone calls are one thing, the asking him to dance, and especially the dream deal would have to cease!!!
2007-09-09 21:18:02 · answer #3 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U are obviously uncomfortable with this situation so u need to be clear with ur boyfriend and ask him to set boundries with his ex. If he is unable or unwilling to do this u need to evaluate whether u want to continue the relationship. It is better to sort this out now before it gets worse.
2007-09-09 21:27:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok i know all about this you need to put your foot down and make him stop talkin to her this is her way of keeping him in her control i used to be that girl and her calling and everything is to piss you off and i can almost bet on the fact that they are intimate. she knows she can control him in this matter so she will as long as he lets her, if she is his ex tell him he needs to put her just as that exex out in the past and don't look back not neccesarily with hard feelings but you are his now and he need to cut them ties it just is not fair to you
2007-09-09 21:16:47 · answer #5 · answered by mz bozzy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is trying to get back to your bf...your bf is enjoying by haveing both of you, you better talk to him and tell him how you feel and he should stop seeing her, if he doesnot like it maybe you need to break up with him or decide what you need to do next.....but definitely she is getting tooooo clos for comfort
2007-09-09 21:18:11 · answer #6 · answered by charlie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
KICK THE B ITCH'S A SS!!!!! AND HIS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! SERIOUSLY DON'T TAKE THAT "WE'RE STILL FRIENDS" S HIT! SHE'D SCREW HIM NOW JUST TO PROVE THAT SHE'S BETTER THAN YOU ( cause you have "her" man) THIS IS JUST MY OPINION THOUGH
2007-09-09 21:16:37 · answer #7 · answered by iLOVE MUSTANGS! 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you must play sort of prank to her.
just to "teach" her perhaps? gd luck! ;]
2007-09-09 21:27:36 · answer #8 · answered by balq1s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋